In married life, there is a kind of woman who has always looked down on her husband after marriage, often complains and despises her own man, and even exalts herself in a way that degrades men. This kind of woman ends up with nothing more than two endings:
The first is that the husband only promises, gets by, has no ideals, has no personality, has nothing to do, does nothing, and lives with you passively for a lifetime. Worry about it for a lifetime.
The second is that the husband can't bear it, and finally chooses to part ways. It is not an affair outside of marriage, there is a home outside the home, or it is to leave this kind of woman and start all over again.
Why? Let's analyze and interpret the reasons together:
First, frequently complaining, complaining, and even belittling the husband will make the relationship between husband and wife more and more distant and tense.
In married life, as a wife, if you look at your husband's words and deeds unfavorably, and constantly complain and accuse, her married life will inevitably be full of contradictions, piles of problems, the family can not be harmonious, and the marriage cannot be happy.
The husband returns home every day, he wants to rest in this safe haven, but he wants to listen to you talk to him, complaining that he can't do it, who has the ability and so on, do you think he can be happy? It is strange not to be angry and not to hold back.
If he can't bear not to argue with you, you feel bored, if he can't help arguing with you, the family will make a lot of noise, noisy every day, in the long run, the contradiction between husband and wife is getting deeper and deeper, the gap is more and more, and the distance is getting farther and farther.
Second, the wife's contempt will make the husband lose self-confidence and development ability.
Usually, a successful man is backed by an obscure woman. If the wife is always accusing and distrustful of her husband's work and life, then he will feel very tired, and he will begin to constantly doubt himself, slowly cut off his self-confidence, he will become indecisive and non-committal, and over time, he will be inferior, lack of ability, lack of will, and become mediocre.
In fact, between husband and wife, encouragement on the basis of mutual trust is the best cardiotonic agent, and mutual encouragement is the biggest driving force for each other to move forward.
Third, the contempt of the wife will reduce and destroy the husband's fatherhood in the eyes of the children.
In general, women who despise their husbands are accustomed to being aggressive in family life. And women are too strong, which has a great negative impact on the family, especially the impact on children.
A long-term strong wife at home will make her son imitate his father invisibly, forming a timid, cowardly, and inferior personality. The daughter will be deeply influenced by the mother, with a strong and domineering personality, and lack the fundamental attributes of a woman's gentleness and virtuousness.
We have a family across the street, the wife is a very capable and strong woman, and the husband's personality slowly becomes sluggish, because the wife often says in front of the child that the husband is not, giving the children the impression that the father is more correct than the mother, and actually learning the tone of the mother is accused of the father, and the children do not take the father more and more seriously.
Fourth, men at home for a long time, deep resentment, there is always a day that can not hold back, men with inner strength sooner or later will choose to part ways.
Women who have long looked down on their husbands will be obvious in both words and actions. Over time, the resentment in men's hearts will become deeper and deeper, and the consciousness of resistance and betrayal will increase day by day.
For the sake of the overall situation of the family, when men face the nagging and accusations of their own women, they often choose silence at first, turning big things into small things and small things, and seeking peace and stability in the family with patience. But if this is the case for a long time, there will always be a moment when the anger will soar.
If a man's anger erupts, he may smash the family, may also beat the woman all over the body, and may resolutely leave home, enter a state of separation, and plan a divorce.
If at this time, when encountering the opposite sex involved in his life, it is easy to aggravate the sublimation of feelings and form a sweet extramarital relationship, because men need their own women to respect, trust, and be relied on, and the average woman has more natural advantages than those strong women who look down on their husbands, this kind of stubborn man is easily floated by women, because she satisfies what he as a man, missing and lost in his heart.
Husband and wife to run a family, first of all, must manage the relationship between husband and wife, trust and encouragement between husband and wife is more important than family property, in real life some men have nothing when they are young, nothing, just because they chose a good wife, and later developed. Because the wife can intensify the husband's fighting spirit, tap the potential of the husband, let the husband spread his wings and fly high, pull up the man's chin in the predicament, encourage the husband to cheer up; let the man remain sober and rational in the glory, step by step.