Introduction: How many relationships will a person have in his life? Perhaps everyone gives a different answer. When many people talk about their first love, they will fantasize about entering the marriage hall with them, but how many people will achieve it? He Yu, the heroine of "A Year Without a Job", said, "I once thought it was him (Song Zelin), but I didn't expect to finally break up." ”
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The TV series "A Year Without Work" is really suitable for people around thirty years old to watch, happy with sadness, despair and hope, very healing TV series.
The heroine Da He Yu opened the first episode to reach the lowest point in her life - the customer was snatched away by colleagues, quarreled with her boyfriend, bumped into her boyfriend and other women to make an affair, and her intern became her boss... Workplace frustration, love scene is not smooth, the beginning is a variety of broken things.
If the first episode already feels bad, sorry, the next episode is even worse.
Immediately after, the boyfriend proposed to "separate for a period of time", was openly provoked by the boyfriend's ambiguous object that "it is the little three who is not loved", was framed by the boss to lose his job, and repeatedly frustrated in looking for a new job, and everything became worse and worse.
Comrade He Yu, a 32-year-old unmarried young woman, seems to be really at the bottom of life, and what will happen in the future really dare not think.
With the development of the plot, everyone gradually found that life is not satisfactory nine times out of ten, as long as you do not give up on yourself, willow dark flowers and bright villages will eventually come.
He Yu has a new job, and he has new expectations in terms of feelings, and everything is slowly getting better.
However, He Yu's predecessor, Song Zelin, seems to be getting more and more unsuccessful, and he and his new girlfriend Tang Rui are facing a breakup.
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Without discussing anything else today, let's discuss why Song Zelin's attitude towards his two girlfriends is completely different. When he first proposed to separate from He Yu, he did not drag mud and water, and his words were concise, but when Tang Rui proposed to break up, he tried his best to save it.
Why is there such a big difference in the performance of He Yu and Tang Rui when they broke up? There are three main reasons that expose men's inferiority when it comes to love.
The first reason: ten years later, feelings have no passion, like the new and dislike the old is the essence of human nature.
At the beginning of the story, everyone knows that He Yu and Song Zelin are a couple who have been in love for 10 years, of course, they are definitely rushing to get married.
From the age of 22 to the age of 32, the most beautiful 10 years of youth in this life, the two spent together.
If the two are married around the age of 28 and have a baby around the age of 30, it is estimated that it will develop into the plot of "Dear Child". However, it is not necessarily true that perhaps the two will have a stronger relationship in the process of running a family together, which is possible.
10 years of love, young men and women in Shanghai to work hard is not easy, can mix a bite of food has been very rare, not to mention other trivial life.
However, He Yu has a spirit of not accepting defeat and not accepting her fate, she strives to be self-motivated, does not use dirty means, is good at observing the color, the amount of alcohol is good, and she has trained a sales skill. She wants a better life in the future, and she doesn't want to put all the pressure on her boyfriend Song Zelin, so she works hard.
However, all of He Yu's efforts were a burden in Song Zelin's view, and he felt more pressure.
Song Zelin is the kind of honest engineering man, and he and He Yu are very pragmatic when they walk together. Two young men and women who do their duty walk together, huddled together for warmth, just wanting to live a life that is not so hard.
However, He Yu's heart was really a little big, and people were also a little strong, so Song Zelin was a little bored, and at this time, Tang Rui appeared and became the fuse for the end of the two people's 10-year relationship.
Song Zelin did not like Tang Rui much in his heart, but the essence of human nature was to like the new and dislike the old. When a man no longer loves a woman, he can definitely do a lot of strange things.
Song Zelin's life suddenly appeared a kind, cute, beautiful, empathetic girl, a girl who called him "brother" all day long, Song Zelin's heart began to move, and it became inevitable to break up with his girlfriend who had been in love for 10 years.
The second reason: Tang Rui's demands are more, Song Zelin's cost is larger, and "not cost-effective" is an inner reaction.
With the development of the plot, everyone saw Tang Rui's green tea face. On the one hand, she said that she loved Song Zelin, and on the other hand, she spent Song Zelin's money without scruples.
When Song Zelin and He Yu were together, He Yu was meticulous and worked hard, thinking about how to increase the area of future families to buy houses every day. Even for Song Zelin's birthday, He Yu was reluctant to book a full-day suite, choosing an affordable hourly room, in order to save unnecessary expenses and plan for the future family.
After Tang Rui and Song Zelin interacted, what hung on her lips was not "three rooms and two halls", or "one hundred square meters of large flat floor", but she was definitely not like He Yu who jointly contributed money, tang Rui would only give her request.
During the relationship between the two, she took the initiative to negotiate salary with Song Zelin's boss, which caused great trouble to Song Zelin's career development. None of this is said, she has repeatedly spent money to buy expensive luxury goods, tens of thousands of bags, and all she spent was Song Zelin's money.
In terms of cost, Song Zelin paid a time cost for He Yu, after all, it was a full 10 years, but He Yu also paid for 10 years equally. And Song Zelin's treatment of Tang Rui is more of a cost of money and an emotional cost.
Song Zelin paid so much for Tang Rui, even more than he did for He Yu, but what he got was so little, Tang Rui said to leave, without the slightest nostalgia. For a while, Song Zelin felt that he was very uneconomical, and the payment and return were obviously not equal, so he tried his best to save Tang Rui.
The third reason: Song Zelin was a little bit sure of He Yu in his heart, but he couldn't eat Tang Rui.
Although Song Zelin is a relatively wooden engineering man, he is also a man after all, and he will also have the characteristics of inferior roots that belong to men.
Song Zelin and He Yu have a 10-year relationship foundation, he knows He Yu very well, and even eats He Yu very much. He proposed to be separated for a while, not at all worried that He Yu would have other emotional developments, he knew that He Yu wanted to marry him and spend this life together.
Therefore, when Song Zelin and He Yu broke up, they did not redeem themselves, and they said that they broke up lightly, that is, they still had the meaning of eating He Yu.
Song Zelin was completely different from Tang Rui, he knew that Tang Rui loved to spend his money, and Tang Rui had many problems with him, but he obviously knew it, but he was still reluctant to let go.
Loved forever has no fear, this time instead of Tang Rui eating Song Zelin, she wants to continue to continue, want to break up, want to leave, want to go to Beijing.
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Song Zelin's attitude towards He Yu and Tang Rui was completely different, and in addition to exposing his nature, he also taught the girls a vivid lesson, although it was chilling to think about. But it also reminds the majority of female compatriots: in the relationship, once there is a third party, please quickly quit, do not do entanglement is the best policy.
In a relationship, if it is possible to maintain it through humble love, cunning means, and unequal efforts, this relationship can basically be judged to have no future.
However, this TV series also gives the girls a few reminders in terms of feelings.
First: If the love is for marriage, the love period should not be too long.
Many young girls have asked how long it takes to discuss marriage in a relationship. There is no unified answer here, or it depends on the emotional state and comprehensive conditions of the two people.
Like the situation of He Yu and Song Zelin in the TV series, it is more appropriate to get married when they are about 28 years old, that is, when they are in love for 6 years.
If you are in love at the age of 25, it is more normal to be married for 3 years. However, if you have not been married for 10 years, no matter what the reason, from the high probability point of view, the possibility of entering marriage is not large.
Second: Both parties have to pay a cost when they are in love, including feelings and money.
A relationship requires both parties to give, including money and affection, rather than just asking for it.
He Yu did not ask for money, and his ex-boyfriend Song Zelin felt that his loss was not large, because he did not pay, so he did not feel it. Tang Rui is different, she asks for feelings and money, but Song Zelin is very attentive, because he has to pay, so he will not be willing to lose.
The essence of human nature is like this, if you want to better maintain feelings, you must give to each other.
Third: It is the little three who are not loved, which is absolutely a fallacy.
To borrow the words of Mr. Chen in the TV series, "Are the little sisters now so open? "This situation does exist in reality, and it is not an isolated case.
There are many girls who do not know whether they are blinded by love, or whether their parents have not taught well, thinking that "love is greater than heaven", and it seems that everything has to give way to their "warm love". Coupled with the acquiescence and fueling of some men, many original or genuine girlfriends have been created, thinking that they are really "not loved to be the little three".
In "Dear Child", the male protagonist cheated on his marriage that year, and Xiao San made a big fuss at the child's first birthday feast, as if she was the victim.
In "A Year Without Work", Tang Ruizhen said eloquently, "It is The little three who are not loved!" She was in PUA He Yu, wanting to humiliate He Yu and make He Yu automatically quit, so that Tang Rui would not have any moral burden.
Although the TV series has not yet been played, but now the plot development has been seen, Song Zelin and Tang Rui are separated, and Song Zelin seems to have no residual love for He Yu. Perhaps after comparing with other women, I found that He Yu was good.
But some people miss it at the time, and no one will stupidly stop there waiting for someone who has hurt and failed themselves.
In this fast-paced era, everyone must strive to chase the beauty of tomorrow. He Yu deserves a better future, and it is more worth treating her better man.
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