Go home for a reunion during the Spring Festival
It is a happy moment that many people have been looking forward to for a year
But "soul torture" from relatives and friends
"Do you have a marriage partner?"
"Dabao is so big
When to give TA a younger siblings? ”
"How's the industry you work in?
Has there been a wage increase? ”
It can feel overwhelming
This also makes the Spring Festival a psychological burden for many people
So, can you have a good year during the Spring Festival?
Much depends
Have mastered the skills to communicate with friends and family
Netizens summarized the questions frequently asked by relatives during the Spring Festival
Mainly focused on academic performance, salary bonuses
Urging marriage, buying a house, having children and other major life events
In fact, the breakthrough point of communication is mainly understanding
Before the elders understand us
We need to understand them first
After all, young people have stronger psychological plasticity
It's much easier for us to switch perspectives than they are
Face the necessary questions for parents and other elders for the Spring Festival
Different responses can be taken depending on the situation
Diversion method
Before visiting the elders who usually like to ask questions, we can ask our parents about each other's recent situation and take the initiative to care about their life events: physical health, the development of children and grandchildren. At this time, we only need to be a quiet listener, if we can also give positive feedback in time, the effect will be better~
Truthful intellectualism
For elders who seem to have good career development and family relationship management, we can ask each other how to plan their careers in the past and how to deal with interpersonal relationships in the workplace when they ask each other about their work and whether they have a marriage partner, and elders often have a lot of life experience to teach to younger generations. If the elder asks about the status of the marriage, you can ask the other person how to get along with the opposite sex and how to manage a long-term and stable intimate relationship.
"You're right" law
When elders begin to ask questions, first thank them for their concern. Even if you dare not agree in your heart, in order to avoid a protracted war, you must follow them as much as possible, such as: "Uh-huh"; "That's right, that's right"; "The object is, of course, what is to be found"; "I think so"; "I understand, I understand, I know, you are anxious because you care about me, and you will work hard this year"; The core purpose is to express that you know their painstaking efforts.
"Bitter Meat Meter"
For elders who like to inquire about salary income and workplace development, we can start first and complain: due to various practical factors, the work development is not satisfactory. Take the lead in self-reflection and evaluation, and disclose the bitterness of working and living alone in a timely manner. In this way, the elders probably could not bear to say bad things, but comforted and encouraged us instead.
"Pretending to be deaf and dumb" method
When relatives ask questions that make them feel uncomfortable, instead of making the atmosphere awkward, it is better to turn a deaf ear at the right time haha. Although escape is not the best way, it is better than hurting your feelings without saying a word, getting no response all the time, and the other party will not always be bored with themselves. "Selective attention", "intermittent deafness", and "persistent deafness" are the basic "survival routines".
In fact, during the Spring Festival, I faced various inquiries from my elders
We don't have to be too pushy
Just imagine
You don't see each other all year round
Occasionally saw a few greetings
It's not that the other person cares about us
Many times relatives frequently ask this and that
Also just to avoid the embarrassment of having nothing to say
Face routine concerns and inquiries
Respond appropriately
It is also an opportunity to strengthen our relationship with each other
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