Text: Xi Xihuan
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Since ancient times, China has attached great importance to filial piety, and there are many stories about this aspect, most of which are praising children's filial piety to their elders, so as to educate future generations to know how to respect and filial piety to their parents and elders.
It is said that the love of Chinese is accustomed to downward inheritance, the love of parents for their children is always unconditional, do not ask for returns, do not ask whether it is really worth it, just because of parenting, so willing to spend the rest of their lives all the efforts for their children.
However, for the parents who raised themselves, it seems to owe a lot, and even some people feel that their parents should pay for themselves, and once they do not meet their own requirements, they will complain about their parents.
Finally, when the parents are old and gone, they will finally understand how torturous the pain of the child wanting to be raised and not being close, but unfortunately there is no chance to make up for it.
It is often seen that some elderly people praise their children's filial piety every time they are, and the overflowing happiness makes the people around them envious, at least this shows that they are successful as parents.
What exactly is parenting success? It is not necessary to let the children get ahead and have a greater career, but to make the children become a person who knows how to be grateful and content.
It is said that in today's society, young people have greater pressure to survive, competition in the workplace is becoming more and more fierce, and the cost of marriage is getting higher and higher, so the distressed children of parents, even if they retire, contribute money when they should have enjoyed their old age in peace, in order to make their children live more easily.
Parents have no other wishes, although they do not expect their children to make a lot of money and have a good job, but as long as their children are filial piety, parents will be satisfied.
But a new type of nibbling on the old is quietly spreading in society, although the children of the old are looked down upon, it will also make the parents chill, but once the form of nibbling on the old changes, not only do the parents not feel that this is nibbling on the old, but will feel that the children are very filial piety.
Mrs. Zhang has been retired for more than three years, has been a lifelong worker, she has been busy for most of her life, and even because she was busy with work, she did not have time to take care of the family, especially with her son, she felt very indebted, and always felt that she was incompetent as a mother.
When the son reached the rebellious period, he liked to talk back to Mrs. Zhang the most, he always said that other people's children have a mother to accompany, but he did not, Mrs. Zhang has a bitter word, in addition to using money to make up for the debt to her son, she really does not know what to do.
Later, after graduating from college, her son found a job and stayed in the outside city, and after getting married, Mrs. Zhang felt even more relieved, and her son's family was her greatest wish.
The son had just been married for a year, Mrs. Zhang lost her wife, and a sudden illness took his life, making Mrs. Zhang a lonely person.
In fact, not only for her son, but also for her wife, she also has guilt, when she was busy at work, she relied on her wife to take care of the family alone, so she hoped that after retirement, she finally had time, and she could accompany her wife to travel and relax.
But I didn't expect to have time to realize all this, my wife left, Mrs. Zhang felt uncomfortable, but she also swallowed all the pain alone, she did not want to add trouble to her son.
After doing a good job of his wife's affairs, the son and daughter-in-law left in a hurry, saying that the work was busy and could not ask for too long a leave, although Mrs. Zhang had the heart to let her son accompany herself more, but she did not open her mouth after all.
A person's life is very lonely, if you still work at least there are things to be busy, the life after retirement is envied by others, but Mrs. Zhang feels particularly lonely and lonely, and the family is always by herself.
A year later, the son came to the phone, saying that his wife was pregnant, Mrs. Zhang was very happy to hear it, the old guys around her all hugged their grandchildren, she did not value sons and daughters, as long as it was her son's child, she liked it.
The son wanted her to go over to help take care of the pregnant daughter-in-law, the pregnancy reaction was big, Mrs. Zhang listened to the second word, packed up the luggage and rushed to the son's city the next day.
She carefully takes care of her daughter-in-law's pregnant life, learns a lot of recipes on the Internet, specially picks the tastes she likes to eat, and sometimes her daughter-in-law plays with her temper because she is uncomfortable, and she never calculates.
After the birth of the grandson, the mother who originally said that the daughter-in-law came to take care of the confinement, but because of the sudden incident, it was also the daughter-in-law Yuezi who Zhang Laotian took care of.
She has to take care of her daughter-in-law alone, as well as her newborn grandson, and her sixties are really unbearable.
The son said that he wanted to ask his sister-in-law to help him again, but the daughter-in-law was unwilling, thinking that the sister-in-law was too expensive, and Mrs. Zhang was unwilling to embarrass her son, and she also saw clearly during the days of her son's family that her son's life in this big city was not easy.
Although she earns a lot, but the cost is also large, the daughter-in-law resigned after becoming pregnant, and now she has one more child to raise, so how much pressure the son does not say that she also knows.
It is not that the daughter-in-law does not feel sorry for her, but she herself feels that there is no need, after all, the sister-in-law also has to spend her son's money, she spends one more point, and the son will have to pay one more point of hard work.
In order to alleviate the pressure on her son, Mrs. Zhang sold the house in her hometown and subsidized her monthly pension in her son's small family.
Once I went back to my hometown to run errands, got together with my old neighbors and friends, and everyone teased her that she was now a person who took root in the big city, and her son was so filial and willing to take her to that side for the elderly.
In the eyes of many people, today's young people do not like to live with their parents, and Mrs. Zhang's son is willing to take his mother to live together, so it is undoubtedly the "filial piety" in everyone's eyes.
Listening to everyone's words, Mrs. Zhang smiled, but did not say anything, indeed, the son can be considered grateful to himself, but I don't know why, Mrs. Zhang only feels that the later life after retirement is not what she wants, the body is tired, the heart is more tired.
Some old guys around always complain that their children are old, they have to pay for marriage, they have to contribute when they have children, and finally the old people pay a lot but are not grateful.
Compared with their children, Mrs. Zhang's son never took the initiative to ask her for anything, but Mrs. Zhang gave everything, even her old house was sold.
So, is Mrs. Zhang's son really filial piety? What is the difference between his behavior and the old man? Maybe he is also bitter, but as a child, if you can't let your parents live in peace in their old age, in fact, there is no difference between them and nibbling on old age.
When encountering such "filial piety" children, parents should be vigilant, in fact, this is a new type of nibbling on the old, perhaps they show that they are all for the sake of their parents, but they are doing things under the guise of "filial piety".
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