Life is a short and long one-way trip, there is no chance to turn back, on the way will meet countless people of all kinds, some people are destined to be just passers-by, after a short encounter hurriedly leave, can not go to the end.
But human emotions cannot rationally face mutations, and even pain will not be desired.
Especially in the face of love, fate is coming, we will certainly invest countless expectations, make countless plans, and even leave no room for sacrificial pay, but when the fate is exhausted, the heart is no longer there, no love, why can't we put it down?
Loving someone can actually be easy, maybe only for a moment, but if you want to let go of a person, it often takes a long time.
From the perspective of love psychology, two people have exhausted their feelings, and the reason why they can't put it down is not necessarily because of love, but because the "Zeignick effect" is a memory effect in psychology, and it is also the real core of the person we can't let go.
For this kind of experience with a beginning and an end, it is inevitable that there will be gaps and unfairness in our hearts, and what we can't let go of is our own youth and the true feelings of our efforts, rather than the lover who is no longer worth cherishing.
Relationships may be broken, but memories are not scattered
However, our human brain often confuses deep love with remembering, so it is even more painful and anxious.
After the breakup, the two are two individuals who are irrelevant in the eternal parallel line, and even in this life in a different city, there is no chance to see each other again, the pain of the stage is inevitable, there is no need to blame and suppress, whether you are willing to put it down or not, remember to do these "several things" well, only to be worthy of your own life.
Face up to it, accept reality and yourself
Once people's feelings are "accident", people will usually be in a chaotic state of chaos for a short time, most afraid of not facing reality, avoiding the fact that feelings are not there, and at the same time they will have a wrong interpretation of their own positioning, either overconfident that it is the fault of the other party, or self-denial, thinking that it is all their own fault.
Faced with the fact of separation, the fate is exhausted, and it is not an escape that can really return to the original point.
There will be different stages in life, but at this moment they travel separately from each other, whether it is from your heart or not, the person has already decided not to dwell on wasting their time.
The failure of a relationship, an experience may have its own shortcomings, but also the other party's reasons, to really rationally do a review, find out their own problems, moderately adjust the change, but also accept their own even less than the small shortcomings of people.
It doesn't matter if you don't disguise yourself as strong in any way, it will only make you live harder and start a new life. True strength is that the days go by as usual, not to anyone.
Live a fulfilling life
The hit drama "A Year Without a Job" is really suitable for young people to watch, heavy rain lost love, in the morning when he found that his ex-boyfriend had a new love, he decisively chose to go to Wuzhen, where he had planned to go with his ex for a long time, just like she said, without men, Wuzhen is as beautiful as Wuzhen.
This sentence should wake up how many people, the loved one is gone, does not mean that your life can not have beautiful scenery and wonderful.
Of course, there are many ways to enrich, you can travel, you can work, you can go to an uplifting class. You need to find ways to release emotions, distract yourself, and temporarily gain relief.
The homestays that the heavy rain went to during the trip, the declarations of lost love in the sad museum, are even more telling every sad person that instead of just thinking about that person, it is better to study more on their own, which is more valuable.
The more this time, the more you can not be depressed, remember to make your life full, so as not to think wildly, but also have the opportunity to make life more exciting. Live happily, in layman's terms, at least you have the opportunity to meet the opposite sex that is more suitable for you to have new emotional opportunities and meet a better future.
Don't stay in your own reluctant feelings to remember, this kind of mourning in addition to making yourself more haggard, the old let the other party glad to leave, they will not have any benefit.
Think about whether he or she is worth it
"A Year Without Work" in the rain and Song Zelin, for the rain, this man is not worth it, 10 years of feelings, because can not stand the loneliness can not resist the temptation to change, although women also have problems, but such separation, undoubtedly for women is a seemingly harmful, substantial gift.
So the fate is over, and Saion is not blessed.
Think about this person is worth your efforts? If it is worth it, then no matter how many years together, how much you pay, in fact, it is not a loss, and it is already good to have it.
If he or she is not worth it, has already lost once, and continues to be unwilling, painful, sad, such a superimposed cost, is not it more uneconomical?
In fact, people can sometimes withdraw from their unwilling emotions, and many things will be released. Let go, let go of the person who is not worthy, have the opportunity to meet the more worthy person, have a better start, and make life more exciting.
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Text/Relief Emotional Station
(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), good at the restoration of romantic relationships, marital contradictions and differences, and the healing of psychological trauma caused by the original ecological family. The lonely journey of life, listening to your grievances and pressures, helping visitors improve their skills in getting along with the sexes, saving their lovers, managing their feelings, and striving to become happier people.