01
Everyone's old age is like walking on ice, trembling, like approaching the abyss, like walking on thin ice. If you are not careful, you will fall into the abyss.
Every hurdle of life is actually not easy. And this level in the later years is the last hurdle for the rest of our lives, and whether we can break through determines whether our future is stable or not.
For later years, how do you think it is better to deal with it?
In the eyes of many people, people are old, in fact, no one is reliable, or money is the most important. With money, everything is fine. No money, nothing. Whether there is money or not will directly affect the quality of life in later life.
Is money really all that happiness is in later life? Not necessarily.
What is happiness? Satisfying the various desires and needs of human beings themselves, so that the human heart can be calmed down, that can slowly approach happiness. Money is just a key factor in multiple desires and needs.
If you want an old man to be truly happy, you must start from the three aspects of spiritual satisfaction, material satisfaction and self-satisfaction. Without any point, no one will be happy.
In general, in the old age, even if you have more savings, these types of old people will not be stable for the rest of their lives.
02
The old man who is sick in bed will not be happy for the rest of his life.
The greatest sorrow in this world is that people are old, have no money, and are bedridden, unable to resist this unfortunate life, and can only spend the second half of their lives in a dark room, and the second half of their lives are basically worthless.
The luckier old people often have a certain amount of money, but their health is still not good. At this time, even if you give him a hundred million, it is useless, at most it is just to live better, eat better, and sleep better.
We may wish to consider the question, why does everything in the later years become meaningless after "being sick in bed"?
There are too many elderly people who need children or nurses to eat and drink Lhasa, even if they want to see the sun, they can't do it. For them, being bedridden for a long time will only make people's happiness close to nothing.
There is a very realistic saying that people who are sick in bed, like helpless people waiting for death to come, can only walk in confusion and numbness to the future that already knows the answer.
People, no matter at any time, must pay attention to the health of the body.
Be healthy and your money will add to your old age. And without health, then your money is just a bunch of external objects.
03
Widowed old people, no matter how rich they are, will not be happy.
In the old age, who is consistent with our interests? Is it a child or a wife?
To put it bluntly, children and our interests are always at odds. They have their own families to take care of, and they have their own careers to struggle with, and they simply don't have the money and energy to take care of their parents.
Only our wives are in line with our interests. The wife wants to be stable to the old, and we also want to be stable to the old. Everyone's pursuit is the same, which determines that the wife is the person we are closest to in our later years.
As the saying goes, young couples come together for the elderly.
When we are young, we choose to get married, so that in our old age, we can harvest the "companionship" of our lovers, so that we will not spend the rest of our lives alone.
The most desolate thing in the world is that the lover has left him, but he cannot keep it, and can only go to the end of his life in endless lamentations, and he will end up alone.
You know, among the three major tragedies of life, there is a widow in the old age, which is helpless.
04
The old man who has been abandoned by his children will not be happy no matter how rich he is.
Since ancient times, we have all had such a concept - raising children and preventing old age.
We raise our children in order to let them provide for us. Ethically, this is a matter of filial piety. From an economic point of view, this is intertemporal investment.
Only today, people have slowly discovered that the practice of raising children and preventing old ageing is no longer useful. Since children have problems even supporting themselves, it is normal that they cannot feed the elderly and cannot take care of their parents.
However, in the process of raising children and preventing the elderly, it is not just as simple as using money to help parents retire, but also has a core, that is, "companionship". Just think, when people are old, who wants to grow old alone?
This kind of family tragedy of loneliness and old age, we only need to look at the countryside to know.
The elderly in the countryside can only become the left-behind year after year, there is no good life to live, and the children are far away from them. To put it more seriously, they are abandoned by children.
This, after all, is something that cannot be done. Children also have to make money, but they can't fulfill filial piety, which is the so-called "loyalty and filial piety dilemma".
05
The old man with an extreme temperament will not be happy no matter how rich he is.
Life is not only a high-quality material, but also a positive attitude. If you live your mind well, it is worth it in the world.
A good mentality is generally peaceful and indifferent, without any extreme emotions and psychology.
However, with the development of materialized life and the spread of the whole society's irritability, in fact, the temperament of the elderly will slowly become more aroused.
I don't know how to understand my children, I don't know how to tolerate the people around me, and I have high requirements. In the end, it's just that you can't live with yourself.
You know, any extreme and extreme will make family conflicts and quarrels increase. Perhaps, some misfortunes are caused by others, while some misfortunes are caused by themselves.
Therefore, when people are old, they develop a good attitude, more gentle, less irritable, that is the great wisdom of dealing with people in their old age.
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