Life perception| people to middle age, smart people will live "lazy"!

I remember that Sanmao said such a sentence: "I am too late to be seriously young, and when I understand it, I can only choose to grow old seriously." ”

Time is hurried, taking away youth, and in the blink of an eye, it is already middle-aged.

With the increase of age, the thickness of the years makes people lose a lot and grow a lot.

After walking through the days when there is no dance, seeing through too many people's hearts, life will begin to slowly do subtraction.

Subtract the useless socializing that consumes energy, let go of the things that should not be worried, forget the past that can no longer be changed...

When people reach middle age, they learn to be "lazy" a little, live too "diligently", and the more they live, the more tired they are, and the more they live, the more worried they are.

A lifetime is fleeting, people are old, there will be a new sense of life, stop the hurried steps, stop and enjoy the scenery along the way, it is also a pleasant thing.

When people reach middle age and learn to be "lazy", they will be more blessed and will live more easily and happily.

01

The trivialities of life, "lazy" to get angry

Leo Tolstoy famously said, "Anger causes suffering to others, but it is oneself who suffers the most." ”

The big and small things in life, when you think about it, are really worth getting angry, and there are very few. Most of the time, conflicts are exacerbated by the inability to control emotions.

Emotions are always the greatest enemy of man, and it occupies the highest point of reason, making people make decisions that go against the original intention.

When you make trouble for the trivial things in life and sulk, it will only bring trouble to yourself and even hurt your own health.

Some time ago, there was a news that made everyone sigh.

A man, after an argument with his mother, locked himself in his home, turned on the gas and set the bed on fire.

Seeing the firefighters come to the rescue, he was emotional and directly pointed the lighter at the natural gas pipeline interface.

By the time the firefighters broke in, the man inhaled an excess of natural gas and was already unconscious on the living room couch.

Fortunately, the medical treatment was timely, otherwise the mother would have hated for life, and he himself would have paid the price for recklessness.

I agree with Zhang Xiaoxian's sentence: "Everything in life is not smooth because of temper." Suffering others, but also suffering yourself. ”

No matter what happens, if you do it at one point, then in the end the cost of all bad emotions can only be paid by yourself.

As you get older, you must live your own life well, don't go to your heart for everything, and you can't live with yourself.

When people reach middle age, they must be "lazy" to be angry, not to be angry about things that are not worth it, and to maintain a good attitude in order to live optimistically and live a long and healthy life.

02

Temporary gains and losses, "lazy" to calculate

There is a saying in "Zhuangzi": "Gain without joy, and lose without worry." ”

When people reach middle age, don't worry about it, learn to look down.

Wang Xiaobo's "Dressage Dance Steps" said: "In life, you will encounter some good things, and you will also encounter some bad things, good things can afford it, bad things can also bear it, and it is not bad to be an ordinary person like this." ”

I have seen a story about a man who planted an apple tree, and after his meticulous care, the apple tree began to bear fruit.

In the first year, the apple tree bore 20 fruits, and when ripe, the owner plucked 19 of them, and the apple tree itself got one.

For this reason, the apple tree is dissatisfied, and it feels that it is clearly the credit for producing fruit, but it has gained the least.

Therefore, it decided to refuse to allow the outside world to input nutrients into itself, and it would no longer grow on its own.

By the second year, the apple tree had only grown ten fruits due to insufficient nutrients.

When ripe, the owner took away 9 apples and got one himself.

It felt that it had taken 10 fewer than its owner in the first year, and it felt a little more balanced in its heart.

It thinks its method has worked, but the owner thinks it has no planting value and uproots it directly.

In fact, this apple tree could have been more productive and more valuable, but it ruined its chances of survival due to temporary gains.

The taste of life, sweet and sour, bitter and spicy will be tasted one by one, once too calculated to gain and loss, but the easier it is to lose.

When people reach middle age, they are "lazy" to worry about people, be open-minded, keep themselves away from the hustle and bustle of the world, and seek a peace of mind.

How can everything in the world be done as one wishes?

If you have it, you will cherish it, and if you can't get it, let it go. People who are trapped by attachment cannot embrace happiness.

This life is only a few decades, and what is really worth pursuing is what is beneficial to the body and mind.

In his later years, having no regrets about this life is already the best ending.

Don't think too much, when you should enjoy your old age, why add unnecessary trouble to your heart.

The sunset is infinitely good, learn to reconcile with yourself, in order to truly live a quiet and good life.

03

The idle affairs of children, "lazy" to interfere

There is a saying in the Zizhi Tongjian: "Not deaf and dumb, not a family man." ”

As an elder, we must learn to let go appropriately, give our children free space, and face the storms of life alone.

Get along with your children, do not interfere too much in the family affairs of your children, otherwise it will only lead to contradictions and family discord.

The TV series "Double Sided Tape", known as a premarital textbook for girls, reflects the reality of the family that is thought-provoking.

The beautiful Shanghai girl Hu Lijuan married Li Yaping, a man from out of town, and the two people who did not have the right door made a home in the city.

After marriage, Li Yaping took care of all the household chores in the family, and was obedient to Hu Lijuan, and the two were intimate and loved incomparably.

However, all this beauty came to an abrupt end after Hu Lijuan's in-laws moved in.

The mother-in-law thought feudally, believing that women should be diligent and thrifty in running the family, taking the family as the center, and dissatisfied with their daughter-in-law Hu Lijuan.

The two old men are not accustomed to their daughter-in-law everywhere, and often complain in front of their sons that their daughter-in-law is not educated and is good to eat and lazy.

There are frequent conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and Li Yaping has gradually become dissatisfied with Hu Lijuan, and even repeatedly abused Hu Lijuan.

The mother-in-law interfered in her son's family affairs at every turn, thus destroying the life and feelings of the husband and wife.

There is a saying in "The Original": "For most people, life is just a bunch of responsibilities." Penetrate this truth, love is the fate, friendship is the fate, family affection, especially the fate, no matter what, should be moistened into a pearl. ”

Parents and children are independent individuals, from the moment the umbilical cord is cut, they are doomed to "separation", and children who grow up under the greenhouse cannot withstand the test of society.

When people reach middle age, they must learn to be "lazy" to manage their children's household affairs, let go appropriately, and give their children space to live.

epilogue

On the road of life, "lazy" a little, a little easier life, the rest of life will be more worthwhile.

Most of the troubles and tiredness in life are increased by themselves.

Man's greatest enemy is himself.

Instead of blaming the injustice of fate, ask yourself why you are not willing to let yourself go?

In the days of gradual aging, remember to be "lazy" at the right time, give yourself a chance to feel the beauty around you, and easily enjoy the twilight time.

For the rest of your life, may you and I save energy that we don't have to pay, face the world indifferently, and live well!