Some people say that before the child is born, he will pick the mother in the sky, but in fact, he is also picking the father.
When new life comes, as a parent, you should take on the responsibility of raising him, strive to create conditions, give him a better environment for growth, and let him grow up healthy and happy.
There is no relationship in this world, compared to the strong parent-child relationship.
But there are still many parents who, after having children, have not fulfilled their parental responsibilities, have not given material and spiritual love, and have completely thrown their hands in the cabinet.
Bai Xiaopeng, a man from Henan, is such a person.
He divorced his ex-wife when his daughter was more than one year old, and after the divorce, the custody of the child went to the man, and Bai Xiaopeng threw the child to the old mother.
Soon after, Bai Xiaopeng married Chen Yun, who also had a daughter after divorce, and Chen Yun and her ex-husband's daughter were brought by her mother's family.
After getting married, Bai Xiaopeng and Chen Yun had another son.
The two couples have been doing business in Zhengzhou, and although Chen Yun rarely returns to his in-laws' house, there are still many family conflicts.
Chen Yun is very aggrieved, she believes that her in-laws are prejudiced against her, especially her eldest sister and mother-in-law.
However, after the mediator found her mother-in-law, she said that she did not have an opinion on her daughter-in-law Chen Yun, but on her son.
In the six years since the divorce, as a father, Bai Xiaopeng has not paid a little for his children Bai Xue.
He does not call the child, nor does he give living expenses, the old mother is responsible for food, clothing, housing and transportation, and never asks about the child's study and life.
It was as if the child was not his own, but a stranger.
Once when he came home at noon, he saw his second-grader, a growing child, Bai Xue, eating a large bowl of white rice with pickles but indifferent.
He has no waves in his heart, and when he is doing business outside, he is even willing not to give three or five hundred to improve the food for his children.
So that every time he came back, the child felt afraid when he saw him, and if there was a parent-teacher conference or an exam, he would only tell his grandmother and say nothing to his father.
He became a complete and utter hand-throwing treasurer, so that others could not look at it, and he was very distressed about this child.
Compared with her cold and ruthless father, Chen Yun, as a stepmother, believes that although Bai Xue is not her own child, she also has to take on the responsibility of raising her.
Today, she and her husband are making water in Zhengzhou, and in order to create better conditions for their children, they have brought Chen Yun's daughter and their son to Zhengzhou.
Chen Yun thought that Bai Xue should also be brought by himself, so he decided to bring Bai Xue over, and after taking Bai Xue to Zhengzhou, Bai Xiaopeng, as a father, was not happy.
He called his old mother the next morning and asked her to take the snow back.
At this time, the old mother was angry, the palms of her hands and the backs of her hands were all meat, why should we treat them differently, not to mention that the child's biological father was unwilling and all kinds of moths.
For this child she brought up with her, after Bai Xue was taken away, grandma had a lot of reluctance, and even cried. This time, I was also very angry to see my granddaughter being treated like this.
Therefore, when I went to pick up the child, I did not have a good face, and this time it made both sides unhappy.
At this time, the eldest sister came in again to stir up trouble, and she directly accused Chen Yun, who was a stepmother, of not doing a good job, not being qualified, and not supporting.
This sentence directly made Chen Yun angry, and she was aggrieved.
All the while, she wanted to take the child over, obviously her husband did not agree and did not deal with this matter, but the eldest sister blamed her.
Fortunately, this time, Bai Xiaopeng stood on Chen Yun's side, he accused his sister of not being, but also accusing his mother of connivance, so he supported his wife for a waist.
But how could the mustard of a few of them be resolved in one or two sentences? When she found her eldest sister to communicate, she even denied the words she had said that hurt Chen Yun, and did not admit it at all.
But the mother-in-law, Bai Xiaopeng and Chen Yun can prove that she has said, so it seems that the eldest sister is obviously lying, daring to do but not daring to be, no wonder she will do something unclear and issue some self-righteous criticism.
It seems that the family is so disharmonious today, except for a son who has no responsibility and no opinion, there is also a mother who treats her daughter-in-law as an outsider and indulges her daughter-in-law to stir things up, and a big sister who does not understand things and does not distinguish between right and wrong.
After some persuasion from the mediator, Chen Yun also slowly let go.
The mother-in-law also realized some mistakes, and she understood that her daughter-in-law had to work hard with two children. The mother-in-law said that she would try not to be biased by her daughter and understand her daughter-in-law more, so that the family would be more harmonious.
As for bringing Bai Xue to Zhengzhou to school, the elderly also have their own views.
For the child, she may not accept this suggestion in her heart, for so many years, she has been living with her grandmother, and suddenly left her grandmother to go to an unfamiliar environment, she will be very insecure, and she will not be able to accept it for a while.
For their father and stepmother, they have not cultivated feelings for each other for the time being, and they will naturally be wary.
In addition, Bai Xiaopeng and his wife have to do business while taking care of their children, they are tired enough, and if they bring the snow over at this time, it will only increase their burden and pressure.
The mother-in-law thought that as long as the family is together and can twist a rope, where the child is not important, she hopes that the little two can earn money well, take the two children well, and the granddaughter Bai Xue she is willing to carry all the time.
First, they were reluctant to do so, and second, they were also to reduce their burdens.
It is rare for the mother-in-law to have such a transparent idea in the end, and she should be praised.
Write at the end:
Although Zhengzhou's educational resources may be better, for children, at her age, and the special experience of parental divorce, she is still better to follow her grandmother.
Among them, the most important thing to reflect on is the child's father, Bai Xiaopeng, who is not a competent father, nor is he a qualified son, and after many years, when the child grows up, I don't know if he will have regrets and guilt.
Children are angels sent by Heaven, and no matter how many contradictions and disputes there have been between husband and wife, they should not be angry with children.
The child is innocent and pitiful, and since he brought her into this world, he must hold up a piece of heaven for her, rather than blindly evading responsibility.
Even if you give a few hundred yuan every month, occasionally buy some toys to come back, and make more phone calls, these seemingly ordinary actions can warm a child's heart and enrich her spirit.
She can also fill her love groove with energy, and when she grows up, she will also have the ability to love others and know how to love her own children.