Zhu Zhu was originally a customer of Xiao Lu, and the two became familiar with each other because of their business dealings. Zhu Zhu recognized Xiao Lu very much and provided a lot of help to Xiao Lu at work, and Xiao Lu was also grateful. In the beginning, the two were just in a normal working relationship.
The twist in their relationship should have started when Xiao Lu took Zhu Zhu to eat a roadside stall and climb over the fence. This is a life that Zhu Zhu has never experienced before, she is happy like a child in the process of climbing over the fence, and she has experienced rare relaxation and happiness. Since then, her liking for Xiao Lu has further increased. Only later did Xiao Lu get drunk and Zhu Zhu took him home.
Logically, Zhu Zhu's own conditions are very good. She is beautiful and has a good figure. She is well educated, knowledgeable and educated, and has good working ability. Coupled with the shrewd and capable mother to manage the company's business, the economic conditions are favorable.
On the other hand, Xiao Lu was still just a business person of a small company, although he was also very capable, but the conditions were far from Zhu Zhu. Moreover, he is married and has children, and the family conditions are very general. The reason why Zhu Zhu likes him is that there is a very important factor, that is, her mother.
Although it is not clearly stated on TV, from Zhu Zhu's mother's words, we can hear that Zhu Zhu's father once did something to apologize for her mother, so let her mother feel deeply resentful of men. She should often say bad things about men in front of Zhu Zhu, under the influence of her mother, Zhu Zhu has rejected the opposite sex since she was a child, and dare not have too much interaction with men.
Her mother has always lived with Zhu Zhu, and her discipline of Zhu Zhu is very strict, resulting in Zhu Zhu's lack of experience in interacting with men. It is precisely because of the lack of interaction that Zhu Zhu also lacks understanding of the opposite sex. When she finds some good points in a certain man, it is easy to like the other person.
Secondly, the mother's discipline of Zhu Zhu is too strict, and it can be said that the mother is controlling Zhu Zhu's life. We can see the daily life of Zhu Zhu and her mother at home, her mother has prepared breakfast, even if Zhu Zhu has no appetite, she must eat something according to her mother's requirements. The mother had a serious face, Zhu Zhu was cautious, watching the mother's face and acting, the interaction between the two of them lacked the warmth that a normal mother and daughter should have.
Mother's such an education method makes Zhu Zhu's heart very loveless. She desperately longed for her mother's love, but her mother did not express it in the right way. When the two broke out into a conflict, Zhu Zhu complained that her mother always arranged her life, but never respected her wishes, never asked her if she liked it or not. In fact, her mother loves Zhu Zhu very much, but she lacks freedom and democracy in the way she treats Zhu Zhu.
In addition, her mother always arranged Zhu Zhu's life, and Zhu Zhu formed a contradictory attachment to her mother. Her mother arranged Zhu Zhu's life in great detail and planned Zhu Zhu's future. Her mother did everything she could to get Zhu Zhu a good education, and after graduation, she was placed to work by her side. Zhu Zhu's life is inseparable from her mother, and she is very dissatisfied with her mother's arrangement.
After Zhu Zhu's mother discovered about Zhu Zhu and Xiao Lu, she bluntly raised her objections, and a fierce quarrel broke out between mother and daughter, and Zhu Zhu ran away from home. In the face of Xiao Lu's refusal and Fang Yinuo's frankness, Zhu Zhu was isolated and helpless, and she dialed her mother's number when she was most helpless. She was angry with her mother, and she couldn't do without her mother, and her mother was also angry with her for her misfortune. After Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu decided to divorce, they invited a group of witnesses, including Zhu Zhu. Zhu Zhu's mother actually came to the scene, first apologized to Fang Yinuo on behalf of her daughter, and warned Xiao Lu to stay away from her daughter.
Although Zhu Zhu has grown up, she is still treated as a child in the eyes of her mother, and Zhu Zhu's mother is a typical controlling parent.
In previous articles, we have discussed some of the impact that controlling parents' parenting styles may have on their children. For example, the substitution of parents will make the child's self-care ability poor and lack of independent awareness. The tyranny of parents will make children accumulate a lot of bad emotions in their hearts and arouse their children's rebellious psychology. The parenting style of controlling parents will make children feel depressed, and the parent-child relationship is prone to problems.
These situations are all reflected in Zhu Zhu. The child's problem is often the problem of the parents, and I don't know whether Zhu Zhu and her mother in the play will reflect on the problems between them and improve them after passing this matter.
I hope that this plot can bring some enlightenment to us in reality: parents must pay attention to ways and methods when they love their children, otherwise, the love of parents may cause harm to their children.
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