Text: Xi Xihuan
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Will you marry a divorced man? First of all, do not ask women, first of all, women's parents this level seems to be very sad, in most people's traditional concept, divorce is always a disgraceful thing, no matter what the reason, divorce means the failure of marriage, so many elderly people do not want their daughters to marry a divorced man.
Especially if this man still has a son, it is even more difficult to occupy an advantage in the second marriage market, and it seems that there is no difference between adopting a son and adopting a daughter, but when the son grows up, he will have to prepare a dowry and a house for marriage, and all aspects seem to be more expensive than adopting a daughter.
But for the woman herself, if love really comes, if this man is really worthy of her lifelong trust, then is his marital status really a factor that blocks two people?
There was once a question online that said, "Will you marry a divorced man with a son?" There are many answers below, but 3 of them are women of different ages, giving real answers.
01 "He is forty-five years old, his son is in middle school, but we are very happy"
Ms. Zhang is thirty-seven years old, in the eyes of many people, is undoubtedly a veritable elderly leftover woman, even if her job is very good, her career is very strong, and she is excellent in all aspects, but her parents are actually most concerned about her marriage.
When she just graduated from college, Ms. Zhang actually had a boyfriend, and the two of them once reached the point of talking about marriage and marriage, and also met the parents of both sides.
At that time, she also felt that the most important thing for a woman in this life was to marry a most worthy man, and then marry and teach her children to have a happy family.
At that time, friends still laughed at her for not showing up, obviously graduated from a very good university, but she wanted to get married early.
On the eve of the wedding, Ms. Zhang discovered her fiancé's cheating, the object is still her friend, which makes her unacceptable, even if the man cries and begs her forgiveness, hoping to hold the wedding as scheduled, but Ms. Zhang still refuses.
Since then, she has never been in love, no matter how her parents and friends advised her to come out as soon as possible, even if it was a blind date, but Ms. Zhang did not want to see her at all, and seemed to close herself in her heart.
When she was thirty-seven years old, all the people around her were fathers or mothers, and Ms. Zhang sometimes watched them busy working for her family, and she was envious in her heart, but she could never forget the betrayal she had suffered.
Until I met the man, forty-five years old, eight years older than her, the two people are not love at first sight, at this age, few people can still make the impulse to love this thing, after all, there are too many things to consider, and it is normal to have scruples.
The same is true of Ms. Zhang, she does not want to love, but dare not love, she has suffered emotional wounds do not want to suffer again, when she met this man, he had just divorced, with a teenage son, at the beginning, the man was very depressed, he would sometimes ask Ms. Zhang for help.
As the two people came into contact with each other more and more, Ms. Zhang gradually understood his grievances and knew the truth about his divorce from his ex-wife, who was also injured like her.
The two people who felt sorry for each other got closer and closer, and in the man, Ms. Zhang found a sense of security, she knew that he was a person worth entrusting for life, and finally agreed to the man's marriage proposal.
After marriage, the man's education makes the son not have the mood of rejection and resistance to Ms. Zhang, and the man is also very good to her, because both people have had failed marriages, so they especially cherish this marriage.
Ms. Zhang's parents' attitude towards men also changed from initial opposition to appreciation, because they saw the happiness of their daughters and saw the intentions of men for their daughters.
In Ms. Zhang's own words, a man who has been divorced with a son is not a burden, and he may also be the most reliable happiness for a woman for the rest of her life.
02 "Two men have protected me since marrying him"
Ms. Xu is a divorced woman, after the divorce, she did not give up the pursuit of love, nor did she refuse the blind date arranged by her parents.
In the eyes of her family, although she was divorced, she was not yet thirty years old, had no children, had a good job, and was beautiful, so it was not difficult to remarry.
But after seeing several blind dates in succession, she was not particularly satisfied, and most of the other parties disliked her for divorce, and their own conditions were not bad, so they all rejected her in the end.
Gradually, Ms. Xu has lost confidence, she feels that even if she is not married, she is fine, but she feels sorry for her parents.
When she suddenly went home and told her parents that she was going to get married, their parents were very happy, but after seeing the man, they said that they did not agree to anything.
It turned out that the man had been divorced and had a son, and the parents felt that although their daughter had also been divorced, at least they had no children and were still young, but this man was in his forties and had a son, and they were afraid that their daughter would be wronged when she married her.
But after the marriage, the daughter's life gradually reassured her parents, and she said that the greatest happiness after marrying this man was that there were two men who could protect her and spoiled her as a little princess.
03 "Marrying him in my twenties is the most correct decision I made"
Ms. Wang is only in her twenties, there are many suitors around her, she herself is not in a hurry about marriage events, she always feels that she has not played enough, and does not want to enter the marriage so early.
Before getting married, maybe others told her that she didn't believe she would marry a man who was married twice, and she had a son, and she never wanted to be a stepmother, because her own mother died very early, and after her father remarried, her impression of her stepmother was not good.
But after really getting along with that man, she found that this man was so attractive, although divorced, but he lived a very sunny and optimistic life, eight years older than Ms. Wang, but still had a lot of common topics with her.
What makes Ms. Wang feel warm the most is that the man is very mature and considerate, perhaps because he once had a marriage, so he will take care of people in particular, and he also understands the woman's mind, and the tolerance and understanding of Ms. Wang in the usual relationship make her feel that she is this man.
After reading the answers given by these three women of different ages, I believe that many people also have a general answer to this question, it is not important whether a man is divorced, whether he has a son or not, the most important thing is whether the man has a sense of responsibility, whether he is responsible, as long as there is, he will give you the happiness you want.
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