Wen | Cheats Jun
Two days ago on the Internet, I inadvertently brushed up with a more famous doctor and was deeply touched by his words.
He said that he worked in the Affiliated Hospital of Peking University, and every day when he went to work, he would always see a white-haired, faltering eighty-year-old man, either being carried by his wife who was also trembling, or walking alone trembling, seeing a doctor and taking medicine, very lonely.
Sometimes a young man would come to help, but it was obviously not a kind of child, a question, it was a former student, and the old man used to be a professor at a nearby university, and his son had settled abroad.
The old man sighed in front of the doctor: he worked hard to raise his son so well, and as a result, he settled across the ocean, and he and his wife fell alone. In the end, the most powerful person is not his son, but his former student.
But students are not every day, people also have their own affairs!
Sometimes watching other people's families enjoy themselves, I have a little doubt: Is it my intention to let my son fly so high and so far? If the son himself is ordinary, he marries and has children around himself, will his and his wife's old age be different?
As for this doctor, because he has a son and a daughter, he secretly decided in his heart that he must do a good job of ideological education for the two children in advance, so that when they decide to fly far in the future, they will first worry about the old parents at home before deciding.
As a parent, if you raise a baby and go around, or if you don't have a daughter, which one will you choose?
Some people may say that parents and children are not themselves a process of separation that is gradually separating? Let the child guard himself, it is too selfish!
However, when the parents are old and sickly, and the children are 18,000 miles away from themselves, they cannot count on them at all, and the old man will feel a little sad at this time, and a trace of regret will arise in his heart.
I remembered an earlier incident.
An only child in an ordinary parent's family wants to study abroad, needs a sum of money, and the parents have very little savings in their hands, so they sell the house to support their daughter to go abroad. But I also made an appointment with my daughter, and I must come back after I finish my studies.
As a result, the daughter found her lover abroad, married and settled abroad, and left the old couple at home. The old couple regretted not being able to do the beginning, and broke off relations with their daughter in one breath.
What can the elderly do after breaking off the relationship? Because of their old age, when renting a house, they repeatedly hit a wall, and the landlord did not dare to rent the house to them, for fear of being affected. Without their own house, just renting a house is also a big expense for the old couple.
In this case, parents and daughters, who is more selfish?
Parents raise their children, and when they are old, they hope that their children can stay around, and they have a headache and brain fever, and there is no reason to have someone to help.
As children, if you want to fly high, you must first arrange the parents' old age affairs, so that you can really be responsible.
Take, for example, a big brother from a neighbor. He is the most prominent of the children in the family, and now he has several houses at the southernmost end, and he has a family and a baby. The old parents live in the old nest in the northern hometown, because they are not used to the south and do not plan to move over to live together.
The eldest brother is also very conscientious, and said good to several of his brothers and sisters, they take care of the old parents on weekdays, if the old parents have a headache and brain fever, the money for medical treatment and hospitalization is all paid by him. Equivalent to other siblings contributing, he pays. In addition, he often sends living expenses and buys clothes to his parents, although people are not often around, but they always make their parents feel warm.
Of course, some people will say that this is a family with several children, so what to do if there is only one child, do you let the children nest in front of the door to guard their parents?
I would like to say that in this case, parents should also renew their concepts. If the only child is filial enough and wants to take his parents to live with him, it is not impossible for his parents to move over, so it is a good idea.
What do you think?
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