The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth exists in the heart
Everyone wants to have a happy and harmonious family relationship, motherly kindness and filial piety, husband and wife love, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along with each other is not much trouble, the family can gather around the dinner table, happy and harmonious chat about some homely things.
This should be the most anticipated family mode of most wives, but in reality, many family members often have intricate relationships, and there will always be various contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
If there are more family members, it is almost difficult for the mother-in-law to achieve a bowl of water flat, if it is inadvertently biased against a party, the snubbed party will naturally think more in his heart, when this "unintentional" turns into "intentional", family conflicts will arise.
01 After getting married, I found that my mother-in-law was always partial to my sister-in-law's family
"I have only heard of patriarchal families, but I have never heard that as a mother-in-law, she would deliberately favor her own daughter and ignore her son's family."
Kiki is 28 years old this year, although she is not very old, but she is already the mother of a 5-year-old child.
Yes, she married her husband at the age of 23, and because Kiki was very young at that time, even in the environment of her hometown, she was an early generation to marry. Before getting married, Kiki's parents were worried that Kiki would because of her young age and ignorance, and after marriage, she would be angry with her mother-in-law in case of a contradiction with her mother-in-law, so before Kiki was married, her parents did a lot of ideological work on Kiki, the most critical of which was: in the in-laws' family, we must have a good relationship with our mother-in-law, and the mother-in-law is equivalent to her own mother-in-law, and she must be treated well.
Kiki kept these words told her parents to herself, and after marrying into her in-laws' house, she changed her previous temper at home and became much gentler and gentler.
But as she spends more time with her mother-in-law, Kiki finds that no matter how intimate she is with her mother-in-law, she is still an outsider in front of her daughter, and no matter what good things her mother-in-law has, the first thing she thinks of is her daughter.
Kiki can only comfort herself as much as possible: as a mother, this is also the common sentiment of human beings.
02 With the birth of the child, Kiki finally decided not to be patient anymore
Soon, the sister-in-law also married to another place, the sister-in-law left, the mother-in-law's attention finally shifted to the Kiki family, at this time, it happened that Kiki also had a child, and later after the careful care of the mother-in-law, Kiki had a big fat boy.
After a long few months of getting along, Kiki changed her previous prejudice against her mother-in-law, and Kiki thought that perhaps the mother-in-law had considered that her sister-in-law would leave the house for a while, so she loved her so much.
But unexpectedly, during Kiki's confinement period, the sister-in-law suddenly called her mother-in-law, saying that she was living a relatively poor life after getting married, hoping that her mother-in-law could take care of her for a while.
As soon as the mother-in-law heard that the sister-in-law's situation was so difficult, she agreed without saying a word, and the mother-in-law did not care about Kiki, who was in a critical period, and left in a hurry, "Let the mother-in-law take care of you for a while."
Only at this time did Kiki completely understand that her daughter-in-law could not compare with the position of the sister-in-law in her mother-in-law's heart no matter what.
The mother-in-law's uneven behavior of a bowl of water completely made Kiki wake up, she looked at her child and decided not to be patient anymore.
After the mother-in-law returned from the sister-in-law's house, Kiki and her mother-in-law talked about their hearts once, and Kiki said: Mom, I don't care what kind of mentality you had towards me before, but since you have a grandson, no matter what happens in the future, you have to have a bowl of water to be flat, and you can't deliberately favoritism.
The mother-in-law seemed to owe something to Kiki in her heart, and after hearing Kiki's words, she did not make any explanation, but just agreed to come down.
03 The child is handed over to the mother-in-law, the nephew eats fish, and the son drinks porridge
In the blink of an eye, a few years have passed, once, Kiki and her husband because of the busy work, they handed over the child to the mother-in-law to take care of, just at that time the children of the sister-in-law's family were also in the mother-in-law's home, Kiki thought, one child is to take care of, two is also to take care of, just let the mother-in-law look at the two children together.
Originally Kiki was going to be busy for half a month, but then received an advance notice from the leader, ten days of work has basically ended, ten days have not seen the child, Kiki naturally missed a lot in her heart, so after busy work, she immediately rushed back home.
Before going home, Kiki did not talk to her mother-in-law on the phone, and when she arrived at the door, it was already noon, and after pushing open the door, Kiki saw that her nephew, the child of the sister-in-law's family, and her own children were eating together, and when she saw the food on the table, Kiki was stunned.
In front of his nephew was a fish, while his own child was drinking porridge with a bowl.
When the child saw Kiki return, he shouted "Mother" and ran to Kiki, and the mother-in-law who was busy in the kitchen also came out, but when she saw Kiki's eyes staring at the table, the mother-in-law's voice was a little embarrassed: Daughter-in-law, don't misunderstand, after all, your nephew is a guest, eating some good is also deserved, this is not, the kitchen still has unfinished dishes, I have not served it yet.
With the mother-in-law for such a long time, how can Kiki not know the mother-in-law's personality, but Kiki did not think that the mother-in-law was eccentric to herself, and it was also eccentric in the child.
Kiki didn't say anything more, turned around and picked up the child and went back to her house.
Since then, Kiki has never let her mother-in-law see the child once, even if she is busy, the child is always by her side.
Conclusion: As the saying goes: the palms of the hands and the backs of the hands are meat, as a mother-in-law, although it can not be absolutely fair, but always do not bad, if because of partiality and do not care about the mood of the children, the favored party will not say more, but the snubbed party will naturally not have too much intersection with it, and eventually the family relationship will become intricate and not the original harmony.