A sincere feeling often takes time to cultivate slowly, only in the long-term relationship can gradually run into the relationship between two people, but also can slowly make each other more in tune, more tacit understanding, but in today's fast-paced living environment, a lot of feelings seem to be difficult to do long-term companionship, and finally sloppy.
And in such a situation, some women who have experienced multiple relationships when they are young and have never met the other half of their choice will often choose to find a stable, down-to-earth person to marry after reaching a certain age, this is a sentence that is often heard on the Internet:
"When I've had enough fun, I'll find an honest man to marry!"
Although this sentence makes many honest people feel aggrieved in their hearts, but there is no way, after all, when any relationship begins, no one is willing to reveal their past, to show their past, so what about the later life of those women who marry honest people? Hear about the experiences of three women.
Miss Bai, 30 years old
I've been married for two years, and now I have a child, and my life is still relatively happy, although I didn't marry a man I liked, but I also married a down-to-earth, honest man.
My husband was an honest man and an ordinary school teacher, with an average appearance, no rhetoric, and no special money, and in the eyes of my parents he was a very good marriage partner, but in my eyes, he was only the object of my choice to live a peaceful life after repeated failures in my relationship.
My family conditions are also very ordinary, before I knew him, I also had a lot of suitors around me, after all, at that time I still paid attention to my appearance, naturally it was also very beautiful, I also talked about a lot of love, and there are many good conditions in love with the opposite sex, at first I also felt that I should have a high-quality marriage, very demanding of my other half, not only required to have a car and a house, but also to see each other's family conditions, look at each other's deposits, etc., I thought I was not in a hurry, You can meet a better opposite sex, but in fact, those who have talked to me about love of the opposite sex just want to fall in love with me in the end, and when Zheng'er Bajing talks about marriage, he begins to drag and does not want to get married, which also makes me gradually give up those feelings.
Before that, there was a boy whose family conditions were good, people were good, and I also considered marrying him, but in the end his parents did not agree, thinking that I did not have a good family, did not have a particularly good job, and even the academic qualifications were only college, so I refused, and I broke up because of this.
Since that incident, my age has gradually grown, at the urging of my parents, and in my disappointment, I have kissed my current husband, although he is honest, but the conditions in all aspects can be basically satisfied, there is a car and a house, career stability, we got married, after marriage, he is also an honest person, there is no special amount of rhetoric on weekdays, spending money will not be lavish, and even some social activities are rarely participated, in the days when I first got along, I felt uncomfortable, after all, life is too boring, But as the days go by, I also get used to it, fortunately, he is still very attentive to me, to this family, for my dissatisfaction and anger in life, he will tolerate me, so this is also let me rush to a very contented place, no matter how angry, he will not be angry, let me be very happy.
Miss Wei, 33 years old
After three or four years of marriage, today's married life is not happy, and the contrast between before and after marriage makes me unwilling in my life.
I regretted more than once that I had a hasty marriage at that time, and more than once I thought about divorce, but for the sake of my children, in order to save my parents' worries, I still put up with it.
My husband is an honest man, honestly makes me feel that the whole day is full of boring and boring, there is no social activity, no special hobbies, not even any surprises and romances, the difference in lifestyle is the biggest contradiction in our daily life.
Although I was once single, although I did not have countless suitors, but also a wide range of friends, the opposite sex is good, the bars and KTV and other entertainment and pastimes at that time are often visited by me, and I am also a standard young man, also stay up late, also all night, also bungee, although some tired, but very satisfied, very happy, also wanted to find a love of their own opposite sex, but in the end still did not meet enough people who love me, so gradually began to date.
I met my husband in the blind date, he still likes me very much, and always finds various topics to chat with me every day, cultivate feelings, and gradually we come together, with him in fact, I did not want to be with him at first, but only because I felt that I was still young, I did not want to get married so quickly, but I did not expect that he liked me for a year, so I chose to marry him when I was 29 years old.
After marriage, the beginning of life is very happy, at home also for my kind of good, all kinds of care, but I am still not satisfied, because of the state of life, different living habits, he every day after work the most time is to raise fish, play games, and like bars, KTV these he has hardly been, to the evening will be very early to sleep, and I feel bored, stay up late every day until very late, once I had a birthday, he just bought me a bouquet of flowers, a cake, And I hinted at his necklace before he didn't react halfway, and I don't know whether to feel happy or disappointed.
Now together for three or four years, to be honest, I don't feel particularly happy, after all, it is not at all the same as what I imagined before I got married, naturally there is loss in my heart, and I am unwilling, always thinking that I can live the life of Mrs. Kuo in the future, but now I have become a person who is busy at home every day, naturally I am unwilling in my heart, but I am powerless.
Miss Guo, 32 years old
After two years of marriage, I am very happy, I am content, and I cherish the present day.
Once when I was young, I had high requirements for the other half, material is one aspect, the more important thing is to be able to pay, know how to be good to me, so at that time I was also constantly in contact with new feelings, seeking the other half, and in my love of the opposite sex, the material conditions are very good is also the first thing I consider, after all, I want to make my future life happier, happier, but the people who have been in love still have not come to the end, because I also feel that I do not love me enough, there will be betrayal of me, In the end, I gave up and chose to go with the flow.
Later, I met my husband now, he seems to be very honest, does not use rhetoric, does not create romance, even in the process of pursuing me, he only buys a bouquet of flowers, buys a gift, and even when he pursues me, he chats every day. Did you sleep? And so on, but it was his well-behaved, down-to-earth behavior that made me feel safe, and after a lost love, he came to comfort me, and then cooked for me for the next period of time, and I fell in love with him.
After getting married, I am glad that I chose an honest person, live a down-to-earth life, although not moved, no romance, but also very content, every day is very at ease, will not worry about betrayal, the kind of people who are concerned at any time and anywhere, and who will report their whereabouts at all times can always make people live a very solid life.
Write at the end:
In fact, the experience of the three women can also be seen that the impact of marital happiness is not the past experience, nor is it decided by the honesty and dishonesty of people, but in a marriage relationship their own mentality can be determined, since the beginning of a marriage, learn to accept, learn to tolerate, learn to understand each other, run into each other, can make each other's feelings develop in a better direction, and if you only consider your own disappointment, only consider your own dissatisfaction, and attribute this dissatisfaction to marriage, When it comes down to the other half, it's hard to find happiness.
What do you think?