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Every girl fantasizes about a good marriage, a happy family before marriage.
But reality is reality after all, and it still cannot escape the wind and rain and obstacles in the future.
The girl in the next case, after marriage, found the greed and unreasonableness of the in-laws, and finally decided to protect her own interests.
Jiang Xiaohui has been married for two years, but her husband Xie Rui still can't shoulder the responsibilities of the family.
When I first got married, it was the marriage room sent by Jiang Xiaohui's father. And Xie Rui's salary is not much, so he can't afford to support his family.
Although Jiang Xiaohui came from a single-parent family, her father made a lot of money by doing building materials business, so that she has always lived a worry-free life.
Later, I met Xie Rui in college and got married after graduation. Although the man's conditions are not very good, Jiang's father still let his daughter marry the scenery.
Jiang's father can earn millions a year and invest in some houses, so he transferred two sets of houses for his daughter as a dowry.
A large set of two hundred square meters is used for marriage, and a small set of ninety square meters can be rented.
This does not include his passbook for Jiang Xiaohui, and even the in-laws are stunned by these super dowries.
Xie Rui's mother was not to mention how satisfied she was with this family affair.
You must know that her family also has a young son, and it has been difficult to support two children over the years, and who has the ability to help them buy a house and get married.
When she learned that Jiang's father paid back a subsidy of 10,000 yuan every month, she was even more energetic to chew his son's tongue.
She taught her son to find a way to get some of the ten thousand yuan of subsidies into his own pocket.
Even if you fish for five thousand pieces, it will be quite a lot over the years.
At first, Xie Rui was still a little hesitant, because it was the private money that his father-in-law gave to his daughter-in-law, and besides, the family's expenses had always been the responsibility of the daughter-in-law.
Now let him ask for money with his face, he always feels a little inferior in his heart.
But his mother brainwashed him every day, and said that the family was already difficult, and it was only natural for the mother-in-law to spend some of her daughter-in-law's money.
After a few months, Xie Rui also began to waver. He began to completely side with his mother, secretly trying to find a way to get money from his wife.
Xie Rui bought some handsome clothes under the guidance of his mother, and also learned to cook to please his wife.
Sure enough, Jiang Xiaohui was touched by her husband's intentions, and the feelings of the husband and wife were getting better and better.
When the time was ripe, Xie Rui began to cry poorly, and every three to five years he asked his wife for some money.
His goal was to get at least five thousand spare money from his wife.
Over the past few months, he has successively obtained a lot of money by relying on flattery and affection.
He gave the money to his mother, and the old lady turned around and gave it to her young son who was far away.
This arrangement is very satisfactory for the old lady, and it is really cost-effective to spend the daughter-in-law's money to raise the young son.
Just when Xie Rui's family was proud of the success of the plan, Jiang Xiaohui's father sensed that something was wrong.
It turned out that he found that his daughter asked for money more often, sometimes even more than 20,000 yuan a month.
So he took an opportunity to ask his daughter: "Xiao Hui, is it not enough to spend ten thousand yuan a month after you are married, and you have to tell your father where you spend it." ”
The simple Jiang Xiaohui answered truthfully, saying that her husband was tight on hand, and she gave some money from time to time.
The father, who had been groping for half a lifetime, thought about it carefully and said, "That's not right, he doesn't smoke or drink, you don't have children, what can he spend?" ”
As he spoke, he fell silent, and then his eyes narrowed slowly again...
Jiang's father didn't say anything at the time, but took his daughter to the bank a few days later to open a secondary card.
He told his daughter to swipe all the expenses so he could know where the money was spent.
Sure enough, this trick made Xie Rui's family no longer get money cheap, and also made Jiang Xiaohui have a little enlightenment.
After the failure of the money-making plan, Xie Rui's mother slept much worse, even to the point of needing sleeping pills.
Later, after the younger son talked about his girlfriend in a foreign country, he was even more noisy to ask the family to buy him a house and get married.
Xie Rui's parents are small workers, and they have not had 300,000 in the family for most of their lives.
Therefore, this time the matter of the young son's marriage room once again made them play Jiang Xiaohui's idea.
The old lady knew that Xiaohui also had a dowry house, which was located in the central area of the city, so she encouraged her son to find Xiaohui to ask for it.
Xie Rui told Xiao Hui about this matter with a stiff scalp, and the stupid Xiao Hui actually said to consider it.
Although she had no idea, she would ask her father about anything.
After Jiang's father knew the idea of his daughter's in-laws to fight the house, he took his daughter's house book and asked his daughter to directly reject such a thing.
Jiang's father also said to his daughter: "Silly boy, I really spoiled you, why don't you know that people's hearts are sinister." Why should we give our house to others, and you will have to use your own brain when you encounter these things in the future. ”
After jiang Xiaohui's father's several clicks, she slowly became clear about her in-laws' intentions.
So after she returned home, she seriously refused the request of her in-laws.
After Xie Rui told his mother the result of the failure, the old lady prepared to go out on the horse herself.
She deliberately called Xiaohui to the house, and also made a large table of good dishes, at the dinner table she took advantage of the good atmosphere and said: "Xiaohui, my mother discussed something with you, you see you have a house, can you give Xie Rui's brother a marriage, anyway, the room is idle." ”
Jiang Xiaohui had her father's previous teachings, and she said firmly: "Mom, Fang Ben is not in my place, although it is in my name, but it is actually my father who decides." Besides, my dad wasn't obligated to raise your two sons. ”
This obviously said that Xie Rui was eating soft rice, and the old lady who choked could not say a word.
After the meal, Jiang Xiaohui went home and told her father what had happened, and also expressed her anger.
She also did not expect that her mother-in-law could ask her for a house, coupled with the previous cheating of her money, she decided that she would not have a household in the future.
In the future, the utilities and utilities are all paid by the husband, and her own expenses are also borne by the husband.
If the husband does not make money and does not change, then she is better off not married.
After this housing incident, Xie Rui's life is not good, without the subsidy of his wife's mother's family, he can only work hard to make more money...
The husband and mother-in-law in the case set traps again and again in the soft rice, and finally moved the stone and smashed their feet.
This tells us that marriage should not only treat each other with sincerity, but also keep the following two lessons in mind.
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One: A good marriage can cross people to the other shore, and a bad marriage will drag people into a sea of suffering.
The quality of marriage can directly affect a woman's fate.
Therefore, thousands of women are so cautious when choosing a partner, hoping to get the best of their best.
Sometimes they will not be too demanding, maybe as long as they can give more love and more care.
But the cruelty of reality will always hit some people, so that they can see the ugliness of human nature and show the embarrassment of life in marriage.
If the heroine in the case does not have a wise father sitting behind her back, then her ending may be more tragic.
Know that a good marriage can cross people to the other shore, and a bad marriage will drag people into a sea of suffering.
Therefore, women after marriage, they still have to pick up the spirit to judge, do not fall deeper and deeper in the wrong relationship.
Sometimes the scary thing is not that you meet the wrong person, but that you are counted in it without knowing it.
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Two: Women must remember not to take on the responsibilities that their husbands should bear.
The kindness and beauty of women do not actually apply to unqualified husbands.
Because of your generosity and responsibility, the irresponsible husband loses the sense of urgency of the family.
Thus slacking off on yourself, just thinking of getting something for nothing, and living a small life leisurely.
This kind of lazy thinking is inextricably linked to the wife.
Imagine if you did what your husband was supposed to do, then he naturally lost motivation and pressure.
Therefore, the heroine in the case, finally let her husband bear the family expenses is something that should be done long ago.
Because men and women have different divisions of labor and responsibilities in marriage and family.
Once anyone crosses the distance or does not act, that is when the relationship between the two people is unstable.
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The combination of two people is a fortunate and happy thing.
Unfortunately, some people have added utilitarianism and calculation to it.
So much so that the marriage has been a chicken feather, and the life is not the same.
Text/No Pen