Women who have actually experienced marriage know that marriage is not as simple as it seems

For those women who are still in love, they often have unlimited beautiful imaginations about marriage, even if there are more people to keep their sanity, after all, marriage is not a matter of two people, involving too much, not so simple.

But in their eyes, as long as there is love for each other, and they know how to respect their elders, especially if they learn to bow their heads, there is no problem that cannot be solved.

In their view, bowing down is an ability, it is not inferiority, it is not cowardice, it is a transformation in sobriety, sometimes, a slight bowing of the head, or our life path will be more exciting.

But in fact, only women who have really experienced marriage will know that marriage is not as simple as it seems on the surface, and that just the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can make many people helpless.

And generally after marriage, women who can be looked up to by their mother-in-law often have these three characteristics.

1. Independence

Most mothers-in-law, the reason why they look down on their daughters-in-law, everywhere in life is picky about each other, a considerable part of the reason is that women do not work, or rely on their husbands to live.

Perhaps as far as husband and wife are concerned, it does not matter who earns more and who earns less, but in the eyes of the mother-in-law, this is not the case, because in their view, once a woman does not work or needs to rely on her son for life, she will invisibly increase the pressure on her son, and as a mother, she will naturally feel pain.

In addition to the pain, it will also make the mother-in-law have a feeling of superiority, thinking that the daughter-in-law who has no income or has a meager income climbs his home, and over time he looks down on the daughter-in-law more and more.

Therefore, no matter what the economic conditions after marriage, we must be financially independent, do not easily try to be a housewife, have our own financial resources, and ensure that even if there is no husband, we will not let our lives plummet.

2. Have an opinion

In life, many women are more dependent on men or the elders in the family, perhaps in some small things, they can make up their own minds, but if they encounter big things, they will immediately panic and have no master.

In the eyes of men, this kind of woman is not bad, you can make them feel that they are needed, not dispensable, but in the eyes of the mother-in-law, this is not the case.

In their view, a woman who is too dependent on her son and has no opinion is disgusting to them, because it means that a large part of the pressure of future life will be on her son's body, and it is also a manifestation of weakness, such a daughter-in-law is not liked by them.

Therefore, if you want to let your mother-in-law look up to yourself, you must learn to make yourself become assertive, don't let others take the initiative in everything, and learn to think actively.

In fact, a person who has no opinion often does not know what they want, most of their lives are also in confusion, and once they know what they want, they will naturally become assertive, life will suddenly be open, and everything will become different.

3. Intelligence

Everyone's intelligence is different, some people's intelligence is reflected in reading, they can easily get scores that are difficult for others to achieve, and various famous universities are also within their reach.

And some people, although they are not very good at reading, are very clever in the hands-on matter, and all kinds of exquisite handicraft items can be made by dividing two by three times and five.

There are also some people who are very artistically gifted, they can always find beauty that others can't see, and they have their own experience in color, composition, etc.

Simply put, smart people are those who have their own area of expertise and can get a certain harvest in it, and such people are often easy to admire.

Perhaps because of identity, even if a woman is intelligent, the mother-in-law may not have admiration for her, but she will definitely look up to her.

This kind of high-mindedness may not be expressed directly through words, but it will make you feel that your mother-in-law's attitude towards you is different at the details of life, in her heart, you are not useless, she can see your differences and excellence.

In fact, whether it is independent, assertive or intelligent, it is not necessarily to be able to make the mother-in-law look up at herself, take ten thousand steps back, even if there is no mother-in-law, women with these three characteristics will often live a more comfortable and beautiful life.

Presumably the reason everyone has guessed, to become an excellent person, the first and most important beneficiary is everyone themselves, many people have been complaining about social injustice, unfair fate, but never seriously look at what they have done.

If you have seriously thought about this problem, you will find that a little more effort every day is not for anything else, just to be able to choose a way of living that you like in the future.

The world is very fair, in addition to those things we can not choose, as long as you are willing to work hard, you will definitely gain, whether it is marriage or life, never treat anyone who works hard.