Emotional writer Zhang Defen said: "The truth of marrying a person is the integration of a person and a family, and in this process of integration, the role of the mother-in-law cannot be ignored, or even pivotal." ”
In fact, for married women, it is important not only to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also to deal with the relationship with her husband's other relatives, such as her husband's brothers and sisters.
In "Double Sided Tape", Hu Lijuan met a bad sister-in-law, that is, Li Yaping's sister Li Guanhua.
Li Guanhua's husband's factory director forced them to take out 200,000 yuan to participate in the investment, otherwise Li Guanhua's husband would be unemployed, Li Guanhua himself could not solve the problem, he went to his brother Li Yaping to help, Li Yaping in order to help his sister, Hu Lijuan stalked and beat, and finally borrowed 100,000 yuan from his mother-in-law's hand, solving the urgent need for his sister.
However, Li Guanhua and his wife were fooled by the factory director, and 100,000 yuan was adrift, which also aggravated the contradiction between Li Yaping and his wife.
Logically, you ran into trouble, pit your sister-in-law's 100,000 yuan, you have to do your best to compensate for it, you owe money, it is natural and righteous, there is borrowing and repaying, and it is not difficult to borrow again, but Li Guanhua not only does not feel ashamed, but he is Li Yaping's sister to find Hu Lijuan's trouble.
If the in-laws are like Li Yaping's parents, if the in-laws are like Li Yaping's parents, and they don't help their relatives, the situation will only get worse and worse, and even wash away the marriage.
The reason why the sister-in-law relationship will affect the woman's marriage is because the sister-in-law is the daughter of the in-laws and the sister of the husband, and they are relatives and occupy the advantage of family affection. Compared with the daughter-in-law who is not related by blood, it is very normal for the in-laws to trust their daughters and favor their daughters.
Sister Wu also met an unreasonable sister-in-law, that is, her husband's sister, but Sister Wu was much luckier than Hu Lijuan, a reasonable in-laws.
"I really don't understand how such a sensible and kind old man as my in-laws could give birth to a daughter like my eldest sister." Not only is it not filial piety, but it has no sense of responsibility to be a daughter, but it also troubles me. ”
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Indeed, Sister Wu's in-laws are reasonable old people and have a harmonious relationship with Sister Wu.
Sister Wu is 51 years old this year, married into the old Yang family 28 years ago, and has a daughter. In the local area, especially in that era, the idea of son preference was extremely serious, and although there was a fine when they were overborn, they still could not stop the desire of families who had given birth to daughters to want sons.
"My eldest sister also gave birth to a daughter, and she was angry with her in-laws' family, and then she gave birth to a son and paid a fine before she gained a firm foothold in her in-laws' family. When she learned that I had a daughter, she came up and complained that I was useless, and asked me to quickly raise my body and have another one. Before I could go back, my in-laws disciplined her. I still remember how my mother-in-law trained her, and my daughter was useless? So what did I give birth to you for? What did you raise? ”
The in-laws are very enlightened, and they also like the well-behaved and sensible granddaughter, not only do their best to serve Sister Wu to confinement, but also when the granddaughter is 8 years old, for the sake of the future of the family, let the daughter-in-law go out with her son to work and earn money, and they are responsible for taking care of the granddaughter.
"My in-laws helped me bring my child for ten years and loved my daughter from the bottom of my heart. Listening to her daughter, when she was in junior high school, she could only take the school bus back at ten o'clock at night, and her mother-in-law waited on the highway to pick up her daughter and go back, and her father-in-law made a supper to supplement her daughter's nutrition. They got up earlier than their daughter every day and slept later than she did. ”
Under the careful care of her in-laws, Sister Wu's daughter has excellent character and learning, was admitted to a good university, and has now graduated, and her income is not low, so that Sister Wu's burden has been reduced a lot, and she is also very grateful to her mother-in-law.
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Some time ago, Sister Wu learned the news that her mother-in-law living in her hometown had a problem with her intestines and needed surgery. However, the epidemic situation in The location of Sister Wu stopped the pace of Sister Wu's return, and in desperation, Sister Wu had to pay for a nurse to help take care of her mother-in-law.
"After the in-laws knew, they also told me that there is no need to bother, the father-in-law is there, you can take good care of the mother-in-law, let us take care of ourselves."
Accompanied by her father-in-law and cared for by nursing staff, Sister Wu's mother-in-law was successfully discharged from the hospital. Sister Wu and her husband took the money and paid for the medical expenses for their mother-in-law.
During the mother-in-law's hospitalization, the eldest sister who lived in the local area only went once and made two phone calls, neither contributing money nor contributing. Therefore, Sister Wu very much wanted to question the eldest sister, where the courage to accuse her of filial piety.
"The eldest sister has always said that I am not filial piety and is a bad daughter-in-law, on the grounds that her in-laws have always lived with her, relying on her to serve, the brother-in-law does not care about anything, as soon as she comes home, she is the uncle, and her parents helped me take the baby for 10 years, but I refused to go back to my hometown to serve my in-laws, which is very unfilial."
In fact, Sister Wu proposed to her in-laws more than once that she hoped that her in-laws would move to the place where they worked and take care of each other, but her in-laws believed that she was physically tough and did not reach the place where she needed to trouble her daughter-in-law, and she was neither willing to go over nor let her daughter-in-law come back: "You take advantage of being young, make more money, and in the future, we still have more places where you need to spend money, and you can't put all the pressure on Xiaohui's body." ”
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When May Day came, Sister Wu and her husband rushed back to their hometown yesterday afternoon to accompany their in-laws on May Day, planning to take their in-laws to play for a few days, and the eldest sister also returned.
However, when the eldest sister saw Sister Wu, she not only did not say hello, but instead came to the door and asked Sister Wu: "How do you serve your mother?" My mother was sick and hospitalized, had surgery, you did not come back to take care of it, my mother was so good to you, helped you bring a baby for 10 years, you don't know gratitude, have you been such a daughter-in-law? ”
The eldest sister also took her own example, her in-laws preferred sons to daughters, even if she gave birth to a son, she did not help much, and added to her blockage, but after the in-laws moved to their homes, the eldest sister did her best to serve.
Listening to the words of the eldest sister, Sister Wu was very angry, but before she could go back, she was interrupted by her mother-in-law.
Hearing her daughter questioning her sister-in-law, Sister Wu's mother-in-law was very angry, not only scolded her daughter, but also decisively drove her daughter away: "Do you still have the face to question your sister-in-law?" I would like to ask you, how did you become a daughter? What did you do while I was sick and hospitalized? Did you take care of me, or did you pay for it? Serving your in-laws? Did your in-laws give birth to you, or did I give birth to you? You yourself are weak and incompetent, your husband does not act, you swallow your anger, let them use you as a free babysitter, you don't argue, I can't take you, but this is not the reason why you came to your brother-in-law for trouble. I see you coming in anger and give me the fuck out. ”
It turned out that Sister Wu's mother-in-law had long been dissatisfied with her daughter and was angry with her, in her opinion, ten years of seeing her mother-in-law for ten years, the reason why Sister Wu's mother-in-law was so arrogant, did not help and justifiably enjoyed the service of her daughter-in-law, mainly because the son-in-law did not act and the daughter did not argue. To be honest, the son-in-law she did not want it for a long time, and she was willing to support her daughter's divorce, but the daughter did not know what kind of ecstasy soup she drank, and she had always had hope for men, and even if she did not listen to advice, she still compared herself with her daughter-in-law, which affected the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
After being scolded by the old mother, the eldest sister ran away crying, and Sister Wu was not good enough to say anything more, so she had to comfort her mother-in-law not to be angry.
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Under normal circumstances, the sister-in-law has a conflict, as a wise old man, the in-laws will not help their relatives and favor their daughters, but will help their daughters-in-law and reprimand their daughters.
Your daughter is your own child, you can discipline as much as you want, and teaching your daughter to respect your sister-in-law or sister-in-law is also for the good of your daughter. You can't shelter your daughter for a lifetime, and if your daughter can't handle the relationship with your daughter-in-law, when you can't continue to shelter your daughter, they may never have a mother's family again.
Moreover, when you are old, you also need to count on your daughter-in-law. Whether it is for the sake of the daughter, the son or for himself, he must be kind to the daughter-in-law.
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