Everyone wants to have a sweet and happy married life, but the emotional thing is the most elusive, some people and love people can get old after marriage, and some people can't go to the end of the road to part ways, so love is not only once for people, love is allowed to be pursued again. So divorced or widowed people will have plans to remarry.
But remarriage also has many drawbacks, some people are good at handling the relationship between stepchildren, remarried families will also live happily, and some remarried couples will have many problems because they involve the children of both parties, if they are not properly handled, they will make a peaceful life ripple again.
First, the man divorced and took the baby alone, why did he lose his family affection in the year of hua jia?
The 60-year-old Old Sui, who lives in Harbin, after a conflict with his son Xiaodong in September 2021, he moved out of his son's house and rented a house with his wife, but when the house lease period came, his son no longer renewed his rent, and he could only live in the small room of his 80-year-old mother's house.
Lao Sui's parents are now old, there are also senile diseases and mobility problems, Lao Sui's sister and brother-in-law take care of here, usually two old people live in a house, sister two children live in a house, Lao Sui's unexpected arrival, so that the original cramped space is more tense.
Lao Sui said that he was not in good health now, he had no money to rent a house, and at night he would make a bunk on the ground, because it was cold, his sister bought him a small bed.
After most of his life, the seven-foot boy now has to add trouble to his parents, Lao Sui is very unpleasant, 30 years ago when his son was 8 years old, he divorced his ex-wife, the child was raised by him, but it is not easy for a man to take a baby, Lao Sui is a father and mother, and then he sent Xiao Dong to the army as a soldier.
After Lao Sui's son left home as a soldier, he found a lady who was more than ten years younger than himself as a companion, and the two of them lived together, and the family got along very well.
At that time, Lao Sui had a house in the happy town of Harbiner City, and then in order to buy a new house for his son in the city, he sold the old house, and then Xiaodong married and had children, and then sold the house in the city, took out a loan to buy a three-bedroom and a living room in Songbei District, and also took his father and stepmother to live together.
Lao Sui said that when his grandson was born, he and his wife and children waited until he went to junior high school, all of which were picked up and dropped off by him, when he drove a taxi, the family's living expenses, buying vegetables and cooking were all his own, and his son's two sons did not even cook, and then he did not work as a taxi for half a year after the family had a conflict. However, Lao Sui's sister had already seen that the surface was peaceful and calm, but behind it was a dark tide, and the nephew had an opinion on this stepmother.
Second, the son has a conflict with his father because of his stepmother, and everything is just for money
Lao Sui said that the two generations of different lifestyles, it is easy to have contradictions, coupled with the son's open and secret disdain for this stepmother, so the father and son are intolerable, helplessly, Lao Sui and his wife moved to the house rented by the son before, but it did not take long, and the old wife also left.
It turned out that Lao Sui and his wife had lived together for 20 years, and now he was not in good health and did not have Lao Bao. He said that although his wife and children are gone, he has not complained about his wife, after all, he has cerebral infarction, anemia and other diseases, sometimes walking is shaky, and there is no income. People have their own ambitions, he does not want to be a drag of others, and he does not want to be difficult for others. It's just that people don't understand that in the past, it was a father-son relationship, but what made them lose their family affection in the years?
In October last year, his son told him that the child did not need to be managed by you, so he asked his son to give him some money to move away. Unexpectedly, he asked for money and his son was anxious, his son had two second-hand cars, he proposed to give him the car, and his son was not willing.
Xiao Dong's aunt's words broke the root of the contradiction between the grandfather and the two, nothing more than a word of money, Lao Sui said that he had given everything he had for his son, and now his life was precarious, whether it was retribution or compensation, Xiao Dong should fulfill his obligation to support.
Nowadays, Xiaodong sells clothes in a shopping mall, but Xiaodong is not there, and it is Xiaodong's ex-wife Huijuan who is watching the store, and she has said such an inside story.
Hui Juan said that the mother-in-law who arrived later was an insatiable lord, and the culprit who provoked the relationship between Xiaodong's father and son was because she asked them for money every day, so that she really couldn't stand it before she divorced Xiaodong. In order to understand the situation, the mediator called Xiaodong and complained a lot about his father.
Xiaodong said that his father and his old partner premeditated, when driving his car before, the two of them studied how to rectify his money in the car, how to pit him step by step, and he had all the recordings. The incident hurt him so much that he believed that the father did not regard him as a son at all, nor did he regard his children as children. And he is about to sue his father's old partner because she took Xiaodong's money.
Third, the plot suddenly reversed, the father asked the son to support, the son: he asked me for five thousand a month
For XiaoDong's statement, Lao Sui denied it, saying that he not only did not open his mouth to ask his son for money, but also often gave money to his son behind his wife's back, and these family members could testify. And his cards were in his son's hands.
Now the two sides of the description of the facts are in the opposite direction, and tangled in the past of right and wrong grievances may be meaningless, Lao Sui insists that he has no place to live, the son should take care of himself, even if it is to find a place for him to live, after all, his parents are old, he sleeps at night, it also affects his parents to rest, and the son gives him some living expenses every month. As for how much money, he said it was up to him.
Xiaodong said that he and his ex-wife rented a house for his father near the school, and now that the lease has expired, he has not renewed the lease because of a conflict with his father, and Xiaodong has given a very different statement about the cost of living.
It turned out that renting a house for his father was the money taken by Xiaodong's ex-wife, and the rent for the house rented in his name was twenty thousand. But his father also asked him for 5,000 yuan a month in alimony, and told him that it was definitely not enough, and he had to add it. Xiaodong said that he could not bear it at all, and his father later asked him for 200,000 yuan, saying that he had spent from childhood to adulthood.
Lao Sui said that he originally had a house for chenggaozi, sold 220,000 yuan, bought a house for his son in the Hongqi community, and took 35,000 for decoration, when the daughter-in-law told him that she did not have money to let him take the money out, he took 50,000.
But Xiaodong's ex-wife said that the house in Jiangbei was not bought at all, the house was bought by themselves, the down payment of the loan, and the formalities were all there. There is no such thing as giving her money to renovate the house.
The economic account between father and son, I am afraid it is difficult to calculate for a while, but Xiaodong said that in addition to this storefront, he usually also does some odd jobs to maintain his life, and in recent years, with the rise of the Internet, the physical clothing business is difficult to do, and the profit is also greatly reduced, and now he is in debt, life has become a problem and he has no ability to manage his father, for the requirements and ideas of the elderly, he said that he would consider, but he could only say that the conditions were good, in addition to the limitations of the actual situation, he had another layer of consideration.
He felt that his father and his wife had spent so many years, he also had concerns, before they had a conflict, he also promised his father to give him 1500 yuan a month, and his father said that he and his wife had divided, and he also gave the money to his father. But after nearly two months, his father suddenly said that he and his wife and children were reunited, and he also heard the conversation between the two stepmothers in the car, and the stepmother said to his father, "You have to ask him for money, you want the 200,000." Because his stepmother's son wanted to buy a house and get married, he forced him to ask for money, which made him unacceptable.
The son and grandson were so stiff, Lao Sui's father was impatient, and he hoped to find a way to resolve the contradiction between father and son as soon as possible.
Xiao Dong said that his current ability is indeed limited, and if he is forced to do so, he will not be able to do anything.
Sentiment Analysis:
A twilight love, instead of bringing the expected clouds and clouds, brilliant and beautiful, but let the family affection be broken and reborn, such a phenomenon is not uncommon, which can not help but make people wonder, how to get rid of the property disputes and shackles of love and marriage in the later years?
1, the son should know how to be grateful
It is said that it is difficult for a clean official to judge family affairs, father and son each have their own reasons, as a son Ofs, Xiao Dong cannot push his father to his grandfather's house because of his limited ability, and he does not ask questions, which he has lost the responsibility and responsibility of a man. He must understand that when his father took him to live alone, let him become a soldier, and later sold his old house to buy a house for him and marry his wife, he should be grateful to his father for not abandoning him.
2, men should have their own position and attitude
Then as an old Sui he is also at fault, the contradiction between the son and the stepmother is disputed in terms of money, on the one hand is the wife, on the other side is the son, he should have a clear attitude. Obviously, in Xiaodong's description, when this stepmother encouraged him to ask his son for money, these things did happen, otherwise Xiaodong and his ex-wife would not have divorced because of this, and both of them had video and audio recordings as evidence. It can be seen that it is the behavior of the two that angers Xiaodong, and he is particularly repulsive to this stepmother.
Qing Jinyi's "Aphorism Lianbi" once said: "People have no master in their hearts, so how can they be properly sorted out?" People have no rules first, how to adjust a solemn family? To melt the temperament of selfishness is to ask the university; to eliminate the gap in the family is to be big economic."
This means that if a person does not have a correct understanding of himself in his heart, how can he create his own justice and decency? There is no restraint in their own behavior, how to coordinate the relationship between the whole family, so that family members can get along harmoniously and be courteous? Being able to dissolve the selfishness of one's own disposition is a university question; it is also a real skill to eliminate discord in the family.
Therefore, Lao Sui's fall to this point has a lot to do with his own failure to properly handle family conflicts. As a family member, first of all, he must have his own position, can not be because the son of the old partner wants to get married, he is forced to ask his son for money, he wants alimony to open his mouth to his son Lion, 5,000 yuan per month is not enough, without any regard for the pressure of his son's life, which may also be the reason why Xiaodong is disappointed in his father.
3, men should shoulder the responsibility on their shoulders
It is said that poor people must have something to hate, and lao Sui's biggest problem is that there is no correct value, knowing that he has no social security, only 60 years old does not work, while hiding in his parents to nibble the old, while forcing his son to retire, this kind of clothing to reach out, it is indeed impossible to sympathize.
A man, whether he is young or old, must understand the responsibility on his shoulders, especially like lao Sui, there are old and young, he can not slacken off, but to bravely take on the heavy responsibility of the family. But he was good, his parents were taking care of his sister, and he became the one who was taken care of. You must know that you do not have any source of income, and you also want to rely on your son's alimony to support your old partner. This kind of psychology is not something that a normal man can do, not only that, but also obeys his wife's words and forces his son to ask for 200,000, making people feel that he has no opinion and responsibility, so that father and son turn against each other.
There is a saying called "my marriage I am the master", in the family relationship, what kind of daughter-in-law the son finds, as a parent can not interfere, the same father to find what kind of old partner, the son should not interfere, get more contact, less contact, but there is one thing that the younger generations can not forget, that is, they should fulfill the obligation of support for their parents.