The more a person is in a trough, the more he must remember to use these 6 methods to change his life

In this life, people will inevitably experience a trough period.

Just like the heroine He Yu in "A Year Without a Job", unemployed, lost love, seriously ill family, investment failure, one after another suffered blows.

No matter how hard you work, how well planned, life will always suddenly change at a certain node, once you enter such a trough state, people's usual reactions will be negative, questioning themselves, and even complaining that heaven is unfair to themselves, but the more this time, the more you must maintain calm, use the right method, in order to make yourself from the trough faster to another peak.

Break away

Whether it is feelings, work, or life, we must remember to learn to give up at each stage of our lives, which is not a self-destructive resentment, but a rational cleanup.

The points that should be divided, the points that should be forgotten should be forgotten, and when it is time to turn around and leave, do not swallow your anger.

The past is not nostalgic, the future is not entangled, put your mind on the present, and re-choose your own life, in order to restore a better state and move in a more favorable direction for yourself.

Only by learning to format their own bad patterns can people make room for a better life.

Believe in love and try more

"Love" is not only a kind of love, the love of friendship, the love of affection, workplace partners, even if it is only occasionally encountered by a stranger, can bring us different warmth and change.

Heavy rain three people to Wuzhen travel, the result almost slept on the street, in the hospital met the homestay owner took the initiative to come forward to take in, of course, the heart of prevention is indispensable, the vigilance should be indispensable, but the heart remembers at the low point, retain the courage to believe in love, and dare to try.

It is inevitable that people will encounter evil people in this life, and it is believed that love is not ignorance, but the exploration and hope of the unknown are retained in the depths of their hearts.

Man's true wisdom is the ability to not give up the desire for love and to seek love in the midst of pain. Even if you are scarred at the moment, how about learning to lick the wound yourself, waiting for healing and then naturally being able to spread your wings and fly.

Courage to break the game

The weak wait for the opportunity, the strong seize the opportunity, the wise create the opportunity, and the courage to break the game in the state of adversity and trough can open a new beginning.

Maybe it may not be successful, even if it is a failure, all attempts and experiences are the help to promote their own growth.

Bad now does not necessarily mean that there will never be a counterattack, the crisis requires the efforts of the parties themselves to change the reality, and breaking the situation can make us accelerate the pace of successful change.

There is more than one track of life, life is worthy of love and will cherish our not only that person, break the game, any mutation, may be a more brilliant beginning.

More fitness

Life is bad, feelings are not satisfactory, if there is no longer a healthy body, everything is zero.

If you overeat and lose your good figure because of depressed emotions, why do you think there will be better people who love you?

Even if people are in the trough, they must remember to exercise more and ensure their health and beauty, which is also an invisible investment.

Read more

It seems that in the era of information explosion, the Internet has replaced traditional reading, in fact, if you can, you must develop the habit of reading.

Between the lines, what people feel is resonance, there is also the guidance of new ideas, or just because of a certain experience of a certain author, it can make people instantly healed or even redeemed, Dong Qing said, "Reading can give people strength, it can make people happy." ”

In fact, a good book is actually a key to open the door of our undeveloped brains, a short shift in attention, but can harvest a wiser way of thinking.

Be sure to review yourself

The trough is not expected, but no matter what kind of failure, it must contain its own problems, learn to review their own lives, in order to correct and adjust, not to repeat the same tragedy as the past.

What people are most afraid of is not failure, but complaining about the injustice of heaven in the trough, self-pity and self-pity only pity their own grievances, and do not face their own problems.

Of course, all this can be achieved as an auxiliary force, remember to make more money and save some savings when you are going well, after all, if the heavy rain in "A Year Without Work" is not a little savings before, I am afraid that the days will not be able to achieve what they expect.

Life's ups and downs are inevitable, and author Spencer Johnson reads this view very intuitively in his book "Peaks and Valleys".

The whole story, through the experience of young people in the valley, makes people reflect on their own lives.

The young man's work and life are not satisfactory, and he fantasizes about life elsewhere. Often sitting on the grass and looking at the peaks rising from the ground in the distance, I decided to climb to the top of the mountain to see. Relatives and friends dissuaded him, and eventually he put aside all his doubts and fears and began his mountaineering journey.

After a strenuous climb, he reached the top of the mountain, where he met an old man. The old man learned of his story and taught him a set of peak and valley theories.

Theory helps the elderly and solves three difficult problems, how to quickly get out of the trough of life, how to climb the peak of life, in the years to come, how to effectively avoid the trough of life, and maintain the peak state of life for a long time

And their dialogue experience can actually lead every low-level person to self-reflect on the adversity of the moment.

The author believes that in our work and life, everyone will encounter peaks and valleys, which is the norm in life.

Peaks and valleys are not only external good times and adversities, but also your inner feelings and changes, and when you enjoy what you have, you are on the top of that happy mountain; coveting what you don't have, you fall into the bottom of the trough of suffering.

So learn to balance emotions in the trough and find the right direction in order to reach a better peak.

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Text/Relief Emotional Station

(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), good at the restoration of romantic relationships, marital contradictions and differences, and the healing of psychological trauma caused by the original ecological family. The lonely journey of life, listening to your grievances and pressures, helping visitors improve their skills in getting along with the sexes, saving their lovers, managing their feelings, and striving to become happier people.