The husband paid for entering the bedroom, the wife was pregnant in July and gave birth to a "full-term child", and after 10 years the husband collapsed

Marriage is not a simple addition of men and women, but a true bond of feelings.

A happy marriage relationship is based on the love of husband and wife, only when the husband and wife love each other, they can get along well in the future married life, and tolerate each other when the married life encounters setbacks and adversities.

In the pursuit of love, if your favorite partner shows boredom and disgust to you, do not hastily enter into marriage with him.

In a marriage without a foundation for love, many factors that may hinder the stability of the marital relationship, such as jealousy, deception and betrayal, may occur, and it cannot give people the warmth and security of home.

The 32-year-old Chen Ying (pseudonym) and his wife Meng Di (pseudonym) have been married for 10 years, the two of them have a 10-year-old daughter together, it is reasonable to say that Chen Ying's life should be happy and enviable, but not long ago Meng Di left home with her daughter, and Chen Ying looked back on her 10 years of married life, and she said bluntly: she was cheated by her wife, and her wife never loved herself.

What did Chen Ying and Meng Di go through in their 10 years of marriage that would make Chen Ying collapse so much? It all starts with the first acquaintance of the two.

10 years ago, 22-year-old Chen Ying met the 24-year-old Mengdi under the introduction of his aunt, before that, Chen Ying did not have a lot of emotional experience, after he contacted Mengdi, he felt that the other party was an experienced and assertive girl, so he had a good feeling for Mengdi, and the two tried to communicate.

At the beginning of the relationship between the two, Mengdi was lukewarm to Chen Ying, which made Chen Ying doubt this relationship in his heart, and he was not sure whether the other party really liked himself, but soon after the two exchanged, Mengdi suddenly proposed a marriage request to Chen Ying.

Chen Ying's mother is not in good health, she has been worried about her son's marriage, she is very happy to hear the woman offer to marry her son, Mengdi's mother said to her, my daughter just came to menstruation, and now marry into your family, it is also considered "entering the door", you are really blessed.

With the support of the two elderly families, Chen Ying and Meng Di successfully held a wedding, and about a month after the marriage, Meng Di suddenly found Chen Ying and told him that she was pregnant.

Chen Ying was very happy to hear this news, so he let his wife go home to recuperate, and he stayed outside to work to earn money, and 7 months later, Mengdi gave birth to a daughter of more than 6 pounds.

Chen Ying calculated the time and felt that the time of her daughter's birth was not right, but Mengdi told him that she was born prematurely, and Chen Ying, who was full of doubts, asked the nurse whether her daughter was healthy when she gave her a birth examination.

The nurse said to Chen Ying, your daughter's body is very healthy, it is full term.

After hearing the nurse's words, Chen Ying went to ask Meng Di what was going on? Unexpectedly, Mengdi lost his temper with him, Andi said, I just gave birth to a child for you, and my body has not yet recovered, what do you mean by this?

Chen Ying had no choice but to return to the place where he worked to continue to make money, and the life of the little two had been maintained like this.

In order to enable his wife and daughter to live a happy life, Chen Ying has been working outside for many years, and he has sent most of his salary to his wife and children, but what makes Chen Ying feel painful is that his wife does not understand the hardships of his earning money and working, and even when he returns home on holidays, he refuses to live with him for various reasons.

After Chen Ying and Mengdi got married, they lived in Chen Ying's father's house, and after the two were married for about 3 years, Chen Ying's father suddenly fell ill, and Mengdi said to Chen Ying, your father is sick like this, quickly transfer the property to our name, otherwise your brother and your sister will have property disputes with you in the future.

At that time, Chen Ying felt that her wife's words were very reasonable, so she asked her to handle this matter, but she did not expect that her wife would only write her own name on the real estate deed.

Chen Ying asked his wife why she didn't add her name. Mengdi replied, they are all family, isn't it all the same to write whose name is the same?

As a result, Chen Ying went out to work again, originally Chen Ying made money outside, Mengdi took the child at home, the two people's lives can still be lived, but the arrival of the epidemic has made Chen Ying have to live back at home.

Although Chen Ying has been married to Mengdi for 10 years, he rarely feels the happiness of married life, when he returned home, he thought that his wife could be gentle with himself, but he did not expect that his wife's attitude towards him was unusually cold, and he refused to let him live in the bedroom for various reasons.

What makes Chen Ying incomprehensible is that Meng Di actually posted a collection code on the bedroom door, and she asked Chen Ying to scan the code to pay every time she entered the bedroom, at least 200 yuan to be able to enter the bedroom.

In this regard, although Chen Ying was helpless, he could only agree. However, an incident that happened later made Chen Ying feel that he and Mengdi could no longer live together.

After Chen Ying's father fell ill, he took turns living in several children's homes, and when his father came to Chen Ying's home, Mengdi showed a tired posture and always quarreled with Chen Ying for various reasons.

In such an environment, the father only lived for 7 days, and then died, at his father's funeral, Mengdi quarreled with Chen Ying's family, which made Chen Ying feel sad for his wife, and he decided to separate from his wife.

Before divorcing his wife, Chen Ying took his daughter to a paternity test in order to solve the doubts hidden in his heart for 10 years, and what broke him was that her daughter was really not his biological child.

Chen Ying angrily sued Meng Di in court, but the verdict made him even more devastated.

Chen Ying asked Meng Di to return the property to himself, but because the property was in Meng Di's name, he had to give Meng Di a certain amount of money to recover the property; Chen Ying wanted to pursue Meng Di's mistake of betraying the marriage, but because Meng Di was pregnant before marriage, and Chen Ying could not confirm whether Meng Di intentionally concealed the origin of his child, so Meng Di was not a betrayal of the marriage.

The court only ordered Meng Di to return 80,000 yuan in child support for Chen Ying's daughter for 10 years, but the 80,000 yuan was insignificant compared with Chen Ying's efforts for her daughter over the years and the value of the real estate he owned.

In the end, Chen Ying decided to appeal and use the form of litigation to recover his losses.

Sentiment Analysis:

Regarding marriage, the writer Rousseau said in the book Emile:

A happy couple's life must be built on the basis of love.

The implication of this sentence is that if you want to have a happy and stable marriage, the husband and wife should love each other so that both parties can live in harmony in the married life.

In the marriage story of Chen Ying and Meng Di, the reason why the two of them will eventually choose to separate is because they lack the basis of love between them.

When he met Mengdi, Chen Ying was only 22 years old, and he did not understand what love was, while Mengdi had intimate relationships with other people during his relationship with Chen Ying, and chose to marry Chen Ying when she was pregnant with other people's children, which showed that Mengdi did not really love Chen Ying.

After the birth of her daughter, Chen Ying in order to support his wife and daughter, can only work outside for a long time, in this marriage mode of gathering less and leaving more, Chen Ying and Mengdi did not cultivate love that belonged to each other, Chen Ying only knew how to transfer living expenses to his wife, and Mengdi in addition to asking Chen Ying, only disgusted chen Ying.

Mengdi posted a two-dimensional code on the bedroom door, demanding that Chen Ying have to pay for every time she entered the bedroom, which showed the essence of their marriage: taking what they needed on a material basis.

The marriage story of Mengdi and Chen Ying tells us that a happy marriage is based on love, only the husband and wife can get along well before marriage, in the case of confidence in each other's feelings, in the hands of entering the palace of marriage, their marriage relationship can be happy and stable.

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