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The hardest prodded experience
For men or girls with high emotional intelligence, sulting people in the invisible is a common thing in soldiers, but being prodded by people they don't like and have low emotional intelligence is like a nightmare. Obviously, I want to block the black in minutes, but in most cases, I still have to smile in my heart because of the relationship between colleagues, classmates or the face of the introducer.
So in the hardest flirtatious experience you have ever encountered, what kind of shocking words or rigid routines did he use? What's the most funny thing about you?
Please write about those experiences of being forcibly prodded that are more uncomfortable than being forcibly kissed~
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*Title source: Question 4 of this issue of Micro-Q&A
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Question 1
Keywords: being junior
Hello baby sister! Excuse me, thank you for your presence, this matter has bothered me for a long time, hesitate to ask again
I am 88,155,49kg, Pisces, unmarried, annual salary 15-30w no car no house single for more than 2 years, beauty industry, have a little deposit.
He, 89, 179, 84kg, C female seat, he has better conditions than me, annual salary of about 100, 2 cars he has seen, Land Rover 90W and BMW 60W, he does food in a listed company, and then partners with others to open several companies to do decoration
We met at camping on National Day, he took the initiative to chase me, said to go to the movie to take me to the private theater, and then I slept with him after about 7 days of acquaintance, knowing each other for 2 months We often go to open a house, and the relationship is also very good, I thought it was good for me to find true love
Sent me WeChat at 11:40pm on November 27? Called, I slept did not receive, when I got up in the morning to reply, has been WeChat deleted after the phone contact, he just said to deal with some things to deal with me after processing, I felt wrong to ask, learned that he is married, the child is 10 years old, the younger is 6 years old, said that he has been separated from his wife for 3 years, and now he is in the process of divorce, and then find me after processing
Afraid that the other party would know my existence, and said that he might leave the house cleanly, he really wanted to be with me, and if he was still willing to be with him, we could only have one child together, and I was confused at that time. Tell him to wait until you're done.
Because at that time he always insisted that he was single, now all WeChat phones are blocked, missing, baby sister, I have to continue to wait for him, I don't know what to do
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answer
This boy is 33 years old, good looking, tall, strong competitive ability, as you said, "annual salary of about 100, seen 2 cars, Land Rover 90W and BMW 60W, he worked in food in a listed company, and then partnered with others to open several companies to do decoration."
With his personal conditions, put in the marriage market, the long-term choice object that can be matched is either particularly beautiful; Either the education is quite high, and the graduation institution is very competent; Or the personality is so good that it explodes, and every word can be said to the other person's heart.
Looking at the photos and chats you sent, it's clear that you don't have any of the three advantages. That is to say, this boyfriend with superior conditions who has been dating you for nearly two months is impossible to match you if you want to choose for a long time. Only when he is short-term, you may meet.
Speaking of which, maybe you are not convinced, then you may wish to see if there are any suitors around you who are comparable to this boy's conditions. Because if you really match this boy choice, then you should easily find the next one who is no worse than him.
From the time you said "I thought it was good for me to find true love", and after learning that he was married and had two children and blocked your WeChat and lost contact, you did not turn around and leave, but still wanted to wait for him to come back to see, you most likely have not met such a good object for you with good conditions, and it will be difficult to meet again in the future, so you are reluctant to let go. This further illustrates that your relationship is short-term. Because girls can climb to objects much higher than their own choice when they choose short, it is normal for you to get all kinds of good treatment given by the other party, short-term choice, anything can happen, but this does not mean that you and him match for a long time.
Since it is a short choice, then he suddenly deleted your WeChat, and informed you of the fact that he was married after the telegram, and "now all WeChat phones are blacked and out of contact", all of this is of course, so you don't need to continue to wait for him, what "now in the divorce, after dealing with me" this kind of words don't believe, he can't find you anymore, even if he really comes back, he can't give you a long choice.
Besides, when you say that "he always insisted that he was single", it means that when you were dating, you also had doubts about your boyfriend's situation, and you also thought that the relationship was strange, right. So that's not surprising now, is it?
What you need to do now is to lower your mind and recognize your true choice, if you have not been able to properly evaluate your match in the long-term market, then you are likely to encounter a similar short-term choice again next time. You are 88 years old and 35 years old, wake up, there is very little time left for you.
Question 2
Keyword: disgust
Hello baby sister, I am a big fan of yours, I have been paying attention for a long time, and I have bought all the books. However, I still have stupid qualifications, I think you are really a wise woman, I look at emotional problems to the point, and I want to ask a question now.
Female 95 160 93 A Cup Not Alone High School Month 5k;
Male 92 172 140 Alone College May 6k.
I have been in love with my husband for four years and married for a year, my husband has a good temper, is careful, diligent, cooks and eats, he does most of the housework, and he is very tolerant of me in life. The in-laws also paid selflessly to their son, the wedding dowry was three gold, the house was added, and the salary card was not handed over, because he had nothing left after paying off the mortgage plus our daily expenses.
We have already agreed that he will pay his salary after paying off the mortgage early next year.
But the frequency of our X life is very low, the process is not good, I don't know if it's because of this, I always feel that our emotional concentration is not high, I can't worship my husband, sometimes a little disgusted.
I want to ask Sister Doll, am I an equal match with my husband? My husband's salary has not been high, and my career is not strong. In the future, I want to accumulate more family assets for future generations, is it not only on my own to compete?
Trouble Sister Doll, I wish Sister Doll good health, a happy family, and a prosperous career in the new year. Love your little fans forever~
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answer
Girls are not virgins and boys are not virgins are two different things. It's like earning 5,000 a month, which is different for girls and boys.
In your relationship, the girl's reproductive resources are missing, the boys' parenting resources are missing, everyone has a short board, you can also make up together. I used to say that men and women are not virgins, and they must make up for it after marriage. This remedy is not necessarily to make up for other women, it may also be emotionally remeticulous, or something else, it is always the kind of place that will make you a little diaphragmatic.
This boy, he is not where you are.
If this guy, he is a particularly positive person in that area, he can't be in love.
If this guy, he is a very enterprising boy who is very interested in that aspect, and he is a virgin, he will not marry you, you can only be in a short-term relationship.
So it's a contradiction that you want to be good and passionate about how good and passionate you want to be in X. If he really pursues in that area, there is a high probability that he will not look for you in the first place. Think about this clearly, think, this man is still by your side now, you have good in-laws, do you get quite a lot? Normally, you should be in an over-ended relationship.
"If you want to accumulate more family assets for future generations, do you have to compete on your own?"
Looking at the skinny and energetic appearance of the whole person in your photo, the cloth is very good, you do have the opportunity to fight for the competition, and it is easier to achieve results than him. But when fighting, you must pay attention to your family and your husband's emotions.
Old fans advanced
Question 3
Keyword: derailment
Dear baby sister and assistants~ Thank you very much for answering your questions for many years! I have encountered a lot of confusion recently, I hope that the baby sister can help analyze, thank you very much!
My daughter, 35, 165, 51, alone in first-tier cities, master's degree from Ivy League University, Internet factory 80+ million year. Two houses have a loan and a car, and my family is better. First time for boyfriend.
He is 36, 184, 93, fitness, a fifth-tier city alone, a general university master's degree in Europe, a foreign company annual 45+ million, a house with a loan and no car. Concealment with a license.
My boyfriend usually spoils me and is considerate, and he cooks every day during the lockdown period to share household chores. I was touched and often expressed my love for him. After two months together, he asked me if I would like to marry him. Have met both parents. His parents were nice to me. He is responsible for most of the expenses on usual dates, buys me a bag for my birthday, and I will return the gift and invite me to dinner.
But he occasionally said that I didn't pay enough, and he wanted to AA with me for travel money. He and I are both emotionally stable. He is even more coquettish, saying that he has always been actively pushing me in the relationship. He often said that he wanted to have children with me~ usually let me look at my phone but did not give the password.
It was recently found that he was talking to people in September (we confirmed the relationship in May, and quarreled in September over travel expenses AA) (with screenshot, he on the right). And found that he slept with this girl and others last year (he said that he was single for more than 1 year before), and chatted with multiple girls in the past six months.
Ask the doll sister for guidance:
1. Am I a high climber?
2. Should I continue my marriage with him? Break up or not
3. What should I do if I continue
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answer
A man has the following characteristics at the same time: fitness, study abroad (migration), AA, do not give mobile phone passwords, have a chat about sao ex-convictions, can write small essays, and give you so much emotional value, how can you, expect him to be a couple?
You are definitely high climbing in this relationship. When you say emotional stability, you mean that he is emotionally stable when getting along, and can quickly contain your instability with emotional value, which is the other party's shear, not your ability. A man with strong scissors will ask you to pay, otherwise he will provide emotional value to others, no matter before and after marriage, cheating will only be more and not less.
In a relationship like this, if you can accept to be big F after marriage, then it is up to you whether to get married or not, but when Big F has the risk of being a big F, you have to think clearly; If you want a dedicated boy to enter a marriage with little risk of stability, you must understand that the conditions of this boy are particularly much worse than the current one. Make your own decision.
Question 4
Keywords: cloth cutting
Hello doll, I am a fan for many years. It has been 20 years since the college classmates fell in love. I once looked down on my husband because my PU was too high, and I felt that he didn't love me enough, and I almost divorced. The most painful time, contact your theory, buy a full set of books, read each issue of Q&A, gradually reduce the PU, not only get back to good, but also accidentally chase the second treasure this year, children are complete, gratitude.
Question: Do you want to ask the doll to help judge, after returning to the workplace, for family harmony, do you need to practice scissors or stones? Do you still want sex?
I am 160 tall, now 130 pounds, and I earn millions a year.
Mr. 168, now 128 pounds, no income.
My provincial capital, other places, I am alone and not alone, all are everywhere.
I used to be Dabu, and I thought Mr. was Shi because he had an average appearance. With in-depth study, I feel more and more that my husband is a clipper? (One question: Are scissors handsome?) Humor is funny, it can also be scissors, right? ）
His work has not been smooth, his business has not been successful, he ended his business the year before last, and he was unemployed after a year of work. But I think it's okay, don't fill the entrepreneurial pit, living expenses are limited. He is willing to take the children, he brings it well, and he will also share the housework, if he doesn't mind the full-time dad, I am willing to take on the task of making money, but unfortunately he still wants to go out to work. At the same time, he also mentioned that I should lose weight as soon as possible. And he thought I had to work hard and said I wasn't fit to stay.
Doll, over the years, I feel that I have gradually shifted to stone cloth, cooking is delicious and loves to clean up.
After maternity leave, if it is for family income, if you change business posts and work hard, will it be too heavy?
Or is it better to change to an easy post, commute on time, and strengthen the stone?
Or is it better to reduce weight and change the cloth as Mr. suggested? thank
answer
"Are the scissors handsome? Humor is funny, it can also be scissors, right? ”
The outer cut includes handsome and good-looking, and the inner cut is simply humorous and interesting. Most girls can't tell the difference between inside and outside.
Most girls can't tell the difference between inner and outer scissors, stone scissors and stone men, stone scissors men and stone scissors, and the difference between female cloth scissors and female scissors. In fact, as long as these are clarified, even if they are very powerful baby fans, this level, looking at people in life, like wearing a fluoroscopy, the other party's preferences, laws, and behavioral logic, can be roughly judged.
Back to your pair, you are one meter six, 130 pounds, and you earn millions a year, and you look at the configuration of women's cloth; Your husband is not ugly or handsome like this, and he will be likable on the inside, that is, the outer stone and the inner cut have not run away.
Then, when he is a stone scissor man, you should be a cloth cutter to match him. But your current weight is still far from the cloth cutter. Cloth cutters include not only good-looking cloth women, but also thin cloth women. Take 10,000 steps back and say, even if you can't be a good-looking cloth, let's become a thin cloth. Otherwise, how can we match? (Source of the title of this issue)
Besides, although your husband is not handsome, he also has a medium level, so he has a little higher choice than you, and you have to be a little worried. And like this kind of boy with a good personality, he has alerted you like this, you should have to raise your spirits. Because it is not to the point where it is unbearable, the scissors will not sound the alarm, and if you do not make changes, the relationship will soon be unsustainable.
Therefore, your husband's proposal: weight loss, work, are all elements for you to do cloth cutting, immediately work in these two directions, the relationship will be saved.
Question 5
Keywords: "A good hand"
Confused I am 98 years old, my ancestral home is in a third-tier city, I grew up and settled in a first-tier city, and I am currently of marriageable age, a little age anxiety, but because my original family is not bad, (the real estate at home is a one-time payment)
I feel that my long life is not bad, but the age of education is a short board, so I feel that my heart is quite high, but at the same time, I am confused, and I don't know what is the long-term choice that suits me? Don't know where to improve yourself next?
I was anxious by those words that don't want to play a good hand, and I begged my doll sister to give me guidance, and I was grateful
answer
You say that you are "anxious by those words that don't want to play a good hand", then let's see if you have a good hand, what are the good cards?
First of all, you "feel that you look good", but in fact your appearance is not "good". Originally, your eyebrows are still sweet and cute, only 155 in height, cloth will like it, but a bucktooth and no chest, especially rejection of cloth, but also unable to attract scissors and stones, so the appearance does not have much advantage in choosing a mate.
Secondly, you feel that "your original family is not bad", if you are an only daughter, it may be not bad, but you have a brother and a sister, not to mention that many families will give priority to leaving real estate to their sons, even if your parents give your three children an equal share, you can only get a 100-square-meter house at most.
In addition, if you work as an HR in a private company, your income should not be very high, and your personal savings are only 13W, and your economic strength is not worth mentioning in first-tier cities where competition for mates is extremely fierce.
Again, as you yourself said, "education age is a short board", in first-tier cities, highly educated girls abound, and your college degree really can't be obtained. 25 years old is indeed not too young.
In summary, you look average, have big shortcomings in height and education, and your ability to compete is not outstanding, and you are "quite high", to put it bluntly, your shear, stone, and cloth are all failing.
You know, you don't have enough cloth sex to hold the scissor man, and there is no low PU and good figure (big breasts) to keep the cloth man, only to lower the spirit, cultivate the character well, and there may be a chance to find a stone man. You still lack too much, so keep it up!