On the phone, my mom told me that one of my uncles had passed away.
Grandpa is more than 70 years old, and he is also old. Only in the past few years, he has been in poor health, because of the long things in his throat, and he has undergone several surgeries.
After that, the whole person's body looked like it couldn't work, couldn't work, and had to go to the hospital intermittently for treatment. According to my mother, because of this disease, he spent more than 100,000 yuan.
And the family has a son, who earns money by working part-time to raise a big son. The next grandson also has to spend money to go to school. Hundreds of thousands, for a rural family, is really a big expense. It can even be said that all the savings in the family have been hollowed out.
My mom said that since my uncle's illness, his son looked increasingly haggard and even showed signs of old age.
Yes, if there is a patient in the family, it can really be said that it will make the family feel heavy. Especially families who are not rich, they really can't afford to be sick.
In the old age, it is inevitable that there will be some major and small diseases. If they are still stubborn, do not know how to protect themselves, and do not do what they cannot do, the result is even greater. This can cause headaches for children and even feel that it is a "drag".
Although it is not easy for parents to raise children, young people are under pressure today, there are old and young, and there are all kinds of loans to repay. In fact, as long as the elderly are good, it is the greatest help to the children.
But some elderly people can't see these clearly, causing great trouble to children.
In the old age of that person, what kind of parents are the most "dragging down" their children? Afraid of the following two things.
One: how much to spend, unwilling to store
I have a neighbor, 4 children, 1 son and 3 daughters.
Usually farming at home, enough to pay for yourself. Plus each time the 3 daughters will take some money. Supposedly, a lot can be saved every year.
But the old man's heart is too real, worried about his only son. And the son is not angry, when he was young, he gave his grandson to her to raise, and he and his wife played outside.
Every time I ran out of money, I brought the creditor back. When the other party made a fuss, the old man couldn't bear it, so he wiped his ass for his son. It can be said that the old man's life savings are used on his son.
A while ago, it was said that the old man was sick, but he didn't have much money on him and couldn't go to the hospital at all. Several daughters made up some to send the old man over, but who to take care of became a big problem.
The daughter also has family children, and she can't accompany her all the time, so she has to let her son go. But the son was gone.
Moreover, the daughter's family is also general, and for the operation costs of the elderly, I hope that my son can bear it together. But at this time, the son was a look of not caring about himself, and said that when people got old, they should go with nature, and what else to save?
For this matter, the daughter and son quarreled bitterly, each with their own complaints, and in the end no one wanted to take care of it.
The old man cried and said, if you have storage, why bother to let a few children make such a fuss?
Although it is true that this matter is wrong with her children, the old man's eccentricity and lack of foresight have also laid the foundation for this. When she thinks about her son, she should actually think for herself.
When you really spend how much you have and have no savings, what should you do once you are old and sick? Although the early stage is paid for the children, once in trouble, it is really difficult for the children to take out so much at once.
Therefore, I think that no matter how much the elderly think about their children, they must first consider themselves. When the child needs financial assistance, he should also do his best, even if he saves a little less for himself, in fact, he is planning for the future of the child.
In the old age, there is really a pain, not only does not embarrass the children, but also makes themselves live a decent life. Kill two birds with one stone.
Two: Grumpy and picky parents
I have a friend who said that since becoming a housewife, people are almost depressed.
It turned out that she had a grumpy and picky mother-in-law. The point is that this mother-in-law is still sick and has to rely on her to take care of her.
My friend is very kind and she has a good relationship with her husband. However, the mother-in-law is too capable of doing, and she is nitpicking to her every day, and even she can pick out flowers when drying clothes.
But she couldn't say anything serious about fighting back, what if she made her mother-in-law angry? When she complained to her husband, he understood her very well, but he felt that he was an only child and could not leave his sick mother alone.
The husband proposed that he should take care of his mother at home and his friends go out to work. It's just that a friend's salary may not cover the expenses of the house, children, and the whole family.
The two men were once in a difficult situation.
Friends often sigh and say, if the mother-in-law can understand the young people, how good should it be?
Sometimes, in the old age, people are not terrible when they are sick, and they are not terrible in their temper, and they are afraid that they will be afraid of all of these two things, so that children can "not say that they have suffering" and live unhappily.
For a home to be happy and happy, the first thing is the health of the staff and not to get sick. This is the greatest happiness. Second, family members can understand and tolerate each other, rather than making a fuss.
I hope that every parent can understand the truth, have the habit of reserves when they are young, and do not spend much. This is both for the sake of the children and for the sake of their own later years. In addition, when the child is older, do not interfere too much in their lives. A grumpy temper will only push people farther and farther away.
May every parent, in their old age, be dignified and happy, and have a healthy and happy life.
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