The child is verbally attacked outside, these few sentences let the child learn, high emotional intelligence to go back

As the saying goes: People are good and are deceived, and horses are good to be ridden.

When your child is verbally attacked by other children, does he choose to be silent or to go back?

01 "Mom, I'm being laughed at again..."

The child of a colleague, called Yuanyuan, an 8-year-old girl, every day after school, colleagues will take their daughters to the company.

Once, when the two were still at the elevator entrance, they heard a colleague reprimanding the little girl: "When others scold you, do you only know how to cry?" You are so weak, you deserve to be scolded! ”

Colleagues have recently been more stressed at work and have a good temper and can understand, but it seems inappropriate to talk to children like this.

Later, colleagues said that when the child was in school, he was often ridiculed and verbally attacked, and his own child was too glassy,And as soon as he was told by others, he would come back to cry. A classmate said that she was black, and she cried all the time when she came home, and she refused to go outdoors again.

There are too many similar things like this, as a mother, I have comforted her countless times and found it useless, so now I am too lazy to comfort, and I even lose my temper with my child.

After children enter the school, it is inevitable that they will encounter verbal attacks and ridicule. If the child often encounters it, and he will not deal with it himself, then the parents comfort the child, but also only treat the symptoms, not the root cause.

In similar situations, parents have to teach their children how to "scare people" with high emotional intelligence.

02 How to "scare people" with high emotional intelligence

High emotional intelligence "intimidating" this kind of thing, one or two sentences are not clear, so the Easter egg dad listed some of the common "verbal attacks" on campus, in these cases, how children should "scare".

Verbal attack keyword one: no face.

"Shudder" go back: Yes, don't face it, send it to you, just you don't have it.

Verbal attack keyword two: ugly.

"Shy" back: Yes, I am ugly, but I am confident when I see you.

Verbal attack keyword three: you are so black.

"Shy" back: So I don't have your superficiality.

Verbal Attack Keyword Four: You're stupid.

"Fear" back: As far as your IQ is concerned, I am afraid that I will not be able to find this problem.

Verbal Attack Keyword Five: Roll.

"Shudder" go back: You are so round, you come to demonstrate.

Verbal Attack Keyword Six: You are sick.

"Shudder" go back: Infected by you.

Verbal Attack Keyword Seven: You're so short.

"Shy" back: dog eyes look down on people.

After reading it, do you think it is very cool?

In fact, in our lives, we often encounter these verbal attacks, sometimes although it seems to be a joke, but it is really hurtful. In this way, his wounded heart did not seem to hurt so much.

03 "Intimidation" is never the focus

Let the child learn to "shy", in fact, "shy" is really not the point, the point is that the child learns to protect himself.

How good are the children who can "scare"?

Children who will "scare" are not easy to glass hearts

The speaker has no intention, the listener has a heart.

Children who will not be intimidated, when they are attacked by other people's words, many of those words may always hover in the child's ears. Even, remember for a lifetime.

When the Easter egg father went to school, there was a girl A in the class, her mouth was very strong, and what others said about her, unreasonable, verbal attacks, would be scared back by her.

Another girl in the class, B, was told and cried.

Later, they became at the same table. Every time B was said by someone else, A would help her back. Gradually, after B was said by others, he stopped crying, and even slowly learned to "shy".

"Shy" back is not only to make the other party shut up and put away those unpleasant words, but also to "shy" out the unpleasantness.

Can "shy" back, the child does not suffer losses, it is not easy to glass heart. When such children grow up, they are more open-minded.

Children who will "scare" are not easy to be bullied

In fact, "verbal attack" is also a kind of bullying.

And the best way to refuse, stay away from, and escape from this bullying is to "scare" back.

I am a college classmate with a very good personality, but he has a "reverse scale", that is, he is not allowed to be said to be short, and he is anxious as soon as he says it.

Later, I learned that when he was in elementary school, he was often ridiculed by his classmates for being short, and he didn't know how to "fight back", and then the group of children began to bully him harder. In the end, his parents had no choice but to transfer him.

But the word "short" became a shadow of his life.

A child who is verbally attacked and does not "shy" will be labeled by the child who bullied him: timidity, and the word that is attacked.

In fact, most children are the masters who bully the soft and fear the hard, after all, the cost of bullying weak children is very low and easy. Therefore, in the face of these children who can "scare", they will not be bored with themselves.

In this way, our children are not easy to become the object of bullying.

Children who will "scare" think faster and have higher emotional intelligence

When you talk to others, do you often have times when you can't get someone to talk to?

In fact, there are two problems, one is slow thinking, and the other is low emotional intelligence.

Don't underestimate the "shyness", which requires the first reaction after others say something, in order to be more efficient. Only when children slowly learn to "shy" can they gradually improve their thinking speed, and their emotional intelligence will be higher.

Message

Finally, I would like to emphasize that "intimidation" is based on being "verbally attacked", which is "benign" self-protection. Correctly guiding children to "shy" is more conducive to children's socialization and helps to improve children's emotional intelligence.

At the beginning, the child will not go back, it does not matter, what the child is attacked, the parents will teach. Gradually, the child will form a "shy" thinking, in this regard, will no longer be bullied!