The hot search TV series "Dear Child" was commented by the People's Network that the drama was "selling anxiety", but I think this TV series was too real.
Because every family has a difficult scripture, if this is selling anxiety, it is because there are too few experiences and I don't understand why my mother has so many complaints.
I've seen women argue with their fathers after giving birth to a child, where dads can run out to play with their brothers and not come home after drinking, while moms have to cry and take their kids, wash and cook, clean up, be busy like a gyroscope, tired like a dog.
Mom is not Superman, it's just that when others have a way out, Mom doesn't.
This drama made me discover three cruel truths after becoming a mother:
The absence of the husband
Ren Suxi's mother Yinuo, looking really painful.
When he was about to give birth, his husband returned to the company first because of work, and after he was busy, he did not accompany his wife in the hospital and drank and watched TV at home. Out of the delivery room, Yinuo found that there was no one outside, which was really chilling! Even the nurse next to her was upset with her and said, "This husband is too out of tune." ”
And Yinuo's new mother, seeing the child crying will be very nervous and anxious, we mothers will understand this mood, but in the eyes of husband Xiao Lu's wife, he said that he could not understand, and even felt that Yinuo was overly nervous. Later, he began to escape the days of chicken flying and dog jumping at home, from sleeping on the sofa every night, deliberately unwilling to go home for dinner, and finally even when he went downstairs, he did not want to go home, how truly reflected the absence of her husband, so that many new mothers lived anxiously and full of resentment.
The offside of the mother-in-law
When the daughter-in-law Yinuo gave birth to the child, the mother-in-law did not go to visit the daughter-in-law, but asked the son to take the granddaughter's placenta from the operating table, wrap it into ravioli, and want to supplement the body of her young son, which is really unbearable!
I believe that every mother-in-law's starting point is good, there is no malice, will be considered for children and grandchildren, but there are huge differences in the outlook on life, values, living habits, and education methods between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, if differences of opinion become the norm, it is necessary to pay attention to it, and the mother-in-law should give the pregnant mother who has just given birth as much as possible to have more help and care.
Its own misalignment
The various physiological reactions of women after pregnancy, long spots, acne, long stretch marks have become very ugly, all kinds of dissatisfaction after asking for a sister-in-law, as well as the absence of the father on the road of parenting, and the parenting conflict of the mother-in-law relationship, these are enough to suppress the new mothers breathlessly, and the heart is blocked.
Watching Yinuo fight alone, she fell into a huge sense of loneliness and anxiety, and she became a mother but lost herself.
Everything takes precedence over children, parent-child relationships are greater than husband-wife relationships, and husbands' infidelity eventually leads to marital problems.
This TV series portrays the greatness, helplessness and hardship of the mother to the fullest, which is very real.
I hope that more real problems will be seen by everyone, and more new mothers will be understood and treated well by their families.