My mother-in-law came to my house once, and her savings for three years became zero

01.

I've always felt that everything should be discussed between husband and wife, especially when it comes to money.

It is not that it is necessary to spend how much money today, but also to explain to each other one by one. But at least, the amount is relatively large, especially the money that two people have saved together.

One of them needs to use it, and it should be a natural thing to discuss with the other party.

But my husband didn't think so, and we got into a divorce because of this matter.

My husband Li Chang and I were high school classmates, and at that time, the two sides had a good feeling for each other, but because they wanted to take the college entrance examination, they did not break through this layer of window paper, and later he confessed to me in his freshman year.

Our hometown is also in a different town in the same city, the work is in the city, after 2 years of work, we both want to get married.

His parents had no opinion on me, and I had had a few times in the past, and my attitude was average, not enthusiastic, and not cold.

At first, I thought that the two of them had this temper, but later my parents inquired about it to find out the reason.

Li Chang also has a younger brother, when his mother gave birth to this child, he suffered a lot, and the child was not in good health since birth.

Therefore, Li Chang's mother has always loved this little son, and then it has slowly evolved into an eccentric eye, and she is not very concerned about the eldest son, and naturally has no enthusiasm for the future eldest daughter-in-law.

My parents actually disagreed for this reason. But I don't listen, I think I have a good relationship with Li Chang, and we both said that we would buy a house in the city after getting married.

Don't live together, where there will be some big contradictions.

I have always known that I have to rely on myself to live my life, so I have never thought about how to have my in-laws, so naturally I don't worry about my in-laws not loving me enough.

But I was so naïve at the time, I forgot, you didn't want your in-laws to help, but your in-laws may need your help.

02.

I insisted, and my parents finally reluctantly agreed.

The marriage house was bought with a loan down payment, and both sides paid for the family, and the savings from our work were used to simply decorate the house.

I didn't want a bride price when I got married, so my family bought home appliances as a dowry, and after the wedding, I really started my married life.

In fact, in all these years of marriage, I have always felt very happy.

Friends around me also think that I married a good husband, Li Chang has a good temper, but also made a good dish, never felt that housework and cooking should be a woman's business, it is very gentle and considerate.

When we got married, we said that we would divide our own salaries, but every month we would put one-third of our salaries on a card, which was my name and had always been in my hand.

We both thought about using it to change houses in a few years, after all, our current house is only one room and one living room, and it is really not enough to live with children, and we also want to buy school district houses.

This is actually not bad, we have never had a conflict, and we will naturally bear the daily life expenses of small families.

He also often buys me gifts, clothes and shoes that I like, and he knows that he will buy them for me.

Naturally, I'm pretty much the same to him. Our married life is really warm and happy.

Seeing that I am happy every day, my parents are also relieved.

Regarding the money of both of us, I myself have saved only one-third of it, and there is still the rest for expenses, and the excess is also deposited on the pay card.

Thinking that I can finally add some money to buy a school district house, I thought Li Chang was the same, but it was not.

My in-laws live in the town, because they do not live together, my husband feels ashamed of his parents, so he gives living expenses every month.

I know this, and I think it should be.

But how he gives it, not how much fixed amount per month, illness or other needs to give.

Instead, the salary is paid first, and then the next salary is paid, no matter how much is left, all of it is given.

Speaking of which, our expenses are actually not large, and his salary is 1,000 higher than mine, so in theory, he should have more than me every month.

But he didn't have a penny of savings (not including one-third of the money to buy a house), and when I found out, I asked him euphemistically, and his explanation at the time was that when his in-laws paid the money, he just wanted to pay them back to their in-laws.

I have an unspeakable taste in my heart, what about my parents, why did you never mention it? Knowing that I didn't pay back my parents, do you think my parents don't have to pay it back?

I didn't ask for a bride price, I didn't even want three gold, wasn't it because your parents made a down payment? If you had said that this down payment was a loan, I would have a bride price.

But he felt that I was vain and unfilial in saying this.

For the first time since we fell in love, we had an awkward fight and did not speak for several days.

03.

Later, he spoke to me first, because my mother-in-law and uncle were coming to town to celebrate my mother-in-law's birthday.

Say it's a waste of money to stay in a hotel, just a few nights in our living room.

I thought about my mother-in-law's birthday, and I really couldn't refuse and agreed.

The husband was very excited and went to pick up his parents and brother, and the family said that they had laughed for two days.

The younger brother and father-in-law went back on the third day, and the mother-in-law said that there was still something to tell the eldest son, and that she would stay one more day.

I thought we didn't go back much, my mother-in-law missed her son, and if I stayed one more day, I would stay one more day.

Who knew that that night, the mother-in-law pulled Li Chang and did not know what to say, and when Li Chang returned to the bedroom, I fell asleep.

The next morning, the mother-in-law left, I got up and was embarrassed, asked my husband, why the mother-in-law did not go back to me, we better send her back.

Li Chang smiled and said, No, I called a car for my mother, very safe, rest assured.

I smiled and said, that's fine, just when I was about to ask what the mother and son talked about last night, he took the initiative to talk to me.

It turned out that the little uncle was going to get married to his girlfriend and wanted to buy a wedding house, and the in-laws' savings were all lost by the little uncle's business, and now he really had no money to buy a house, so he thought of Li Chang.

I was stunned, and before I could react, my husband continued: My mother hopes that we will help my brother, and I promised to give my brother the money we have saved in recent years to buy a marriage house for my brother.

04.

I refused at the time, I said no, this money is what we saved to buy a house, we saved for three years, you say give it to give?

Seeing that I did not agree, he was not happy, saying that my mother said that when we got married, the family paid for the house, and now the younger son naturally has to pay for it when he gets married.

I laughed angrily, your family originally paid for it, but in the past three years, haven't you paid it off? Besides, why don't your parents have any money, don't you know? Isn't it all your brother who lost money in business? Why is it that now that we are married, let us give him the money we have saved so hard to buy a house.

When Li Chang heard this, he was a little angry, and his voice grew louder, saying: I have agreed, you will say not to give, besides, my brother said that he will pay it back.

How I told Li Chang, he repeatedly said that he had agreed.

I was very angry and told him that you agreed without consulting with me, this matter does not count, you told your mother-in-law, I did not agree.

Li Chang shouted that I was cold-blooded, saying that there was something to discuss, I was the head of the family, and I had the final say.

I mentioned divorce, and I said that if you give this money, it means that you are not ready to have children and are not ready to live with me. Then I packed up my things and went back to my mother's house.

As a result, a week passed, Li Chang did not react at all, if the card was still on me, I suspected that he had given this money away.

Am I wrong? Did he lend money to his family and didn't consult with me, or was I wrong? If I bow my head and go back now, I will definitely give this money.

If I insist, maybe I'm divorced?

How should I choose, my mother-in-law came over, three years of savings soaked in soup, how to live this day.

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