Text/Ma Zikai
The company has a new media operation specialist, who looks very well-behaved and looks good. But these are not important, what is important is her high emotional intelligence.
She is particularly good at dealing with everyone, good at saying some beautiful words, good at responding to the leader's questions appropriately, and better at maintaining good interaction with the leader. She was therefore particularly welcomed by the leadership.
Curiously, though, not only is her emotional intelligence high, but so is her 12-year-old daughter. I wondered, is emotional intelligence also inherited? However, although her daughter's emotional intelligence is quite high, her IQ is very ordinary, and her learning is in a more difficult situation.
Seeing her daughter's situation reminds me of other people around me, of other families. Not to mention, it's kind of interesting!
The vast majority of families I know have shown such results: that is, parents have high emotional intelligence, and children's emotional intelligence is also high; parents have high IQ, especially mothers have high IQ, and children's IQ is also high; but parents have high emotional intelligence and average IQ, and although the child's emotional intelligence is high, the academic performance will be relatively poor. I don't know if there's a certain universality to this stuff, but the vast majority of people I know are like this.
01 Examples of high emotional intelligence of parents around them, and high emotional intelligence of their children
Little H, my friend for many years, from northern Shaanxi, the couple are from northern Shaanxi. Little H has a high emotional intelligence, but the IQ is generalized. He has a baby daughter. Emotional intelligence is online, but learning is very poor.
The saying goes that Little H is what I met when I was at work, and we dug graves for others together. It is said that there was an employee in the workshop who suddenly fell ill and died, and that employee happened to be Xiao H's master, which was equivalent to him digging a grave for his master. The employee happened to be a relative of a workshop director in my workshop, so without saying a word, he took a few of us to assist in the excavation of the grave.
Little H showed a high emotional intelligence when he met me, although his IQ was very average.
What I didn't expect was that his baby daughter actually had an average IQ, but fortunately she was very sensible, very smart, and had a high emotional intelligence, which was really similar to her father.
Speaking of old K, there are two sons, emotional intelligence online, learning is not moving at all. But the old K emotional intelligence is high, and the two two words of emotional intelligence are not bad.
Old K is the kind of person who has not studied well since childhood, and is bored with learning. It is not known whether this point of his was inherited to his son. The eldest study is very general, belonging to the old K to spend money to let him go to the university at his own expense, and the second is constantly causing trouble during the school period, until the end he can no longer go to school.
However, the two sons of old K are very talkative and very intelligent.
Old K himself, that is a high emotional intelligence in the "human spirit", the mind is quite shrewd, the person is also quite intelligent, very good at winning people's hearts, very good at dealing with others.
Old J, a native of Sichuan, his wife is a native of Guangdong. Speaking of these two mouths, the emotional intelligence is quite high, they have a baby daughter, the emotional intelligence seems to be good, but unfortunately the learning can not be learned at all.
Old J used to be my subordinate, so I knew him too well. I don't know what he used to learn, but he was a soldier for a few years. Roughly speaking, he studied very generally, his wife studied in general, the two people met and became husband and wife in a large supermarket, and his wife was 6 years older than him. Just a precious daughter, going to school in Sichuan, he and his wife work in Guangdong.
His daughter's study is indeed a bit laborious, and the grades belong to the lower middle, but fortunately, the emotional intelligence is quite high.
I don't know if emotional intelligence is a genetic result, but from the above examples, it seems that it is really Oh!
02 An example of a parent with low emotional intelligence but a good IQ
People with high IQs and high emotional intelligence are relatively rare.
Anyone I know has either a high IQ or a high emotional intelligence. I rarely meet people who have high emotional intelligence and IQ. Of course, people with low emotional intelligence and low IQ have seen a lot.
Around me, those parents have high IQs, their children generally show high IQs, their academic performance is good, and they also do well in college. However, emotional intelligence is really not online.
Lao Zhang is now the head of a state-owned enterprise, and we have lived in a dormitory for more than a year, so we know each other's roots and have a good relationship.
Lao Zhang was a bachelor's degree that year, and his IQ was of course good.
Lao Zhang has a baby daughter with an equally good IQ and is now in graduate school.
However, although the IQ is very good, the emotional intelligence is average.
Speaking of Lao Zhang, the emotional intelligence is also average. Is there something to do with heredity?
Old Q, a relative of mine, has two children, both college students.
Speaking of old Q and his wife, both of whom have no good emotional intelligence. His two children also don't have a good emotional intelligence.
However, the IQ of the people is online, so the two children have a good IQ, so the two children not only succeed in their studies, but also do their jobs quite well.
Unfortunately, these two children, a girl and a boy, although the IQ is quite high, but the emotional intelligence is too low. So they are always difficult to get along with others, and their daughter is in her 30s and still has not been able to start a family. You say it has nothing to do with emotional intelligence, right? Nor is it completely irrelevant.
And then old D, just a baby son. He and his wife IQ are online, so it was okay to study in that year. But in terms of emotional intelligence, I don't dare to compliment.
The baby son has completely inherited the IQ of the two people, so the IQ is not only online, but also relatively high. Academic performance is also relatively good, always at the top. However, this top-ranking child, the emotional intelligence is relatively low, it is difficult to get along with others, and from time to time with classmates and even teachers. His parents were depressed.
I've read a lot of reports, I've seen a lot of analyses, and it seems to make some sense to say that a child's IQ is 60% dependent on the mother. So is emotional intelligence also inherited?
In the case of their own side, parents with high emotional intelligence and generally low IQ are generally not very high; in their children's generation, it seems that this is still the case. And the parents have a high IQ, the child's IQ is indeed good, but the IQ is high, the emotional intelligence seems to be not so good.
I don't know if there's anything universal about it. It's just that there are too many similar situations around!