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In 2001, when the 31-year-old Ren Amano ran every day on the corniche in Hamburg,
Little did he know that his father had remarried at home.
Born in Heilongjiang in 1970, the man grew up in a single-parent family.
His father, Ren Mingjiu, worked in a timber factory in his hometown.
At that time, he fell in love with a Kazakh girl.
Young people are not afraid of each other's lack of jobs, and they are not afraid of cultural and personality differences.
First their son Ren Amano was born, and four years later they had a young daughter.
After having children, the husband, who is addicted to tobacco and alcohol every day, began to quarrel frequently with his dissuaded wife.
The differences that were covered up in the past are also highlighted with the escalation of contradictions.
The young Ren Amano has been shrouded in frequent quarrels since he was a child.
When I was 8 years old, one day my mother left with my sister forever.
He heard the word divorce for the first time and understood that divorce meant a complete goodbye to the person closest to him.
Since then, he has followed his father for his life.
Middle-aged divorced men have no shackles of marriage and are more laissez-faire in life.
Therefore, from the time of reading, all of Ren Amano's fathers did not pay special attention to it.
As the son grew older, the handsome face formed by the mixed race began to stand out.
Just after graduating from high school, the young man's height reached more than one meter and eight meters.
At this time, my father worked while wandering around the northeast.
Ren Amano, who loves football, originally planned to develop in this regard.
Unfortunately, because of an injury in a game, his football dream was shattered early.
Ren Amano traveled from the northeast to the south, and in Guangzhou, waiters, hairdressers and even racing drivers,
In the midst of the wanderings, he tasted the bitterness of life.
It is said that in the security company, he also served as a bodyguard for Liu Huan and Zheng Yijian.
It wasn't until he was 29 years old that his life took a huge turn.
Because of his handsome face and tough figure, he was photographed by a modeling agency.
Under the company's systematic training and packaging, Ren Amano won the Best Newcomer Award of the Manshotre dun National Model Competition that year.
After the competition, he signed a contract to become a model for a German clothing company.
This young man from the northeast crossed the ocean for the first time to go abroad.
In Hamburg, Germany, his daily life and training were boring and regular.
Unique architecture in a foreign country, rare wooden steamships, can be seen every day when running on the waterfront.
This man from China was immersed in the different experience of his new life at that time.
And he couldn't imagine that his father, who was far away in China at this moment, had undergone earth-shaking changes in his life.
At that time, Ren Mingjiu had been to Changchun and had also traveled south to Dalian, a coastal place.
Two years after his son went abroad, he went to Tianjin alone.
In a logistics company, he worked as a casual warehouse keeper.
There is almost nothing to do on a daily basis, and a person still maintains the habit of drinking.
But soon, this middle-aged divorced man met a woman from the countryside of Cangzhou.
The other party has not yet been married, the key is that the age is 15 years younger than himself.
Ren Mingjiu originally had no extravagant expectations, and even after divorcing his ex-wife many years ago, he had already cut off the idea of remarriage.
But the young Cangzhou woman broke in, or broke his inner peace.
Although there is an age difference, there is no huge difference in getting along with the same workers.
Over time, we have had that meaning to each other.
At the beginning, Ren Mingjiu still had a little mustard in his heart, he had divorced, not to mention a son in his early thirties.
But the other party did not dislike these, just like this, they slowly came together.
Only at this time, Ren Amano did not know.
In the fall of 2001, his contract with the clothing company expired, and Ren Amano returned to China.
He went directly to Tianjin to visit his father, and when they first met, Ren Mingjiu created a "surprise" for his son.
"I'm married again." He took the marriage certificate out of the drawer.
Ren Amano couldn't believe it for a moment, his father remarried? Why didN't I ever tell myself about it?
Seeing his son's face full of surprise, Ren Mingjiu patiently explained it to him.
At the end, he also said that after all, his son was far away in Germany, so he "made up his own mind".
Ren Amano was still a little difficult to adapt after listening, and he eagerly inquired about the other party's situation.
When he learned that the new "stepmother" was not married and was only 11 years older than himself, Ren Amano almost jumped up from his chair.
"Daddy, you... This is also too sloppy, people are so much younger than you, how can they look at you? ”
Ren Amano is unacceptable, at least in the world's concept, he feels that this relationship is a bit too dramatic.
The father is not a rich businessman, but a middle-aged man who works part-time, how can the other party ...
Ren Mingjiu, who was on the side, watched his son turn around in a hurry, and he continued to explain to his son:
"Your aunt and I are not trying to do anything to each other, she is very virtuous, and we are living in peace together."
In order to increase his persuasiveness, Ren Mingjiu continued to mention that the more than 40,000 yuan given to him by his son in the past two years was still on the passbook.
If she really wanted to make money, the deposit was estimated to be gone.
Although Ren Mingjiu said a lot of good things about the other party, Ren Tianye's heart was still a little hairy.
He eagerly waited for the other party to leave work, to see what kind of person this "stepmother" really was.
From her father's mouth, Ren Amano learned that she worked as a tally clerk in a supermarket.
Soon it was late afternoon and she was back from work.
Ren Tianye couldn't help but be a little embarrassed, when he was eating, he wanted to say something, but a thousand words could not be revealed for a while.
At this time, Ren Amano peeked and saw that his father on the side was already old.
In contrast, the aunt sitting next to her father still looked very young.
Is this a couple? Without outsiders knowing, they will absolutely treat them as a father and daughter!
"You're so young, and my father doesn't have a regular job, what do you really like about him?"
In the face of Ren Amano's questioning, the stepmother seemed very sincere.
She confessed that she once had a relationship, but the deeper the love, the easier it was to be hurt.
In those sinking days, it was Ren Amano's father who appeared in time and helped himself gradually get out of the shadows.
Therefore, from that time on, she felt that Ren Amano's father was worthy of trust, and the two people had the same temperament.
Although these words sounded very true, Ren Amano's heart was still knotty.
In the past, no matter where his father was, visiting his father was the most important thing in Ren Amano's heart.
But since he had her, his father's place had simply become a forbidden area for Ren Amano.
After eating that day, he left his father and the woman's rental house as if he were running away.
In the months that followed, Ren Amano never saw his father again.
As soon as he thought of his stepmother, who was only ten years older than himself, his heart began to be hairy.
Soon at the end of the year, his father told Ren Amano on the phone that he and his aunt had only received a permit before.
Now, taking advantage of the New Year, I want to organize a wedding.
Ren Mingjiu's meaning was obvious, and he hoped that his son would also come to participate.
At that time, Ren Amano was filming a TV series in the northeast of his hometown, and he just coldly told his father that he would go back when he had time.
At the end of that year, in a rental house of more than 20 square meters, Ren Mingjiu and his second wife spent 20,000 yuan to hold a wedding.
Ren Amano's inner thoughts were not completely "digested", and he did not come back in the end.
However, his father and the other party were already living together, and he could not go all the way without visiting them.
Since then, every time he went to Tianjin to visit his relatives, Ren Tianye secretly observed the situation at home, afraid of what his stepmother would do to his father.
Because of the prejudice in his heart, he would inevitably look at his stepmother with colored glasses.
Sometimes when he saw his father busy in the kitchen, he would insinuate that she was not virtuous.
If he saw the other party dress up a little, Ren Amano immediately reminded his father:
The age gap between you is large, and you must pay more attention to everything.
Once, Ren Tianye met a relative from his hometown in Beijing.
The other party mentioned in passing that when he went to visit his father, his stepmother had managed the money too strictly.
He and Ren Mingjiu went out to dinner together, and Ren Amano's father couldn't even pay a hundred yuan.
These words came out of the mouths of outsiders, and he could not help but feel that it was too harsh to hear.
Ren Tianye immediately returned to Tianjin and told his stepmother about this matter euphemistically.
Who knows that the stepmother still has her own reasoning.
"Your father spent money without a plan, and I kept the money for the good of this family."
"But you are also too harsh, you don't even have money to eat a meal when you meet with relatives and friends, and others will gossip."
Ren Tianye's tone could not help but be a little heavier, and as soon as this remark came out, the stepmother felt a little aggrieved.
He and Ren Mingjiu were married, and they did not want him to do anything, and now the child has repeatedly conceived stereotypes.
Seeing that the two people had a stalemate, Ren Mingjiu could only stand up and persuade.
Although this incident had passed, the shadow left in Ren Tianye's heart had become even thicker.
In the winter of 2003, he did not consult with his father and took out all his savings to buy a new house in Beijing.
Ren Tianye thought that if his father and stepmother broke up in the future, this house would be his last place to stay.
Ren Amano, who was deeply guarded, seemed to be waiting every day for the moment when his father and the other party broke up.
He also often secretly asked his father on the phone, what his stepmother really did to him, you don't hide in your heart and say nothing.
The father speaks for his wife every time, and he feels that his son thinks too much, and the wife takes good care of herself every day.
Hearing is false, seeing is believing. After returning to Tianjin again, Ren Tianye found that the smoking and drinking problems that his father had cultivated for many years were gone.
At the same time as his mental state improved, the image of him as a scruffy person in the past no longer existed.
Looking at this real change, Ren Tianye also gradually understood that everything was the silent payment of the stepmother behind it.
Gradually, his attitude towards his stepmother changed slightly, and he also began to frequently call the other party "aunt".
In addition, during the New Year's Festival, Ren Amano would also give money to his father and tell his father to remember to buy clothes for his aunt.
I watched as the relationship between the family gradually eased, but with the sudden pregnancy of the stepmother, the calm was broken again.
The matter of pregnancy was still the stepmother who took the initiative to call Ren Amano.
It turned out that Ren Mingjiu, after learning of his wife's suspicions, strongly asked her to do the abortion.
But the wife wanted to give birth to the child, so she called Ren Amano, hoping that he could persuade his father.
Ren Tianye once again rushed back to Tianjin.
Father's concern is not unreasonable, and he is about to turn sixty,
In the future, when the child is still young, he will be old and will not be able to raise him at all.
But the stepmother did not think so, she wanted a child, and if her husband was old in the future, she would raise the child herself.
The two men were deadlocked, both hoping that Ren Amano would identify with him.
At first, Ren Amano also favored his father's opinion.
He also feels that giving birth to a child at this time, whether it is raising or growing, is not good for the child.
But looking at his stepmother's sad state, he was a little overwhelmed for a while.
Ren Amano could only confide in some of his best friends.
Friends feel from the perspective of a third party that children are very important to a woman, and they are the ballast stone of marital stability.
After some thought, Ren Amano began to camp with his stepmother.
He advised his father that a marriage with children was complete.
And in the future, after the birth of the child, all the expenses will be borne by themselves.
In this way, in the spring of 2005, Ren Tianye brought his father and stepmother to Beijing.
Six months later, Ren Tianye's younger brother Ren Tianhua was born.
It is worth mentioning that at this time, Ren Amano has also entered the palace of marriage.
His wife, Zhu Lixin, is also an actress.
When the two people were together, Ren Amano's development was just beginning.
Although he was still poor and white, Zhu Lixin still came to his side without hesitation.
So, when the half-brother is born,
Although he and Ren Amano's son are uncles and nephews, the two are of the same age.
This reorganized family is a little different in the eyes of the world,
But as Ren Amano's career climbed step by step, he also began a stable and happy time after that.
The white colt crossed the gap, and in the blink of an eye, Amano was 44 years old.
That year, when I was on a TV show,
He said sadly that if he could see his mother and sister again in this life, he would be complete.
The matter later reached the ears of her stepmother, who took the initiative to contact Ren Amano:
You are so busy on weekdays, I will help you fulfill your mother's wish, which can be regarded as a return for your filial piety to me over the years.
Since then, together with Ren Mingjiu, she has returned to the northeast to visit many relatives and friends of that year.
But more than three years later, no information was found.
In 2017, a friend gave Ren Amano a clue.
He took his father Ren Mingjiu to check it out, but after some checking, he recognized that the other party was not Ren Amano's mother.
Later, the stepmother reminded Ren Tianye to contact CCTV's public welfare program "Waiting for Me" and asked them to help look for it.
This unusual family is becoming more and more warm and harmonious at this moment.
Ren Amano's younger brother has grown up, his father is getting old day by day, and his stepmother has no job.
Since then, he has raised the cost of supporting his father's family of three.
After so many years, what makes Ren Amano feel relieved is that
Zhu Lixin, his wife, never had any words because of her stepmother.
Happiness comes from inclusion and compromise.
Today, Ren Amano's silent efforts have persisted for 19 years.
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