Knowles once said: "Marriage is not a lottery ticket, even if you lose, you can't tear it up." "Marriage is a big deal, a top priority, a lifetime of happiness, delivered to it." The order of the parents, the words of the matchmaker, no emotion, life is boring. When encountering people, the three views are different, each of them is released, the pursuit of life, and the beauty of being alone.
Nowadays, for most young people, marriage is both a beautiful and complicated thing. The good thing is of course that you can live with the person you like, and the complexity is all kinds of trivial things to face after marriage. Marriage is the most important thing in everyone's life, and if the partner is not chosen correctly, it means that the second half of life may have to be spent unsatisfactory.
Some couples, although on the surface seem to be Qinser and Ming, but the actual life is only clear to themselves. There was once a couple who had been married for more than thirty years and had never slept together, let alone had children. And their strange way of getting along is also very confusing to the world, and it is not until many years later that people understand the reason, perhaps this is the case in marriages without emotional basis.
That couple is Su Xuelin and Zhang Baoling in the Republic of China period, what kind of story is behind the two of them?
Su Xuelin is known as "Su Xiaomei of the Republic of China" and is also a talented woman. At the end of the nineteenth century, Su Xuelin was born in Zhejiang, and his family conditions were not bad.
But at that time, traditional ideas were still deeply rooted in people's hearts, and everyone generally thought that women's learning was useless. Therefore, despite the conditions permitting, Su Xuelin was not allowed to go to school. If it had been in an earlier period, perhaps Su Xuelin would have been gradually cultivated by the family into a big girl. But at that time, Western ideas poured into the mainland in large numbers, and there was a fierce collision with traditional cultural ideas. Influenced by Western thought, Su Xuelin is not willing to accept the status quo and wants to become a woman in the new era through reading and find a way out for herself.
Therefore, under the strong pleading of Su Xuelin, she successfully entered the private school at the age of 7, and later entered the local teachers' college with excellent results. After graduating from the academy, Su Xuelin had reached the age of talking about marriage, and if he did not marry as soon as possible, he would be gossiped about by others. At that time, women were often arranged by their parents to marry in their teens, and they could not dominate their own lives at all.
Su Xuelin was naturally unwilling to accept such an arrangement and decided to study in France. During this period, the Su family once chose a husband for her, who was also a rich man and studied in the United States. The two people who looked across the Atlantic Ocean could only communicate through letters, but Su Xuelin found that the other party did not agree with his three views, and he wanted to push back the marriage contract.
There was no way, the family had to lie that her mother was seriously ill, tricked Su Xuelin into returning to China, and in the end she still did not escape the arranged marriage. In this way, Su Xuelin and Zhang Baoling, two young people who had never met before, came together, there was no emotional basis between them, plus both of them were young people in the new era, so they would not force each other, and they have been living in the name of husband and wife.
Since then, due to the impact of the war, many colleges and universities have temporarily moved to the southwest region, and Zhang Baoling has also been invited to teach at the new campus of Wuhan University, because his wife Su Xuelin is also there. But it wasn't long before the students noticed an interesting phenomenon, that although the two teachers were husband and wife, they only ate together and did not live together, and the two of them lived like this for thirty-six years.
It is worth mentioning that Su Xuelin has literary literacy, while Zhang Baoling is a typical science student, and two people can always collide with different sparks in life. One day, Su Xuelin looked at the full moon in the sky and sighed that the moon was very round, who knew that Zhang Baoling blurted out, claiming that he did not plan a circle with a circle. In this way, it naturally broke all of Su Xuelin's interest, feeling that he and the person in front of him did not have a common language, let alone understand romance.
In addition, Su Xuelin once asked Zhang Baoling to help her trim her hair, and this person actually took out a bowl directly, buckled it on Zhang Baoling's head, and then trimmed it sequentially along the edge of the bowl. As a result, it can be imagined that this is the life of the two of them together, living apart for many years, and having no children, presumably for a certain reason.
However, these things are only clear to the two of them themselves, and outsiders do not understand them, only when the two people live in discord. These things were not revealed until Su Xuelin was 102 years old and was revealed in an interview. Indeed, it is not easy for two people who have no emotional foundation to live together, and it is not easy to be able to do like the two of them, so why would they ask for more?
From another point of view, Su Xuelin and Zhang Baoling are very good people, they all have the experience of studying abroad, no matter what era they look like rare talents. Unfortunately, suffering from arranged marriages, the lives of the two were forcibly tied together. If the two of them lived today, they might be different, and they wouldn't have left this interesting but worth pondering story.