May affection and love be with you
Marriage, as the most important thing in a person's life, for a woman, can almost be said to be a new birth in a sense, from then on to get rid of the influence of the original family, and the person who loves the most, together with a complete and happy family.
But having said that, it is still impossible to deny that when getting married, the influence of the original family on this small family, some parents in their daughters when they get married, deeply stung the daughter's heart, after marriage, the daughter and the parents relationship was once very stiff.
01 The bride price is 100,000, and the good dowry is all empty
When Chenchen and her boyfriend fell in love and married, according to local customs and customs, the future mother-in-law's family provided a dowry of 150,000 to her mother-in-law's family, although in Chenchen's heart, she resisted this, but in the solemn promise of her parents that she would send the dowry as a dowry to Chenchen's hands when she married in Chenchen, Chenchen felt better in her heart.
The biggest concern of Chen Chen's opposition to this custom was because of his brother. Over the years, in Chen Chen's hometown, Chen Chen saw that many of her sisters' dowry when she got married was left by her parents as a bride price for her brother, although this is a relatively common situation, but in Chen Chen's heart, she has never been able to accept this kind of abandonment of her sister's happiness to fulfill her brother's practice.
As an older sister, you can help your brother in your future life, after all, the days are long, the water is long, but this kind of monopolistic behavior, in exchange for any married woman, will not feel good in her heart.
In addition, the conditions of Chenchen's boyfriend's home are not too good, and the bride price alone almost exhausts all the savings of the boyfriend's family.
Before getting married, Chen Chen had always believed in her parents and believed that they could fulfill their promises and would not give up the happiness of their own daughter.
But on the day of the wedding, on the night of the great joy of the morning morning, chenchen looked at the dowry prepared by his parents for himself, and his heart was full of mixed feelings.
All the dowries added up to a few thousand dollars, and the promise of the parents to bring back the bride price was obviously not fulfilled.
02 Went to his parents to ask for advice, but the parents left the bride price to their brother
The husband saw all this from the side, and he had some mentality in the morning, so he hugged her into his arms and comforted her.
In the local area, the newly married girl can not return to her mother's house for a month, but it is in this month of the in-laws' family, Chen Chen is completely clear, how much the husband's family has paid for marrying himself, just on the third day after marriage, the husband embarked on a journey to go out to work, there is no way, only through part-time work to change the current situation of the family's embarrassment.
But even so, the husband has been persuading Chenchen: It is not easy for your parents to raise you so big, and the bride price should be regarded as filial piety to their second elder.
But Chenchen didn't think so.
A month later, Chenchen returned to his mother's house, and the first thing he did when he returned to his mother's house was to ask his parents why their original promise to them had not been fulfilled.
It seems that Chenchen's parents were already defensive about their daughter's questioning, and Chenchen's mother said: Daughter, your father and I really planned to take the bride price out to you, but we think about it, your brother still wants to marry his daughter-in-law, you know, our family's conditions are not too good, your bride price should help your brother, and when he is married, he will repay you well.
Chen Chen was very aggrieved in her heart, and she said to her parents: Does my brother's marriage require me to bear the burden of being a sister?
The parents no longer spoke, and when she saw that her parents did not feel sorry for herself in the slightest, she was extremely disappointed, and finally left a sentence: I am not your daughter. He turned and left.
03 The mother's family has an affair, ChenChen does not care to ask, the parents are panicked
As the saying goes, it is difficult for a clean official to break the family affairs, not to mention that it is still an ordinary small people.
Since Chenchen returned from her mother's house that time, she never went back to the home where she had lived for more than 20 years, in Chenchen's heart, through the big event of marriage by herself, but she completely recognized her position in the minds of her parents.
Since they don't care about themselves so much, how can they live their lives?
Seeing that their daughter had not returned home for such a long time, Chen Chen's parents panicked.
They made an excuse to call Chenchen, and on the phone, their parents said to Chenchen: When are you coming back, I miss you in my heart.
Hearing his parents' words, Chen Chen was not moved, and the corners of his mouth whispered: I am very busy now, and I will talk about something later. After saying that, Chen Chen hung up the phone.
Chenchen's parents listened to the busy tone on the phone and froze for a while, obviously they already knew Chenchen's meaning very well, and they also clearly understood that their daughter had been completely disappointed in this family.
Wait until Chenchen's brother got married, Chenchen returned to her mother's house once, after all, her brother got married, as an older sister, she had to come forward no matter what, but Chenchen only handed over her gifts, so she found an excuse to go home, and even did not eat a bite of the wedding feast.
For such a long time, Chenchen's parents naturally understood the meaning of their daughters, but they could not do anything, although they were very panicked in their hearts, they were afraid that they would lose a daughter because of this, but in the face of their son's marriage, they still chose to consider their son's future first.
Conclusion: At the beginning of the establishment of a small family, it must be inseparable from the support of two original families, after all, at the beginning, the small family has nothing, and the situation may slowly improve over time.
But if one family has not paid for the new couple's small family, then the life between the husband and wife must be extremely difficult. As a husband and wife, when faced with the inaction of the original family, anger is naturally inevitable. Even because of this, he got into trouble with his parents, which obviously outweighed the losses.
As a parent, it is the most correct approach to be clear and impartial.