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My name is Gong Shunming, I am 33 years old this year, and eight years ago, I got married at the age of 25, and I married a girl from our previous village, who was two years younger than me, that is, 23 years old.
At that time, I graduated from technical school and worked in a small factory, just an ordinary small technician, and the salary was very average.
My parents, who used to be from the countryside, went out to run a small supermarket, and made some money at that time, but then they didn't do well, and eventually the supermarket went out of business.
Therefore, although my parents have done business and bought two houses in the county, their money is not easy to come by, and they work in person and are self-employed, so the money they earn is also hard-earned money, and they are ready to use it for retirement.
And in order to marry my wife, the bride price paid is quite a lot, the whole one hundred thousand.
She was a rural girl at the time, and her parents were farming in the village for a living, so she was particularly concerned about money.
My parents used to be farmers, and they came from that village, so they knew her parents and they were both villagers, so there was no estrangement or wariness when they talked about it.
However, her parents seemed to see that my parents valued my marriage very much and only wanted me to marry a good daughter-in-law, because I was an only child, and my parents only gave birth to a son like me, and I became their hope for the inheritance.
Therefore, from the very beginning, her parents have been in the bride price, just want to make a lot of money, at the beginning of the day has already proposed a sky-high price, open the mouth for 150,000 yuan.
In the early years, 150,000 yuan was quite a large amount, and even now, ordinary people only think that it takes a long time to earn it, and it can only be earned by frugality.
My parents were dumbfounded, because although they were able to come up with this money, it was a lifetime of hard work and many years to save it.
And her parents, although the family is very poor, it is estimated that they may not be able to take out 10,000 yuan, but they have such courage to ask for 150,000 yuan at once, which is also convincing and quite angry.
In the end, my parents could see that I liked this girl very much and wanted to marry her as a wife for the rest of my life.
Therefore, they were not angry because the other party proposed such a completely unreasonable sky-high bride price, but calmly bargained.
I proposed to my parents, although I like this girl very much, Liang Ying, but Liang Ying's parents are too much, if you want such a high bride price, you may put forward more requirements for our family in the future, even if I can't find a daughter-in-law, I don't want my parents to spend this unjust money.
But my parents said that I always want to get married, start a family, and have a family, and now no matter what kind of daughter-in-law I marry, I will have to spend this money.
They worry that I will be delayed until I am very old, in my thirties or forties, and I will not be able to get married.
Just because they doted on my son too much, they ended up talking about the bride price, talking about 100,000 yuan.
In fact, this is still a sky-high bride price, and later it was also talked about by the villagers of the previous village, saying that where there is such a big wrong, as soon as it is given, 100,000 yuan will be given as a bride price.
I myself think that this money can't be given so much, because my parents are not very rich, and they still need a sum of money to support the elderly. If I had a choice, I might have to save such a sum of money and not marry Liang Ying.
But my parents definitely don't agree, they just want me to start a family, have a family, and become mature.
I finally married Liang Ying home.
In the past, I fell in love with her, I really didn't think I could have any feelings with her, as a rural girl, all she thought about all day long was how to get out of her poor countryside and then live a better life.
This is also understandable.
After all, everyone wants to live a better life, who wants to be poor all the time, people go to higher places, and water flows to lower places.
And because my family gave so much bride price, she did her duty as a wife, being a housewife at home, mopping the floor every day to clean and hygiene, and cooking for me to eat when I came back from work.
My parents had already bought two small houses many years ago, although they were not large, but they were suitable for a family of two and had no problem having a child, so I didn't have to provide for the house.
This is really thanks to my parents, otherwise, if I marry a daughter-in-law and have to live with my parents, then there may be a lot of incompatibility in life, and the relationship between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not be much better.
And now, my wife and I live in the same house and can live in a world of two, so I don't think she will have any problems with my mother.
But I was wrong, my mother came to the place where Liang Ying and I lived every weekend, as if to check it, and whenever she saw something bad, for example, whether the slippers were put away properly, and where the dishes were generally placed in the refrigerator, she would patiently tell Liang Ying.
When Liang Ying first started, she always obeyed my mother's words, but after all, she was a girl from the countryside, and her life style and ideology were very different from my mother, although my mother was also born in the countryside, but she lived in the city for many years, so she had a lot of concepts and habits of people in the county, and she wanted to pay attention to hygiene and civilization, but Liang Ying didn't seem to listen.
Slowly, my mother felt Liang Ying's dissatisfaction with her, and rarely paid attention to her, anyway, she just looked like she was detached.
And I have been married for three years, Liang Ying and I still have no children, and we have not taken any contraceptive measures, etc., which makes my parents very anxious, but Liang Ying doesn't seem to take this seriously at all, and she likes to play mahjong such a bad habit, often with some neighbors, about to play mahjong together, and don't go home very late, to let me call her home, she reluctantly left.
I worked as a mechanic in the factory for a long time, and later I was promoted to the team leader of the technical repair department, so I had a certain position and my salary was raised.
But my wife Liang Ying and I have been with each other for a long time, aesthetic fatigue, and we both look at each other unpleasantly, and after a long time, there is a lot of life friction, big and small quarrels, all of which ended with my forbearance.
I just feel that in such a marriage, it is getting more and more painful.
The main thing is that I don't have children with her, so I really just feel that even if I put up with her, I need to have a reason, I can put up with her for the sake of the child, but she didn't have children, why should I put up with her?
However, I also took into account my parents, the 100,000 yuan they had saved hard had been given as a bride price, so if I fell out with Liang Ying and finally this marriage failed, wouldn't their 100,000 yuan be in vain?
I asked myself that I was a filial son, and I would always take into account my parents' feelings, so I could only pretend in front of them that Liang Ying and I were still living well and happily, and she and I were still a good couple.
Although Liang Ying quarreled with me, I guess she never thought about divorce.
Because she has no way out, no other choice, if she divorces me, then what else can she do but go back to her rural home and live with her parents?
Although she is beautiful and looks very young, since she has been married once, if she wants to divorce and remarry, she can only let some old men who are much older than her marry her, and men with good conditions will not marry her.
Because of this, even if Liang Ying has no children with me, and is very disagreeable with me, and often quarrels, she still regards this home as home, she doesn't go to work all day long, just playing mahjong and the like.
I endured such a painful marital state for a whole year, and I didn't let my parents see it.
Until one day, my mother, without any mental preparation, looked at me with loving eyes, and then asked me if I was unhappy in life, and if I was unhappy, I had to tell her and my father.
I wanted to hide it at first, but in the end I had to admit that the relationship between me and Liang Ying and her husband was really bad, they quarreled from time to time, and she didn't have children, I faced her all day long, I just felt that there was no hope for marriage, she didn't have a job, and all the family expenses were borne by me.
After hearing this, my mother asked me if I was considering ending this marriage, or should I make it clear to Liang Ying, after all, there is no relationship between me and her husband and wife, and while I am both young now, I can find another one, which is a more suitable choice for her and for me, and it is also a relief.
As soon as I heard my mother's words, I shook my head, and I told her that she and my father had taken out 100,000 yuan of money back then, plus other marriage expenses, which was a very large amount, so I didn't want them to spend this money in vain, after all, I knew that it was impossible to get this money back.
My mother said that she and my father agreed that if I felt unhappy in my marriage, I didn't need to mind, the 100,000 yuan was spent in vain, after all, my life, and my future, is the most important thing, and neither she nor my father will feel sorry for this money.
However, I said that I am still keeping this marriage for the time being, in case one day, Liang Ying can conceive a child for me and give birth to a grandson for them.
But my mother sighed, afraid that if I waited like this, I would eventually become a Dink couple, and as I got older, it would be more difficult to find a suitable one.
I didn't say anything more in the end, because I just thought that even if Liang Ying and I are no longer suitable, at least I still have a wife and am in a state of marriage, if I leave, then it will be difficult for me to find a suitable one, maybe I will always be single.
However, the appearance of a woman made me change this opinion.
In the factory where I work, there is an eldest sister who is two years older than me, named Zhao Min, I call her Sister Min, she is divorced, and she divorced after only one year of marriage.
Because she found out that her husband was gambling outside, which she didn't know before, she finally divorced her husband quite resolutely.
And after she divorced, she was quite lonely and sad every day, which made me feel very pitiful for her, so I comforted her from time to time, and as a result, I talked about some friendship with her.
I sometimes think to myself, if I also divorce Liang Ying, then remarry at the same time as Sister Min, will Sister Min and I feel very happy?
Sister Min would also ask me about the relationship between me and my wife, and I would tell the truth, she was learning that my wife was that kind of woman, and she thought that my wife was not suitable for me and suggested that I find new happiness.
I heard her say this, and I felt the meaning of her words, she actually liked me, and if I divorced my wife, she would be willing to be nice to me.
However, I didn't understand it at that time, because I didn't make up my mind at all, and I didn't think about whether I really and Liang Ying would no longer be husband and wife.
But one day after that, Liang Ying and I had a big quarrel, she threw things and lost her temper with me because of some trivial things, which made me feel unbearable.
After she lost my temper, I calmly said to her, "Let's leave!" ”
She glared at me at the time, thinking that I had said such a thing on the spur of the moment, but slowly she knew that I was not saying it casually, and that I was really going to divorce her.
She seemed to be aware of the seriousness of the problem, so her attitude became more restrained, and she coaxed me in turn, but I was quite determined to divorce her.
But she still treated me as a joke or a joke.
It wasn't until I proposed that if she didn't agree to the divorce, then I would go to her parents, and then ask her parents to come over and talk to my parents and myself, that she knew that I had no room for manoeuvre, and I had made a lot of determination.
But she said to me, if I don't want her, what can she do, she goes back to her parents' home, her parents will no longer support her, she has no job, now I am forcing her to the point of being homeless and living on the streets?
And she thought that my parents and I wanted to return the 100,000 yuan bride price, and she thought that we didn't have to think about it, because it was impossible for her parents to return the money.
I just said that we didn't think about getting back the 100,000 yuan, and this money was regarded as being arched by pigs, I just hoped that she would give up her position and I would marry another woman who could help me have children.
After she finally thought about it and thought about it, she said to me, if I want to divorce her, then our family will give her a youth compensation fee, which will be at least 300,000 yuan.
When I heard this, I couldn't help but sneer, just thinking that she regarded our family as a rich family? Neither my parents nor I have the money.
I told my parents about her request, and my parents only thought that she was really insatiable and made fun of us, how could we get the 300,000 yuan.
However, she put on an uncompromising posture, and if she can't get the 300,000 youth compensation, she will resolutely not divorce or leave our family.
My parents and I really don't know what to do.
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