The greatest joy of being a father is that in his lifetime, he can be inspired and educated according to the path he has traveled.
And as us, the greatest luck is to be able to meet our own nobles in our lifetime, because this is a key to changing our destiny, of course, this also requires our own hard work.
The children have become talents one after another, and the father's guilt is stuck in his heart
The 63-year-old Li Xiangzhi is an authentic farmer in Chenzhou, Hunan Province, the eldest brother deaf and mute disabled all his life has not been married, life is all up to Li Xiangzhi alone, 28 years ago, Li Xiangzhi's ex-wife died of illness, he took three young children and the eldest brother to live together.
A few years later, Li Xiangzhi married his current wife Li Shuiying with three daughters, just like this, a special family of nine was formed, and now more than 20 years later, Li Xiangzhi's 6 children of different bloodlines have grown up, and each has its own career, not only that, but also a small achievement.
Logically, Li Xiangzhi and his wife should also enjoy their old age, but in fact, the old couple has been separated for up to 10 years, because his wife has suffered from rheumatoid arthritis for more than 20 years, needs to use a wheelchair, and it is not convenient to live in the village to see a doctor, so he lives in Chenzhou City's daughter, and Li Xiangzhi does not seem to be happy, and seems to be very worried.
From Li Xiangzhi's mouth, it was learned that his three stepdaughters, Li Xiaoling, graduated from the Institute of Biology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences with a master's degree, the second eldest, Li Dongdong, graduated from Beijing Normal University, the third Li Xiaoyu graduated from Harvard University in the United States, the eldest Li Xiaoling was the first college student in the village, and the second eldest Li Dongdong and the third Li Xiaoyu were the college entrance examination winners of that year, and the future can be described as bright.
Speaking of this, Li Xiangzhi is very guilty, he took his ex-wife's ID card photo to express his regret for his ex-wife, because his stepdaughters have gone to college one after another, his energy is also limited, and his energy is also scattered, resulting in his three children are all junior high school graduates, and now the eldest daughter Li Haiying is doing small business in Jiahe, and the two sons are doing express delivery business in Guangzhou.
Although the three children are now also free of food and clothing, but in his old father's heart is still full of guilt, it turns out that Li Xiangzhi is a "veteran high school student", graduated from high school in 1975, once served as a village director in the village, a township people's congress deputy, he firmly believes that everything is the only way to read high.
But the education level of the biological children and the stepdaughter is far from the same, which has become the biggest knot in Li Xiangzhi's heart, in Li Xiangzhi's view, if there were not so many stepdaughters at the beginning, even if his three children studied poorly, then he would also spend money to continue to let the three children study, and it was absolutely impossible to only let them graduate from junior high school.
"Encouraging House Rules"
When Li Xiangzhi also told about his past, it turned out that after the death of his ex-wife, when Li Xiangzhi remarried with his current wife Li Shuiying, Li Shuiying only took one youngest daughter, who was only 5 years old at the time, looking very thin, and soon after their grandfather sent two children, that is, the eldest stepdaughter and the second stepdaughter, when the eldest was seven or eight years old, and the second was 6 years old.
After entering the door, the wife let the two children ask him to call him Daddy, Li Xiangzhi heard this father's heart is also sour, because the two children are also skinny, look very pitiful, from their eyes Li Xiangzhi also saw the meaning of special wanting him to take in, in the face of this situation, Li Xiangzhi accepted them, in Li Xiangzhi's words, looking at them so pitiful, who may accept them.
In this way, they formed a special family of 9, and this scene has also become a turning point in the lives of the three sisters, but with it is also the biggest hardship in life, because 6 children of similar age, three junior high school, three primary school, and then high school, in the eighties, the children's annual tuition and miscellaneous fees were nearly 6,000 yuan, which is equivalent to the total income of Li Xiangzhi's family for a year.
In order to encourage children to learn, Li Xiangzhi also set a family rule, that is, as long as anyone studies well, they can go to the second year of junior high school without doing housework, let alone working in the field, if they go to high school, then it is good to study specifically, do not spend time on family affairs.
Still that sentence, Li Xiangzhi was also born by reading, he understands that learning pressure is very high, there is no need to focus on useless things, which will only distract children's energy from reading, he hopes that children can rely on reading to change their fate.
But the children do not work, in order to maintain the family's livelihood, but also in order to let the family can eat, Li Xiangzhi, who was originally an agricultural technician in the township, with excellent agricultural skills and the spirit of hard-working, undertook 12 acres of rice fields, planting vegetables, planting rice, making seeds, and there was no leisure time all year round, after all, at that time, it was necessary to rely on manual work, unlike now there are machines to harvest and sow seeds.
A family of nine only ate rice after 2002, before due to lack of food are eating sweet potato rice, although the days are bitter, but Li Xiangzhi never thought of letting any of the children drop out of school and go home, now 6 children have become a family and a rich life, but the couple chose to live in two places, but also estrangement, and Li Xiangzhi has never revealed his heart knot to his wife.
So what is the attitude of Li Xiangzhi's wife, Li Shuiying, and have their own children ever resented his father?
On the weekend, Li Xiangzhi came to the home of Li Xiaoling, his daughter in Chenzhou City, to visit his wife, and when he saw the arrival of her husband, Li Shuiying was happy like a child, she said that her husband could come to accompany me, and I was very happy, but Li Xiangzhi on the side said that the only person who had a wife in his eyes did not develop.
Li Shuiying frankly said that she is a bitter woman, her ex-husband is addicted to gambling and domestic violence, so she chose to divorce with three daughters, fortunately met Li Xiangzhi such a husband, she also fell in love with Li Xiangzhi at first sight, when she first met Li Xiangzhi, she liked him a little, thinking that he looked very good, people were kind, and then found someone to introduce him to walk with Li Xiangzhi.
Li Shuiying's words are very dependent on her husband, she also wants to live with her husband, does not want to live in her daughter's place, but she does not know why her husband has to live separately from her, this sentence also reveals Li Shuiying's complaints, but at this time, Li Xiangzhi, who has a heart knot, is tightly locked, and he hopes that his wife can continue to stay in the home of his eldest daughter Li Xiaoling on the grounds that he is busy with work.
Do biological children have resentment towards their fathers?
Then the mediator came alone to the home of Li Xiangzhi's eldest daughter Li Haiying, who followed the people in the village to Jiahe to do small business after graduating from junior high school, and now she has settled in Jiahe County, she is also the closest one to her father, she will also go back to visit her father every weekend, and his father will come to visit her when he is free.
Li Haiying now also has three children, one of which is about to take the college entrance examination, and Li Xiangzhi is also very attentive, often coming to enlighten his grandchildren not to be nervous.
But did he ever resent his father? Li Haiying bluntly said that when he was a child, he did resent why his father wanted to marry a stepmother with so many children, which caused the burden on the originally not rich family to be heavier, and they could not eat enough.
But later Li Haiying also figured out, why didn't a person whose father was so good support his father's choice? Once she also asked her father if it was worth it to raise three sisters who were not related by blood? The father's answer is worth it, whether it is his own child or not, as long as the child who can read needs encouragement, not to mention that the mother of the family is still married to him.
Recalling the past, Li Haiying shed happy tears, because she was the largest child in the family, from childhood is also the most working child, now the memory is that that time was really bitter, the family can not eat enough, the occasional quarrel is also who has an extra piece of meat in the bowl, but now that I think about it, it becomes sweet, because at that time everyone was very happy, although the meal was not good, but the food was very fragrant, and the dumb uncle would catch wild fish for them to eat at that time.
Li Haiying said that she loves this father very much, and her father gave her the motherly love and fatherly love she deserves, including now her father will not call her by her name, it is called daughter, and she is proud to have such a father.
Knowing her father's knot, Li Haiying cried even more sadly, she knew that her father was the same for the six children, and her father hoped that they could study well, but she and her brother were not admitted to college, and they never resented their father.
Because Li Haiying's work was very hard before, the time is also very rushed, whenever I see this, my father will always tell her, at that time, let you read more books, maybe it will not be so bitter, but in Li Haiying's view, although her life is not so rich, but it is not too bitter, that is, her father thinks too much, and reading is not what he wants to read, his IQ is only so much, this can not be changed.
Li Haiying said that his father never revealed his heart knot to them, just like they never wanted to resent their father, everyone is caring for each other in their own way, and now the relationship between the 6 sisters is also very good, and they will contact each other when they have time, but her sister who works in the United States does not often come back, but she also cares about this family, and learns that her brother got married and had a child, and she also sent milk powder back.
Once a family of nine, now scattered in the north and south of the world, for their own lives and running, but parents have become their biggest concern, parents worry about their children, children also understand their father, although they can't come back in the field, they often send some daily necessities to their father, Li Haiying will also buy some clothes and quilts for his father.
Knowing the voice of his daughter Li Haiying, the mediator also relayed the words to Li Xiangzhi, he was relieved, Li Xiangzhi happily pointed to the second floor of his home and said that this was built for him by his son, it cost about 600,000 yuan, the three stepdaughters were smart and clever, and his own children were also reasonable, which made him extremely pleased, once a special family of nine in the village, now envy others.
In fact, parents want their children to be outstanding, but ten fingers are not the same length, as long as children live happily, why not be a kind of happiness?
The stepdaughter's gratitude to her father
And for Li Xiangzhi's efforts, the eldest stepdaughter Li Xiaoling is also very grateful, now she is working in the Chenzhou government, she frankly said that there is no father's encouragement and support, then there is no three of their sisters' achievements today, if the father does not support, then they may go out to work in junior high school.
Because in Li Xiaoling's impression, in addition to her being the first to be admitted to high school and college, there are two younger sisters in their village, most of the rest have not been admitted to high school, one is not able to pass the examination, the other is that the idea of son preference in the village in that era is also very serious, girls generally go out to work in junior high school, even if the family conditions are much better than them, and finally did not go to high school, and their family is also the poorest family in the village.
Li Xiaoling said that she was fortunate to meet such a father to have the opportunity to let their three sisters change their fate with knowledge, when their father encouraged them to study and study, and their biggest motivation was to be admitted to high school without working in the field, such a simple wish made them work harder and more excited.
When Li Xiaoling learned of her father's heart knot, she said that she could understand that it was normal for her father to have such a thought, after all, her father had also paid a lot for their three sisters, if there were no three of them, her father's own children would have eaten enough and gone to school, after all, there was no need to give their energy to them, nor to give them three to eat, and what they could do now was to be grateful to their father.
Speaking of this, Li Xiangzhi but also hurt li Xiaoyu who is working overseas, happy that she is developing outside, unhappy that she is too far from home, and the work looks very hard, because her appearance and age are a bit inconsistent, but Li Xiaoling hopes that her father will not worry, in fact, everyone is living very well, that is, her sister is writing code, and the pressure may be very large.
Li Xiangzhi felt that all this was blamed on his wife for blocking his ideas, it turned out that Li Xiangzhi had long planned for the future of the three stepdaughters, the eldest daughter Li Xiaoling was simple and down-to-earth suitable for the civil servant examination, and it was good to stay by her mother's side, and it was good to have a care, while the third daughter, Li Xiaoyu, was meticulous and meticulous, and was a good student in the province, with high ideological awareness, and should be admitted to the military academy, and the second daughter Li Dongdong was lively and cheerful and could engage in educational work.
Now the eldest daughter and the second daughter are according to his plan, but the third daughter's wife said that the military school was too bitter, and now the third daughter has run so far, it seems to be more bitter.
At this time, Li Haiying sent a video to his father, which means that he is now a wife and a mother, growing up to know his parents' kindness, not understanding things from childhood, growing up knowing things, in a word, home and everything, never blamed the father, always love the father, the father is hard.
This is the first time that the children face their father's knot, this is also the first time Li Xiangzhi heard the children's understanding in person, the closest family always has some unspeakable hearts, Li Shuiying is also very grateful to Li Xiangzhi, and finally Li Xiangzhi also made a decision, when the village epidemic prevention work is busy, he will take his wife home, accompany his wife more, and when he is old, he will be a kite flyer at home, but the end of the line is always their life watch.
The story is written here is also over, I have to say that Li Xiangzhi is an admirable person, but also so far I have seen the most successful stepfather, or that sentence, as a father, the greatest pleasure is that in his lifetime, according to the path he has traveled to inspire and educate his children.
In fact, Li Xiangzhi's mood can also be understood, after all, he is a father full of hope for reading, trained three stepdaughters to become graduate students of famous schools, but his children are a junior high school student, Li Xiangzhi's heart can be imagined to be mixed, he is afraid that his children will complain, more worried that children will say that he is eccentric, but what he did not expect is that the children also inherited his kindness and generosity.
What makes Li Xiangzhi and his wife more pleased is that now the 6 children get along very well, paying half a lifetime of energy and cultivation, now it is fruitful, the second half of life, are harvested mileage, bitter will have, but after surviving the bitter, it will be sweet.