Have you ever heard a name? Her name is Hu Lijuan, and she is the heroine of "Double Sided Tape", so do you know her ending in the original?
Hu Lijuan, a native of Shanghai, fell in love with a poor young man, Li Yaping, and felt that he was good-looking, had a good personality, was honest, and insisted on marrying him despite her parents' objections.
When Hu Lijuan got married, she got 100,000 yuan from her parents to buy a house, and then asked for 100,000 yuan from her parents to help Li Yaping's sister under Li Yaping's soft and hard strategy, and gave Birth to Li Yaping's son for Li Yaping's father's illness, but ended up being beaten to death by Li Yaping, which is really worth learning a lesson.
In fact, Li Yaping did something to Hu Lijuan more than once, and almost did not strangle Hu Lijuan to death. However, Hu Lijuan had no lingering feelings for Li Yaping, was reluctant to leave him, gave Li Yaping another chance, gave birth to a son, and completely cut off her own back road.
As Yan Rujing said in "Strange Flowers": "Patience in marriage has a time limit, forbearance is called calm and calm for a while, forbearance for a lifetime, all depends on fate." ”
In marriage, some things must be endured, and you can't worry about a trivial matter, otherwise, it will be difficult for marriage to go on healthily and sustainably. However, some things are the bottom line of marriage, which cannot be touched once, and once touched, the marriage is actually finished.
And hands-on, like extramarital affairs, are the untouchable bottom line of marriage. Whether it is a man or a woman, touching these two bottom lines, they do not regard the other party as their other half.
Women, I hope you remember that whether it is a hands-on or extramarital affair, there is only a difference between zero times and countless times. If a man does something to you, and you still swallow his anger, or satisfy his unreasonable demands out of fear, he will understand that the fist can make you listen to him, can make you respond to his needs, and the next time you have a contradiction, his first reaction is to add fists and feet, solve the problem in this way that you are afraid, and achieve your own goals. The more times he gets addicted, he doesn't hesitate to do anything to you.
My neighbor Aunt Lin has been married to Uncle Liu for 25 years and has been beaten for 25 years.
01.
Growing up, I heard more than once the sound of smashing things next door, the cries of women, and the scolding of men.
I remember when I was seven years old, I witnessed Uncle Liu beating Aunt Lin. Uncle Liu pressed Aunt Lin underneath, opened his bow left and right, and slapped him again and again. My dad and the others rushed over and pulled them away, and during that time, Uncle Liu kicked Aunt Lin several times. I also saw their son, three years younger than me, with scars all over his body.
Another time, more than a dozen people chatted at my door, Uncle Liu and Aunt Lin were also present, originally good, and did not know which of Uncle Liu's tendons was wrong, suddenly angry, slapped past, and beat Aunt Lin to cry again.
In my memory, Aunt Lin was beaten into the hospital by Uncle Liu, there were two times, as for the number of times, it is impossible to count, especially after Uncle Liu became addicted to playing cards, beating his wife is a common thing.
When I mentioned Aunt Lin's experience, I felt very angry, but my mother had an attitude of hating iron and steel: "I have persuaded her more than once to let her divorce and take her son with me, although it is difficult, both to make money and raise a son, but it is better than this, I see, sooner or later, one day, he will die at her hands." However, she did not dare, saying that if she left him, she would starve to death. ”
Aunt Lin has never gone out to earn money in this life, she has been at home with her husband and children, serving her in-laws, and she can only reach out to her in-laws when she needs to spend money, so Aunt Lin has always been able to swallow her anger.
02.
Some time ago, when I was chatting with my mother, my mother talked about the recent situation of Aunt Lin and Uncle Liu, and greatly praised Aunt Lin's 22-year-old son.
It turned out that half a month ago, Uncle Liu beat Aunt Lin again, just because he needed money to play cards.
"Your uncle Liu's parents know the virtues of their son, and they are worried that he will lose all his money, and that his grandson will not have money to study, and before he dies, he will give the family financial power to his daughter-in-law." Since their son started an internship last year to earn money, your Uncle Liu has stopped working and played cards every day, from morning to night. ”
How much money he has in his pocket, he will lose his essence first, and when he has no money, he will call and order his wife to send him money. After Aunt Lin sent it a few times, she felt that it was not a matter and persuaded Uncle Liu not to play cards anymore.
"She told me that there are many places in the family where money is used, the son wants to marry his wife, he wants to buy a house with a bride price, and the money is not enough, how can he be so wasteful?"
However, no matter how hard his wife tried to persuade him, Uncle Liu couldn't quit, but for this matter, he once again punched and kicked Aunt Lin and beat Aunt Lin into the hospital.
Aunt Lin's son was working outside the home, and he visited my mother during the New Year and left his contact information: "Auntie, if my father beats my mother again, you should call me quickly." ”
So, my mother called Aunt Lin's son and told Aunt Lin's son what she knew, and that night, Aunt Lin's son rushed to the hospital to take care of Aunt Lin until Aunt Lin was discharged.
03.
When Aunt Lin was discharged from the hospital, Uncle Liu was rummaging through the boxes and cabinets at home, and when he saw that his wife and son had returned, he roared angrily: "What about money? Find a fight is it! You're not afraid of pain, right? Don't give Lao Tzu money, see how Lao Tzu cleans you up. "Men intimidate their wives by playing cards, unlike before, Aunt Lin has a son by her side."
Aunt Lin's son is 1 meter 8 tall, taller than his father, plus Uncle Liu is greedy for pleasure, it seems that the son is more robust, Aunt Lin's son directly stood in front of his mother, and firmly protected his mother behind him: "You move my mother 1 to try, believe it or not, I make you look good?" ”
"Little bunny cub, who are you talking to?" I'm your old man, you're against heaven? ”
"You're my old man, but she was pregnant and gave birth to my mom in October." I tell you, if you move my mother's finger again, I will not give you a pension, and you will solve the problem of survival yourself in the future! ”
Whether Uncle Liu raised his fist to threaten or to sue his son, Aunt Lin's son was indifferent, looking at his son's angry eyes, Uncle Liu's fist finally softened.
"Then after he left, what if Uncle Liu bullied Aunt Lin again?" Can't you call him back again? ”
"No, after your Uncle Liu fell asleep, he packed up his things and ran away with you Aunt Lin all night, and now, your Uncle Liu is angry at home and jumps to his feet, but how to call his son, he can't call." Well, now he lives alone! ”
04.
Aunt Lin really came to her bitter end, only because she had raised a good son, and the son would protect her. However, the woman is soft and the mother is strong, but she has become a weak mother who needs her son to protect her, and she has suffered for decades, which really makes people angry.
The writer Tang Zhifeng once said: "Behind the arrogance of one person in marriage, it must be another person who is constantly humble without dignity." ”
The weaker you are, the more those who bully the soft and fear the hard will not let you go, as long as you have a little thing in them that moves them, they will bully you unscrupulously. Unless, you can let them taste your strength, if they hurt the enemy a thousand and lose eight hundred, they also have to weigh whether such a loss is worth it, and they are jealous of you.
In the face of a man's fist, kneeling down and begging for forgiveness can only save yourself for a while, but it will hurt yourself for a lifetime.
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