We often say that good people will only deal with equally kind people, so that they will not suffer losses. And good people, dealing with people who like to take advantage, will only let themselves suffer losses, and they will be pitted.
Therefore, when dealing with different people, we have to adopt different attitudes. Only then will you not be easily taken advantage of by them. Even friends and family are no exception.
Some people always like to borrow flowers to offer Buddha, take other people's things to please the elders, and finally think that they are their own credit. To deal with such a person, we are not at all polite, we should do whatever we want.
01, the sister-in-law cut the door and loves to eat and drink
When Zhang Qian and her husband got married, the little uncle and sister-in-law had been married for several years, and they had two children. Therefore, in the in-laws' families, the in-laws have always been partial to the little uncle, helping them with their children, doing housework, and working like a free nanny.
Before marriage, Zhang Qian rarely had contact with her sister-in-law, and even if she met occasionally, she was polite to each other. Therefore, Zhang Qian once thought that her sister-in-law was generous and generous in the world, and she was hospitable, and she was still looking forward to getting along with her concubines after marriage.
After getting married, Zhang Qian slapped herself, because after getting married, Zhang Qian had more contact with her sister-in-law, and she found that her sister-in-law's character was not very good. Vain and good-looking, he also likes to punch his swollen face and be fat.
In the in-laws' family, Zhang Qian generally abides by the attitude of talking less and doing more things, and she rarely thinks about trivial things in general. But the sister-in-law is different, she not only likes to point fingers, but also likes to pack a lot, but in the end, she picks up the stall and ignores it.
The sister-in-law also specially slammed the door, and others took the initiative to send money and things to the door, and she did not refuse to come. But if you want her to take the initiative to send something to others, it is simply difficult to go to the sky.
After marriage, the sister-in-law likes to take her in-laws and children to visit her brother-in-law, and Zhang Qian initially thought that she was a piece of kindness, afraid that she would not be able to blend into her in-laws' house. Later, after more times, Zhang Qian learned that her sister-in-law was eating and drinking.
02, mother-in-law sixtieth birthday, sister-in-law booking hotel crazy order
Every time the sister-in-law came, she was empty-handed, but when she left, she wanted this and that, and she used the excuse that the child loved to eat. In short, the sister-in-law came once, and the meat and snacks in Zhang Qian's home were swept away by the sister-in-law once.
Zhang Qian's heart is quite despised by her sister-in-law, her mother's family conditions are good, her life with herself and her little uncle is also very good, why should she take advantage of people like this and annoy people?
It wasn't until her mother-in-law's sixtieth birthday that Zhang Qian understood that some people's door-slamming and stinginess were carved into their bones. The mother-in-law is sixty years old, and the husband has long been talking about giving the mother-in-law a good celebration. After the sister-in-law listened, she also strongly agreed, and even took the initiative to take the initiative to book hotels and order dishes.
Zhang Qian does not like to take care of these trivial matters, and her husband is busy with work, so her sister-in-law has taken care of these trivial things in the past, which really makes Zhang Qian and her husband worry and save a lot of trouble.
However, the sister-in-law spoke to Zhang Qian and her husband, and began to order hotels and dishes according to her own preferences. Zhang Qian is worried that the budget is too much, and also specially reminds Zhang Qian that her family does not need to go to too high-end hotels to eat, and the general restaurant can be, as long as the dishes are satisfactory and the taste is suitable.
But the sister-in-law did not care, and said that since it was her family that came out to eat, it was even more necessary to eat and drink well, so that it could be regarded as a good celebration of the sixtieth birthday for the mother-in-law.
The sister-in-law said this and did the same. As soon as I went to the hotel, I arrogantly ordered all the expensive dishes that I usually didn't want to order. The little uncle made eyes on the side, and the younger sister-in-law pretended to be deaf and dumb.
03, at the time of checkout, sister-in-law: brother-in-law's salary is high, you are all out
In the end, the family had a lot of fun. But only at the checkout, seeing the waiter take the bill of 5,000 yuan, the sister-in-law was suddenly a little stunned. But she quickly reacted and directly pushed the bill to Zhang Qian: Brother and sister-in-law's salary is high, you are all out.
Zhang Qian was forced to come over the bill, and it was very embarrassing. At the beginning of the hotel to arrange a meal, Zhang Qian said, find a general restaurant, 1,000 yuan is enough for everyone to eat happily. But the sister-in-law refused, not to say that the cuisine of this hotel is good, many people have a high evaluation, she said to try it.
Thinking that her sister-in-law was using the guise of her mother-in-law's sixty-year-old birthday to cheat on food and drink, Zhang Qian was powerless to complain. In the end, Zhang Qian only paid half of the money, and the remaining half was left to the sister-in-law to solve by herself. After all, when the dish comes up, the most enjoyable and enjoyable is the sister-in-law.
Zhang Qian, who paid for the loss, returned home and was complained by her husband: A family, should not worry too much. The sister-in-law does not have any bad intentions, but likes to eat and drink. Zhang Qian now let them pay half of the meal money, must have torn their faces with their sister-in-law, and also let his parents not get off the stage, a good birthday banquet, but also ruined the mood and atmosphere by the final checkout.
Zhang Qian can't manage so much, and no matter how much her sister-in-law likes to eat and drink, she should also have a bottom line. While enjoying the benefits brought by others, he is also digging and searching for money, which makes everyone look down on them.
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Do you think Zhang Qian's approach is right?
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