The 10-year relationship in "A Year Without a Job" says that breaking up is a breakup, which is worth every woman's reflection

I think everyone has had the experience of sparing no effort to put out the fire for the people and lovers they think are worthy, just like the heroine He Yu in "A Year Without Work" said, "If you get married, you must be with this person, and then it will be him for the rest of your life, and I didn't expect to finally break up." ”

This drama, witty with a little sadness, happiness with a little sadness, despair and never lose a glimmer of hope, very healing, suitable for any age of us, in the plot to continue to improve and encourage, especially the feelings of some heroine and first love boyfriend, it is worth every woman's vigilance and reflection.

With the boyfriend for ten years, not only do not require men to give themselves car tickets and houses, but they work together to make money to prepare for the wedding, the beginning of the plot, heavy rain to the boyfriend to prepare for the birthday, but because of the work had to leave, men appeared, blame the number of meetings is small, blame their sick girlfriend did not care about themselves, but also after knowing to leave, twisting their necks to play temper, of course, this scene is like a woman's playful look, and this also reflects the fact that when women are too sensible, it may be the fact that the other party is not sensible.

A lot of bad work, drunk back home ready to "apologize" to coax his birthday boyfriend, but the result is bumped into another woman into the room, the man and the use of the topic to play "separate and calm down for a while"

All excessive separation stems from candidates who are attractive enough

Men are rational, he does not make blind decisions, even if he really feels inappropriate, but in the end he makes a decisive choice because he has the right successor. Just like Song Zelin, if there is no intervention of the intern's female colleagues, there is no face-to-face confession, and he will not immediately say "calm" to his girlfriend who has been in love for 10 years.

In fact, the purpose is to re-choose, but for the time being, I have not found a suitable excuse for separation. Therefore, women must be rational and calm in the face of such a situation, do not impulsively let the other party naturally, saying that it is your temper is bad, forcing you to the end of the end.

In other words, the subtext of calming down from a man's mouth is just looking for a way to quit the scene that seems to be less desperate.

Behind the end of the relationship are the problems that we should all be aware of:

Ten years have passed, too familiar with each other has lost their passion, like the new and dislike the old is the essence of human nature.

From the age of 22 to 32, the most beautiful 10 years of youth in life, is spent by two people, women feel that it is chips and capital, but under the feelings of men, it may be numb and boring after habit.

Especially when we throw ourselves into our own world and ignore each other, the probability of this rejection will also increase.

Temptation is everywhere, and as long as there is a heart, it will be shaken

Tang Rui such a cunning woman is not uncommon, Song Zelin such a man is more numerous, the most important thing in life is the test and temptation, whether you are really good enough, but where the wrong information is passed on and identified as "value", it may be the target of attention and competition.

Therefore, in maintaining the relationship, women make men realize that their ability to realize their own value is indispensable, and single tolerance and patience are equivalent to tacitly indulging his madness, which really makes him mistakenly think that he is really attractive and can attract other people of the opposite sex.

Just like the heavy rain, after hearing the "good gathering and good dispersion", angrily questioning men, drinking coffee before going to bed, not brushing your teeth, the toilet seat is not lifted, the cold war is also their own initiative to coax each other to ease, endure for 10 years to endure has become a habit, and the man easily replied "Since I think it is forbearance, don't put up with it"

Women's behavior makes men eat themselves, and unconsciously makes him not know himself accurately enough, and feels that he is really good.

It is not an exaggeration to say that Song Zelin's arrogance similar to men is a woman's habitual and overly sensible behavior, which makes him really have no fear, and he does not realize his mistakes in the relationship at all, let alone weigh his true weight.

On the contrary, Song Zelin's attitude towards Tang Rui is completely different, exposing his nature, but also giving women a vivid lesson, in the relationship, once there is a third party, and the man's position is very clear, please quit quickly, do not do entanglement is the best policy.

It's not that it's instigation, it's that the person really isn't worth your continued waste of youth and energy.

If you want to get married, both parties have to pay a cost when they are in love, whether it is feelings or money.

Why did Song Zelin have such a big difference in attitude when facing Tang Rui and Heavy Rain? The key is that women let him invest in different costs, and heavy rain, the hotel renewal fee to brush the girlfriend, and later Tang Rui, food, clothing, housing and any expenses are consuming men, which is also a very important reason for men to tolerate accommodation and reluctance to let go of the little girlfriend.

A relationship must be paid by both sides, which may produce nostalgia and unwillingness to blindly ask or give, which will lead to the inducement of loss.

Why do the same men have such a big difference in attitudes toward feelings? The key is that women invest in different feelings, Heavy Rain wants to work together to get married for a lifetime, Tang Rui wants to borrow power, exchange their youth posture for the fastest good life,

It is not an exaggeration to say that a person's unbalanced payment is doomed to be the one who is eaten, and in a relationship, if you want to sacrifice or even humble love in exchange for cherishing, then from the beginning it is doomed to have a complete future.

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Text/Relief Emotional Station

(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), good at the restoration of romantic relationships, marital contradictions and differences, and the healing of psychological trauma caused by the original ecological family. The lonely journey of life, listening to your grievances and pressures, helping visitors improve their skills in getting along with the sexes, saving their lovers, managing their feelings, and striving to become happier people.