Family affection is the most magical thing in the world, it can make parents pay unconditionally for their children, it is reasonable to say that relatives should be frank and frank, but in real life, the closer people are, the more they have to leave a way back for themselves in some aspects, which seems to be a bit "hypocritical", but it is a very important point for both parties. Next, I will talk about the aspects in which the elderly and their children should leave a hand for themselves, after reading these 2 points, you will understand the causes and consequences of this:
First, do not disclose all the property status to the children
Economically speaking, it is said that the economic base determines the superstructure, and the old Chinese saying that there is a cloud and money can make the ghost grind, these words we can often hear, all of which explain the importance of property. Older people, who basically earn every penny they have with their own hands, are more aware of the necessity of owning assets, which is both a good and a bad thing. The good point is to know how to save money, and the bad point is that they are willing to give the most precious things to their children willingly, as long as the children open their mouths, they will basically not refuse.
Why is this a bad point, because when we reveal all the property status to the children, it is equivalent to giving them a bottom, when the juniors encounter some things that urgently need money, the first reaction is their parents, which is not conducive to their self-reliance habits, over time may become "nibbling on the old people"; for us, once this big money is sent out, there is basically no return, so that in case of a sudden accident in their own body, they will not be able to get timely treatment, if the children are not grateful, It also feels like our parents are a burden because we are sick. Completely forget how we did when we used our own money, or simply don't remember who caused the situation.
Second, don't give everything you have for your children
Now young people's work and life pressure are relatively large, especially young couples who have just been stable in work, have been married and have children, there is no time and energy to take care of their children, many such "weekend couples" have to invite the elderly at home, come to take care of the baby's diet and living, so that they can save a monthly wife's cost, and they are more at ease.
Many people of our age, thinking that the other party is their own grandchildren, agree to the children's requests without saying a word, which is nothing wrong. But before the impulsive decision, we must think that once we accept such a thing, it will be difficult for us to get rid of it, but our age is increasing day by day, and our physical functions are gradually declining, if we get along with a small child every day, we will feel very tired. Even if we can do it physically, it may not be acceptable mentally, because we simply do not have enough free time to spend with our old friends, and we do not have the energy to develop hobbies and interests that we cannot give up. Instead of doing this, it is better not to give up everything you have for the sake of your children in the first place, and it is wise to think twice before doing things.