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01. Preface
A woman's life is often like a never-ending gyroscope, always spinning.
When I was young, I worked hard for my career and didn't want to rely on anyone. After entering the marriage, for the sake of the family and children, busy and busy, not for a moment.
Two hands, unable to put anything down, just constantly busy, as if they could not stop.
Mr. Yang Dai said: "Later we learned that those who have a good temper are angry, those who are sympathetic are all considerate, no one who can take care of people is taken care of, and those who can cry and make trouble have sugar to eat." Those who understand things, on the contrary, no one will be distressed. ”
In life, women don't have to be so sensible, they don't have to be so virtuous, they don't have to be so strong. On the road of life, there is no return ticket, and occasionally learn to enjoy life in order to find more happiness.
Don't be too harsh on others, there are no perfect people in this world.
If you feel too tired because the burden on your body is too heavy, it is time to stop and think about whether you need others to share some for yourself, and don't be difficult for yourself.
The more a woman lives, the more tired she is, and there are often three characteristics, please change and avoid in time.
02, like to do a lot of housework
A woman lives very tired, often because she is too worried. Big and small things in the family, like to take care of.
In marriage, the more tired women live, the large and small things in the family, feel that only they can do well. The housework done by her husband, she is either disgusted with unclean or not done well.
Never let the child do housework, feel that the child is too young to let him do housework. She has to worry about and take responsibility for all the big and small things in the family, and she is very busy all day long.
There are even some women who not only have to run the family, but also work hard and bear part of the family's financial expenses. Career and family are often not taken into account at the same time.
Career worries, trivialities in the family, will make a woman live like a top, all the time. Over time, she will be exhausted.
And smart women have long broken the rules of "outside the male lead, inside the female lead".
A woman faces pressure at work, a hard day of hard work, and when she comes home, she will guide the man to face the housework with him. Maybe in the beginning men will be a bit of a mess and won't do anything.
As long as you have the heart, in fact, you can learn anything from scratch. As long as you slowly guide, these trivial things in the family are shared by two people, and women will be much easier.
Women, do not always tolerate and considerate, let men experience the housework, you will know that women seem to have done nothing, in fact, how much effort and labor have been paid. He will be more grateful to you and know how to cherish you.
03, like to complain that others are not doing well
Women who live very tired like to provoke what others do and weaken the enthusiasm of others to pay. Do everything yourself, and don't trust what others do.
In "Dear Child", Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo welcomed their children. During the month, after the sister-in-law left, Fang Yinuo's mood was very bad.
Xiao Lu knew that she had not yet eaten, so he very actively gave Fang Yinuo a bowl of noodles.
Fang Yinuo only ate one bite of the noodles and felt that there was no taste. His mouth kept shouting that no one could count on, and his mouth was full of complaining.
Xiao Lu was in marriage, and Fang Yinuo felt that Xiao Lu couldn't do anything well. Always blame him, hit him, make him always feel paid, but worthless.
And Fang Yinuo was not at ease with Xiao Lu, and she had to do everything herself, and she was tired to the point of collapse.
When a woman always feels that others do things badly, and whoever does things is not satisfactory, it will hit the enthusiasm of the people around her and make the people around her unwilling to pay again.
Women who are more and more tired are always critical of others in their eyes, always criticizing and blaming others, and cannot see the advantages of others.
In marriage, women who really live well are good at adjusting their mentality, know how to encourage others, mobilize the enthusiasm of the people around them, and let them learn to grow and pay.
When everyone unites and accomplishes one thing together, and everyone is willing to take part of the responsibility, women will not be so tired.
04, love to be strong, everything is only on their own
In life, there is also a kind of woman who lives very tired, that is, she loves to be strong and can only rely on herself for everything.
He has a stubborn temper, is unwilling to rely on the help of others, and always wants to rely on his own strength to complete everything. In fact, sometimes to solve some things, you can "borrow power".
When a person, when dealing with something other than his ability, will do it very hard, will feel that he is very wronged, and after doing it, he will also be tired.
Being strong is not the best way to solve the problem, know how to show weakness, but will make the people around you more attentive to care for you, cherish you.
Women can be competent, but they can't be strong. Otherwise, you will only make yourself more and more tired.
In marriage, really smart women understand that husband and wife should support each other, rather than standing by and watching each other when one party encounters things.
Women, occasionally learn to show weakness, are not ashamed. Don't always feel that you can do anything, and when it's time to show weakness, you must know how to show weakness.
In marriage, to guide men to pay more, women will have more warmth and care, and they will not be physically and mentally exhausted.
05. Summary
Women, the road of life, very short, please learn to be kind to yourself.
Yishu said: "Life is only a few decades, the most important thing is to satisfy yourself, not to please others. ”
Women can improve their abilities and make themselves stronger and stronger. But don't take everything to yourself and make yourself physically and mentally exhausted.
Learn to rest, learn to guide the people around him to assume his responsibilities and obligations, and guide the people around you to grow together with you, then life will not be so tired.
Whether in life or in marriage, everyone has a different personality and way of doing things.
When things happen, don't make a big deal of it, learn to divide the work, you can communicate, share and understand each other, and get along more easily.
Just over-bend, don't be too strong in everything, learn to adjust your life state, make yourself more calm, and life will become more and more beautiful.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.