A truly intelligent woman who marries everyone who is happy

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In marriage, there is a more contradictory phenomenon, that is, the men we feel good to us before marriage will make us tired for no reason after marriage.

It's not that the other person has changed, but in the various trifles after marriage, we stop getting to know each other newly.

Marriage, the fear is not a third party, but the indifference between husband and wife.

Daibing wrote in "They Are the Happiest": "If the direction is the same, two passers-by who are destined to accompany each other will not pass by." ”

It is deeply believed that two people with common life goals are destined to be together, but if the direction is opposite, you are facing endless quarrels.

1, marriage, is a problem-solving process

Marriage is more or less noisy, but it is still inseparable from each other.

Problems and contradictions are inevitable, and the most important thing is how to solve them on both sides.

In "Dear Child", Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo's marriage is because when the problem arises, they are not communicated in time, and the two eventually go farther and farther, so that they divorce.

At first, Fang Yinuo gave birth to a child in the hospital, accompanied only by her mother, and Xiao Lu, as a husband, returned home and began to watch the ball game and drink beer, completely ignoring his wife.

After giving birth, there is no return home, and every time they use overtime as an excuse to evade their family responsibilities.

Until he met Zhu Zhu, the daughter of the partner, he felt good and broke through the bottom line of morality after drinking together.

The audience said that the divorce between the two was reasonable, but during this process, Fang Yinuo also gave Xiao Lu countless opportunities.

It's just that they are all ruthlessly ignored by Xiao Lu.

There are too many problems in this marriage, so they are not happy.

Qian Zhongshu wrote in "Siege of the City": "There is no accident in the world, it is just the inevitability of wearing makeup and masks." ”

I strongly agree with that.

Marriage is just a packaged love, when the relationship between the two returns to life, it will only face more pressure, not happiness.

2) Sometimes, a bad marriage really has nothing to do with you

There is a saying: "Marriage without love is an immoral marriage, and marriage with only love is an unrealistic marriage." ”

That's true.

Love and marriage are inextricably linked, and we have been pursuing happiness all our lives, but we often lose the happiness that exists around us.

This is both a sad point and a personal choice.

As a woman, I don't take all the responsibility on myself at all, because everything has variables, let alone feelings.

Recently, I was watching "A Year Without a Job", and the heavy rain in the play is a very inspirational character.

She is a strong woman in her career, but in love, it is not smooth.

He and Song Zelin are lovers who have been in love for ten years, but the other party chose to break up with her because of the company's intern.

Later, the intern left Song Zelin because of money, and Song Zelin remembered the good of the heavy rain.

He wanted to find a reunion of heavy rain, but he did not know that he had already broken the heart of heavy rain, and when the two met, naturally there would be no such scene of love.

In fact, the matter of love, if there is a problem, must be the problem of two people, not the fault of one person.

Some women, perhaps because they love each other too deeply, often feel that they are not good, so they let the other party leave themselves.

In fact, it is not one's fault that marriages have gone bad.

3, the premise of marital happiness is to love yourself first

Love yourself first, and then love others, this is what marriage should look like.

Especially in today's society, there are many married women who will choose to return to the family after marriage and become full-time wives.

In essence, it is for the good of the family, but in fact, it is a manifestation of not being responsible for oneself.

Because men may become more and more excellent with their ability to work, while women can only stay at home every day, serve the family, and lose their ability to be financially independent.

This is not greatness, but tragedy.

Zhang Guorong said: "There is always a person who appears and makes you feel that the world is worth it, so you have to wait." ”

Admittedly, if a man makes you give up on yourself and deprives you of the opportunity to be good, then he must not love you, but consume you.

Remembering that in "Our Marriage", Jiang Jing's encounter is a tragedy.

She said that she chose to be a full-time wife, that is, to make her husband the boss, take care of the family, and her husband will also give her money, but this life with her palms facing up makes her lose her right to speak.

Even if she wants her parents to go out on a trip, she has to rely on her parents to break their legs, so that she has an excuse to give up the opportunity to accompany her son to travel to her parents.

What is the significance of such a marriage?

Therefore, when two people are together, if it makes you feel uncomfortable, then don't pretend to be happy.

Some things, once over-inclusive, will become the other party's chips.

Xiaoyuan's message: We have thousands of reasons to make ourselves happy, not necessarily marriage.

Perhaps, someone will want to rely on marriage to achieve a class leap.

However, if you think about it, if you don't have your own capital, how can those excellent people be backward compatible?

Don't feel that only women are realistic, men are also realistic.

Only people of the same frequency will feel the joy of love in marriage, which is beyond doubt.

Therefore, may you have some love and some expectations.

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