"I didn't listen to my parents' reminders, I lived with my boyfriend, and now that I'm pregnant, he's willing to marry me and take me home to meet my parents." However, his mother humiliated me in public, not only treating me as a free nanny, but also wanting to let my family pay for the wedding and buy a wedding house without spending a penny. ”
Seeing the reader Guo Xia's letter of help, I would like to say that the reason why girls have repeatedly emphasized self-love is because they are worried that you will be taught by others, calculated by others, and manipulated by others.
Whether it is a man or a man's mother, humiliating you, bargaining with you when talking about marriage, getting cheap and selling well, are all things that you do not love yourself. They hold your handle, the child in your belly.
If you refuse to agree to them, you have to choose between giving up your child and giving birth to a child to become a single mother, no matter which one you choose, the person who hurts you is yourself. If you promised them, what would you dare to humiliate you so brazenly before you got married, and would you still have good fruit to eat after you got married? Know that human desires are endless.
Ni Kuang once said: "People who carry calculators and constantly calculate, whether men or women, will not have true love." ”
When you meet someone who calculates you, you compromise, which will only cause one result, that is, he will have countless opportunities to calculate you, take advantage of you, and look down on you and think that you are upside down.
For example, in "Double Sided Tape", Hu Lijuan was overwhelmed by love, had to marry Li Yaping, and pit her parents a lot of money for Li Yaping's family. When Hu Lijuan's mother-in-law quarreled with Hu Lijuan's mother, she said such a paragraph.
Why did you pay for it in the first place, or was you afraid that my son would not marry your daughter? Yes, our family has no money, but my son can marry a daughter-in-law, that is his skill, who is valuable and who is not worth it?
It can be seen that in the eyes of those who are good at calculation, you don't want anything to marry him, you feel that it is true love, he feels that he has the ability, and you are not worth it.
Like Hu Lijuan, Guo Xia is also a girl who is overwhelmed by love and puts herself in a dilemma.
01.
After Guo Xia's love affair with Sun Daxin was known to her parents, girlfriends, relatives and friends, everyone without exception did not approve of them continuing to be together, only because Sun Daxin was a phoenix man, and Guo Xia was not the right person.
Guo Xia was born in a second-tier provincial city, her father is a state-owned enterprise worker, her mother is a civil servant, her family is well-off, from childhood to adulthood, she does not know how to write the two words of lack of money. When Guo Xia was in high school, her parents used the remaining money in their hands to buy a two-bedroom apartment and make a dowry for their daughter.
Whether it is Guo Xia's father's vein or her mother's vein, it is mostly boys, and girls are two, so Guo Xia is the palm pearl of grandparents, grandparents, and parents, who is pampered, has not experienced any twists and turns, and her nature is relatively simple.
And Sun Daxin? Sun Daxin's father is a migrant worker, has been following the contractor to the major construction sites, relying on manual work to earn money to support the family, Sun Daxin's mother at home to serve the in-laws, take care of the two children, save money, for the two children to study.
Sun Daxin's sister only finished junior high school, she dropped out of school to go out to work, with the full support of the whole family, Sun Daxin was admitted to a good university and came to the provincial city.
Although in terms of ability, Sun Daxin has it, and can earn 30,000 yuan a month, but in the eyes of the people around them, they are indeed not right, and those relatives who regard Guo Xia as a pearl in the palm of their hands and a treasure in their hearts and livers are naturally unhappy.
However, Guo Xia was overwhelmed by love, and no one could listen to anyone's persuasion, and she was very stiff with the people in the family for the sake of marriage.
02.
"Anyway, I don't agree, unless you don't even want my mother."
Listening to her mother's roar, Guo Xia fell into an incomparably entangled, she was reluctant to be separated from Sun Daxin, nor could she be an unfilial daughter for love and marriage, and cut off relations with her parents!
Seeing that the love affair between the two people was strongly opposed by Guo Xia's parents, Sun Daxin came up with an idea: "You have children, your parents have grandchildren, there will be no opposition, and we will be able to get married smoothly." ”
Girls pay attention, if your boyfriend gives you such an idea, hurry up and kick it! He's clearly calculating you. Once you have children, it is easy to be involuntary, only yourself are harmed, reproductive rights are women's, and only women are punished.
However, Guo Xia did not think this truth at that time, and actually thought it was a good idea, so she had a relationship with Sun Daxin and had a child.
Although Guo Xia's parents agreed to the marriage, they also clearly told Guo Xia that she would regret it.
Sure enough, when Guo Xia returned to her hometown with Sun Daxin to see her mother-in-law, she felt remorse.
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When Guo Xia arrived at Sun Daxin's house, she neither felt that she was valued, nor did she feel that her in-laws were kind to her.
"When I arrived, there were eight people in his family, his parents, sister, grandmother, his uncles and aunts and two relatives, they met me, and asked a lot of questions, including my parents' work, income, how many houses there were in the family, I was disgusted, I didn't want to answer, I diverged from the topic, but they refused to give up, and it was endless."
Because she was pregnant, she came to Sun Daxin's house this time, and Guo Xia's purpose was very simple, that is, to finalize the marriage. However, what Guo Xia did not expect was that Sun Daxin's parents did not oppose their marriage, but they had been crying poorly.
From sun Daxin's poor family after he was born, a large family of children shrunk their clothes and food, to supporting two children is not easy, and then to their old two families do not have a pension, anyway, just one meaning, no money.
"The bad habit of the bride price should have been abolished long ago, you are all good children with high education, don't be like those who see money and open their eyes, what kind of bride price." As for the house, the down payment is hundreds of thousands, that is, we sold our old two, and we can't come up with so much money! Your family is well-off, let your parents take some money to solve it! ”
Everyone else was echoing, making Guo Xia feel powerless and repeatedly cast a look at Sun Daxin for help. However, from beginning to end, Sun Daxin only helped his family to persuade Guo Xia to agree, and did not say a word for Guo Xia at all.
What really made Guo Xia feel broken and found that she loved the wrong person was that when it was time to make lunch, Sun Daxin's mother cried out that her waist hurt, and on the grounds that she wanted to see the cooking skills of her future daughter-in-law, she pushed Guo Xia, who was pregnant and could not smell the smell of oil smoke, into the kitchen and let Guo Xia cook for 10 people.
Although Guo Xia is also good at cooking, she is a pregnant woman, how can she suffer such a torture? Guo Xia felt extremely aggrieved, standing in the kitchen and not knowing what to do, and then heard the conversation between Sun Daxin's mother and other relatives outside.
"Is this going too far? Da Xin is not easy to find a wife with a good family, decent work for parents, and can carry us in the future, don't run away, otherwise you will lose a lot. ”
"Pregnant, can't run, now girls don't know how to love themselves, and they don't have the courage to be a single mother." Hearing this, Guo Xia couldn't stand it anymore, picked up the plates and dishes and chopsticks and smashed them, hearing the movement, those people panicked, they scolded Guo Xia, and Guo Xia snatched the door and went out.
"I rushed back home and complained to my parents about what happened to me, and he kept calling me, not to apologize, but to scold me for being humiliated, to sweep his parents' faces, and to tell me to apologize to his parents quickly."
The latest news, Guo Xia has been operated in the hospital, and sent a text message to Sun Daxin's mother: "Congratulations, your son is single again, I sincerely wish that no one will be fooled by you again." ”
04.
In her novel "The Legend of the Green Snake", Li Bihua once said such a sentence: Never promote men. Yes, don't bring him up, it's better to love him until he's almost done. Men do not "promise each other", once he is promoted, waiting for the opportunity to break through, you are dangerous. No man is willing to sell his life, he always has the ambition to use the money he sold to buy another life.
Sharing weal and woe is our expectation of marriage, but human nature is complex and changeable, and it is difficult to understand. Some people have developed and do not forget the wife of the chaff and are willing to share happiness and suffering with you, and some people are only willing to share the suffering with you, but they are not willing to share the happiness with you.
Girl, don't bet your life, you can't afford to lose. Once you lose, it's not just you who suffer, but also your parents and your children.
Choosing a mate carefully is actually something that a mother must do, and in a failed marriage, not only will you suffer, but your children will also suffer.
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