Figure | The richest man in Xihong
Text | Miki porridge
Last week, in "Middle-class Mothers, All Busy Reviewing Their Wills," they discussed how to keep the property they had struggled for for half a lifetime in the face of an uncertain emotional relationship.
Many friends leave messages in the background to plan and advise:
A friend said that the beneficiaries of U.S. law are generally spouses, and spouses have to take care of their children. If the wife does not leave a special will, her parents have no inheritance rights.
Moreover, such a large amount of money is left to the world's top 500 husbands, at least to ensure that their children are raised normally, leaving it to the elderly who do not have a high level of education, speculate in stocks and buy health care products, and the risk of being deceived.
The reality is a bit of a slap in the face, it is said that the dispute was exposed, and the children's extracurricular classes were called to stop the father...
There are also people in the background message, please don't chase cold-blooded men like this. Feeling that strong condemnation will drive the cold-blooded man crazy, he can't fight back and can only divert the hatred, let the deceased wife leave the child to carry the pot, and the more desolate it will be to live under the "light" of the stepmother.
But without condemnation, the child can live well? When the scumbag father was married in seconds, he did not think that the two underage children had just lost their biological mothers, and they needed to buffer and need to do psychological counseling, how could they expect him to take into account the feelings of the two children in the future days?
And the newly married second room is even more exaggerated, knowing that the other family has just experienced "bereavement of the wife and mother", they climbed into someone else's bed for their own purposes, can they expect this kind of person to have compassion and consideration for the two children who are not their own?
Good people always measure others by their own morality, even if they are complete scum, they do not want to believe that they are really degraded, thinking that their conscience is not lost, leaving a way back, and naturally they will be rehabilitated. this... How is that possible? It is much easier for man to fall than to keep disciplined.
The two children were indeed pitiful, but they had nothing to do with everyone's condemnation. However, living in such a family, encountering such a thin father, and without the protection of his mother, in the end, he can only rely on himself to be strong to earn a way.
It hurts a lot to watch when the mother is. After all, we have worked hard for most of our lives, just to make our children (who have little ability to survive before adulthood) live a little better. The child's life is not good, and the heart of the old mother is the most piercing.
So I carefully planned it and felt that the inheritance could not be left to my husband. Some people say, then give the money to the parents, grandpa and grandma will not be bad for their own grandchildren.
Immediately someone jumped out and retorted that there was also a risk.
Old people are easy to be deceived when they are old. When he encountered Su Daqiang in "All Is Good", he was also in trouble, and his children pooled their money to buy him a big house, which was not good to enjoy, and they had to remarry the nanny and distribute the real estate to others. The children did not agree, they sold the house and wanted to elope, only to be rejected by the ruthless nanny aunt...
The intermediary fee for buying and selling the house is calculated, and the short-term loss is more than 100,000.
I have a friend who has money at home. Half a year after his mother fell ill and died, the people who introduced him to his father were about to step on the threshold of his home, and finally hurriedly chose an aunt to remarry. After marriage, I found that she did nothing, and her underwear could be thrown to the ground... Less than half a year later, he left again, giving 200,000 breakup fees.
Old people lose, and the speed and manner can exceed your imagination. Therefore, the cold-blooded man did not divide the money to the parents of his deceased wife, and actually got some votes in favor.
Beneficiaries do not write husbands, do not write parents, then directly write children is always stable.
Then my friend told me a story.
He said that his child has a classmate, and his mother is particularly able to make money, and when she earns money, she has no other hobbies, that is, buying a house.
Children read West Side experiments, and buy suites next to the experiments; children go to read RDF, and there is another suite next to RDF. School districts like this have saved seven or eight sets of housing, and according to the current house price, it is estimated that there are 100 million or 200 million.
Mothers spend a lot of money on education, children also read decently, and their grades are among the best. But the weather was unpredictable, and when I read the third year of junior high school, this mother fell ill and died.
Originally, his father had no status, and when he was a mother, he did not want her husband to continue to take advantage of herself, so before she died, she left all the family property to her son, leaving only a set of self-housing for her husband.
Fifteen or sixteen-year-old children hold financial power (they can only inherit when they become adults), look down on their fathers, do not obey discipline and can not control themselves, and finally read a bullish high school, the original 985, 211 materials, and finally a very ordinary one.
Although the school is average, but study well, inherit the family business, and take care of the assets, it is also a winner in life that peers cannot catch up. But...
In the second year of college, he officially announced his marriage and baby, which shocked the circle of friends.
Only then did my friend know what kind of life this child, who had not been in contact for several years, was living. Freshman year and classmates live together, know that there is a child with a girlfriend to run to Shanghai to give birth, four seasons hotel is a few months, every day to do happiness live broadcast.
Middle-aged people are silently pinching a handful of sweat, and no amount of money can afford such a creation. Sure enough, less than a year after giving birth to a child, he disappeared from the circle of friends.
Friends sighed that education does not spend money in the front, and no amount of saving in the back is enough for them to spend.
Especially if you raise a boy, you must train him. It is better to keep 10 suites than to let him have a long skill, otherwise 10 suites can only be a scourge that harms him.
I am also amazed to hear that with so much money, even if I casually do asset allocation for the second half of my life, I will not worry about eating and drinking.
My friend looked at me, and if he really had that brain, he wouldn't do it.
In the final analysis, people's hearts are so unpredictable, the remaining money is not safe for anyone, if you want to let the underage children have a guarantee, not only to keep money, but also to give him a good skill: can go into the water to touch the fish, can go up to the tree to pick up birds, but also must have a pair of wise eyes, and fight with the future father and mother.
My cousin experienced two stepmothers in those years, and in the era of not being able to eat, he survived by stealing his stepmother's flapjacks to carry a fat beating.
Of course, this is all an afterthought.
Now there is more important thing than letting the child grow up, that is, the mothers should be self-reliant, eat carefully, sleep well, and live healthily.
For the cold-blooded family story of Silicon Valley, middle-class mothers are anxious, and dads are also anxious.
Especially those who raise only daughters, they are spoiled into pearls in the palm of their hands, afraid that one day they will not be able to escape being harvested by scumbags.
Eager to inquire about the ins and outs of the matter, to draw a mind map of all the traps and tricks, and to ask someone to give a lesson to the daughter about "what kind of man can't marry?"
@Ye Qincheng said that this book could not be published. One list, is the domestic violence man, gambling man, alcoholic man... They certainly can't be married. But can the chicken thief man, the flower heart man, the mean man, and the sea king marry?
Each has its own faults. In the end, I could see from the cracks of the words, and the words "unmarried and infertile" were written all over the book.
What father can be so persuading his daughter not to marry and be infertile?
I don't think that's insoluble. Before I always heard people say that daughters looking for husbands, most of them will refer to their father's appearance, the father has been harshly scolding him since childhood, and he also feels taken for granted when he encounters domestic violence; the father ignores the feelings of the children from childhood, and does not feel that there is anything wrong with cold violence.
Therefore, instead of turning to make-up classes to solve the problem of "identifying men's strengths and weaknesses", it is better to be a good father and establish a high standard for men by daughters.
Like identifying antiques, there is no trick, nothing more than seeing more and having eyesight.