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The hardest prodded experience
For men or girls with high emotional intelligence, sulting people in the invisible is a common thing in soldiers, but being prodded by people they don't like and have low emotional intelligence is like a nightmare. Obviously, I want to block the black in minutes, but in most cases, I still have to smile in my heart because of the relationship between colleagues, classmates or the face of the introducer.
So in the hardest flirtatious experience you have ever encountered, what kind of shocking words or rigid routines did he use? What's the most funny thing about you?
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*Title source: Question 5 of this issue of Micro-Q&A
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Question 1
Keywords: remarriage and mate selection
Watch the doll sister micro-quiz every day, and the benefits are a lot, than the heart doll sister
Boyfriend 176, 75kg, 43 years old, has a house and a car, an annual income of 300,000, alone, has a son 9 years old with his ex-wife
I am 170,55kg, 29 years old, with an annual income of 80,000, no house or car, not alone, and have a son 4 years old with my ex-husband
My boyfriend and I were introduced by a colleague and confirmed our relationship for a year. Usually treats me very well, the relationship is not bad, the daily expenses are him, he will buy gifts for the holidays, and nothing else. Not very knowledgeable about his finances.
I got married five years ago due to pregnancy, my ex-husband is in a third-tier city, about 2.3 hours away from my home, I married from a second-tier city for the past two years and then divorced due to the other party's cheating, when I was young, I didn't understand how to manage feelings, resulting in a breakdown of feelings, after the divorce, I returned to my own home to live and work, and went to my ex-husband's house on weekends to accompany the children
Her ex-husband is in poor health, has diabetes complications and suffers from depression. My ex-mother-in-law and ex-husband took turns asking me to go back to take care of the children, (my father had cancer, my mother died early, so I couldn't get my own family)
I haven't told my boyfriend about this yet, and I don't know how to open my mouth. He was very mindful of his last marriage, met his parents, and was not particularly enthusiastic about me.
I am very confused about the direction of my feelings in the future, and I hope that the baby sister can give me guidance. The following picture attached to the photo of me and my boyfriend, if I am selected, I can't help but be grateful, I wish the baby sister a happy life and all the best.
answer
When I saw your question, I still think your problem is quite difficult, if it is difficult to find my current boyfriend, the other party is not active, go back to take care of the child, and the current boyfriend can't keep it nine times out of ten.
But pull down and see your photo problem. In the photos sent, whether it is a selfie or a photo taken by him, you are very good-looking, and in the photo with your boyfriend, your MV crushes each other fiercely. So don't feel like you have to be with the other person, you can completely change to a partner who can accept your real situation.
However, you are so beautiful, it seems that the choice is far less than your boy can treat you slowly, you are still a little reluctant to leave, is it possible that there are other things in him that you can't give up? What exactly is it? You have to think about this question clearly to avoid running into a boy who short-chooses you next time.
Depending on your ex-husband's situation, nine times out of ten, you have to have long-term contact with this child, and be mentally prepared that this child may belong to you in the future. When looking again, greatly reduce the criteria for choosing a mate, look down, lower the expectation of emotional value, and find the situation that accepts you with your MV, and is willing to give you the other half of the long-term choice.
Question 2
Keyword: breakup
I am 34,153cm this year, 45kg, junior college, salary of more than 3,000, I have a history of schizophrenia (he has been informed), divorced for six years, have a daughter returned to her ex-husband, from a rural family, non-independent, stone cloth woman
He, 31 years old, 170cm, 60kg, has been in love two or three times before, junior high school education, monthly income of up to 6000 but no stable job, from the countryside, non-alone, like to play games and fish, I recognize his appearance, ask the doll to judge the attribute
At present, they are all living in third-tier cities, they have known each other for more than ten days, they have been living together for eight months, and soon after they met, his family gave a bride price of 40,000, with average emotional concentration and less sex. I don't like to talk about feelings with me is a little evasive, when I was in the fifth month of getting along, I asked my boyfriend if he didn't want to get a license, saying that he could give birth to a child and get a license, and finally asked again in the seventh and eighth months whether he didn't want to get a license, I proposed to break up, and he didn't keep me and moved out of his house and returned half of the bride price
After the breakup, there was a conversation that said that I was not assertive, and said that I was not assertive, and said that I thought I could think the same as his family, but what my father said seriously hurt his family's hearts and caused him to dislike us.
My family's words were inappropriate, and the counselor also mentioned it, and I look back now. My dad disliked the bride price at the beginning, I didn't stand up and help his family say a good word, and later my dad chatted with his dad unpleasantly, and I didn't maintain the relationship, so I felt that I was not assertive, and now they have broken up for two months, and I can't let go because of the time and energy
May I ask Sister Doll, is he a good match for me? Do I re-redeem, or go on a blind date, can saving this boy give me a long choice?
answer
The most important thing for you to do now is not to re-save this boy, nor to go on a blind date, but to see a doctor and cure schizophrenia first. Schizophrenia generally has a trigger, and you have to find out the root cause of the disease and completely cure it.
You know, under normal circumstances, the man will be very concerned about the woman's history of mental illness, so you can only consider choosing a mate after you have completely recovered and made yourself a non-sick and normal person. In addition, if you are sure that you will not relapse after recovery, it is best not to mention this matter to the other person when choosing a mate in the future.
Finally, I hope that after you are cured, you will face the real reality as soon as possible. You came to ask in December last year, I was 34 years old at the time, and now I will turn the New Year to be 35, low height, low education, low income, plus "divorced for six years and a daughter returned to her ex-husband", judging from the photos, the appearance is also middle and lower. With your conditions, in the mate selection market, there is not much choice, and if you want to reap long-term choices, you are not qualified to make trouble.
If you never know what kind of conditions you should match, you will spend more time and energy in the future, but it will still be difficult to find the other half who can give you a long-term choice.
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Question 3
Keyword: whether it matches
Hello baby sister, if you encounter emotional problems, please consult you, thank you for creating a platform to answer ❤️ questions for everyone
My daughter, 99 years, 164cm, technical secondary school, currently engaged in waiter work, salary of 4,000 yuan, hometown in the countryside, not alone, has younger siblings
Target 98 years of college students, annual income of about 200,000, height 182, weight 150 pounds, third-tier city loans to have a house, full BMW three-series cars, not only has a younger brother
and boyfriend blind date platform acquaintance, boyfriend confirmed the relationship to have more than a month, currently living together, boyfriend is stone scissors, meeting made me fall in love at first sight, usually can also speak well, self-evaluation stone cloth, self-aware Gao Pan boyfriend, usually will also worship, sometimes get along will feel very boring, want to chat with each other but don't know how to chat, ask the doll sister to help analyze whether the two sides match, whether to break up can be accepted, thank you again
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answer
Judging from the chat history, I don't think you are cloth, you are quite able to speak, but sometimes the answer is really not on point. For example, one of the other party's memes has been sent more than a dozen times, and you suddenly come to hold the scene, which exposes that you usually do not pay attention to the other party's chat, do not pay too much attention to him, and let him perceive it.
Plus, you two are not too well matched in themselves. Your monthly salary is 4000, technical secondary school, waiter, want to marry him who has an annual income of 20w and has a house and a car, although it is not completely without opportunities, but the difficulty of entering marriage is quite high. The most important thing is that you only sent one photo, you can clearly see that you are taken from the front photo, even if it is a photo that you have carefully selected and beautified, the appearance has not reached the point of crossing classes, which is difficult.
If you earn 40,000 or 400,000 a month, there are paid solutions, but you are now earning 4,000 a month, and it is difficult to improve how to improve, to put it bluntly, even if it is recommended that you go for a skinbooster, you will be painful.
So there is really no good way, girls want to improve themselves, either go to the heart, or go money, but you don't have both, so this boy really can't necessarily go to the end with you, he has too many better choices, you have to be mentally prepared.
Question 4
Keywords: boyfriend's investment
Hello dear baby sister and assistants, I have been following for a while through the introduction of friends. Micro Q&A is also watched every day, unfortunately the attention time is too late, the love life is a mess, there is a very distressing thing I hope to get your solution.
Female, 95, not alone, home is a third-tier city working in a second-tier city, 170/49, self-test attribute cloth, annual salary 10
Male, 95, lonely, second-tier native, 173/70, self-discipline likes fitness, choose one of three, visual scissors, annual salary 30
My appeal is:
We met on the blind date platform in September this year, and as soon as the relationship was confirmed, he took me on a trip, and I took the initiative to buy a return ticket and part of the meal money and everything else. I usually go out on a date to eat and visit the park, and I don't give gifts.
I discussed marriage with him, and he said he didn't want to hand over his salary and give me the financial power. I asked if I lost my job after giving birth, and he said he would support me. I feel that he is very willing to spend money on himself, making a hair of nearly a thousand, but not very willing to me. Once, I asked: If I don't have money, but I want something very expensive, will you buy it for me? He replied to see how you were doing, which made me feel bad.
Sister Doll, I feel that he is already the best I can pick out in my current situation, so I don't want to break up, but I am not very generous, how can I get more investment?
Concealment with a license
answer
"I feel like he's the best I can pick out in my current situation, so I don't want to break up"
Do you think that only you know about this matter, and he does not know?
Do you think he hasn't gotten along with other girls?
Doesn't he have a way to identify what kind of girl is good and what kind of girl is bad?
Did he take advantage of you, didn't you know it?
Impossible, right?
So he is not generous enough and good enough to you, and his intention is to tell you: If you are willing to accept such a treatment, I will not reject being with you; But if you're not willing to accept it, then I can only do this far.
It's important to know:
If he is willing to hand over his salary, give financial power to the other party, and is especially willing to spend money, he can find a better person than you.
Do you think he wouldn't know that? He must have known.
Your photo looks energetic, the eyes are a little ambitious, and it really looks like a cut cloth. And his hair is curly, a pure and harmless look, not like someone who will spend money on you, but someone who wants to spend your money. You, as a cloth, should stand up and make your own money. Especially your appearance, compared to doing a small business offline, you are especially suitable for being a female saleswoman in the circle of friends, so that you can make good use of your advantages.
Women's cloth, don't always think about taking money from men, because some women are destined to not get money from men. It is clear that you can make money on your own, so don't do this kind of thing of asking for fish.
Question 5
Keywords: female wealth and male appearance
Hello dear baby baby assistant, pay attention to the doll for five or six years, today finally plucked up the courage to ask questions, like the feeling that the star who has been chasing for five or six years is about to see a real person, very excited, thank you for advising the sisters and enriching me, will continue to study every day, hope to be selected, together.
I am 89 years, not alone, B cup, 160cm, 58kg, annual salary of one or two million, bad temper is not gentle, occasionally coquettish and stupid, can take care of each other in life, expenses are all I come, do not calculate and do not settle accounts, big and small things will ask for his opinion, living expenses to him, my work achievements have his credit, he accompanies me from scratch, at home he mops the floor and washes dishes and washes clothes, and I do the rest.
He has been 85 years, not alone, 179cm, 78kg, annual salary of about 50,000, ML 3 minutes, handsome and temperamental, occasionally pretending to be cute, the previous girlfriends are all rich and male appearance, there are other parties who promised to get married, directly live in tens of millions of mansions after marriage, and there are also mothers-in-law who gave him 1 million to start a business, he gave up because he couldn't bear the princess's illness.
At present, I am brought into the bank, the company I am the majority shareholder and corporate successor, he owns the small shares, has been relatively satisfied, together for 5 years, almost 24 hours together.
Demands:
Next year can be safe to get pregnant and have children, but walking on one leg is never a way, my countless encouragement and mobilization, bitter talk about his seriously ill father, taking care of his father who lost his freedom, or working for half an hour and sleepy to sleep, only requiring a monthly income of more than 10,000 in our industry, hard work, he is not lazy. Ask the doll sister to support you
answer
Before answering your questions, you can recall these questions.
Is this boy not only "sleepy to sleep after half an hour of work", but also sleeps longer than the average person? Moreover, Does he also spend a lot of time in the toilet?
I believe the answer to both questions is most likely yes. This is not something I can do by pinching my fingers, but a common phenomenon for boys like him who cut sex.
As you can see from the photo, this boy is tall and handsome, plus his "previous girlfriends were all rich and manly, there were those who promised to get married, and they directly lived in tens of millions of mansions after marriage, and there were also mothers-in-law who gave him 1 million to start a business", his scissiveness can be said to be very strong. For a boy like this, you might as well expect him to compete as much as to expect your company's front desk to win the crown. (Source of the title of this issue)
As the saying goes, driving ducks to the shelves is exactly what you do now, forcing the other party to do something he is not good at at all. Put yourself in your shoes, if he asks you to be in the top 10% of the most gentle and considerate group of girls, can you do it? If you can't do it yourself, then don't ask him to earn more than 10,000 a month.
You know, the previous relationships were all female rich men, and there was no change to you, and the relationship between the two of you is still a rich woman. What you have to do is to be responsible for the matter of "money", and work hard to compete yourself, so that you can exchange the "appearance" of the other party, let the other party stay by your side, continue to tolerate your bad temper, take care of all kinds of household chores of "mopping the floor, washing dishes, washing vegetables and clothes", and take care of your big rear.
If you are not willing to bear the obligation of making money yourself, if you have to pull him along, it is difficult to be strong, then he will most likely leave you and change your girlfriend again. With his high choice, it is not necessary for you, look at the brilliant ex, it is not difficult for him to find another girlfriend, and the new girlfriend is likely to be better than you.
Besides, you also said that "my achievements at work have his credit", I guess it may be his connections, or his communication and reception ability, etc., is his credit not worth anything, if you really want to convert, should you divide a part of your male competition to count on his head, how can this still be said that "walking on one leg is never a way"? Hasn't he been assisting you and accompanying you "from scratch" to go hand in hand with you?
In addition, you have "started from scratch" in the past five years, and it is inevitable that a lot of negative emotions will occur in the process of competition, and you yourself are "not good-tempered and not gentle", this boy can get along with you for five years, which shows that he has been tolerating you and healing you. How many people go to a psychologist when they are under pressure, it costs hundreds of dollars an hour, and the two of you have been together for 5 years, almost 24 hours together", and the emotional value he provides for you in these five years, if you want to exchange it for money, is no less than the male competition you fight.
As for your mention that he is "temperamental", this should be your misunderstanding, this boy's state is so cut, it doesn't look like a temperament, and he also "occasionally pretends to be cute", how can a person with a big temper pretend to be cute, how can he "sleep after working for half an hour". What you call him a big temper is probably just a little stronger when you are particularly troublesome or hot-tempered, and this cannot be his norm.
Speaking of which, I think that I have a relative, the situation of the husband and wife is very similar to yours, the woman has a bad temper, and the man loves to sleep. In fact, in the face of their partner's emotional attack, scissor men instinctively want to escape, sleep is a way for them to digest themselves, can make them quickly return blood, wake up and continue to catch their partner's negative emotions.
All in all, the matter of male competition, you yourself work hard to play, don't be strong, don't ignore everything the other party pays, since you choose to take the road of women's wealth and male appearance, recognition can open the door to happiness.