Text/Flying Fish
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In this life, the best state of life is to be able to take it and put it down.
However, it is easy to take it, and it is often very torturous to put it down, and even very testing, and it is also cultivating people's minds.
Life is not easy, let alone smooth sailing, unsatisfactory things nine times out of ten, but we must know how to take it and put it down.
In the face of gains and losses, in the face of success or failure, in the face of joy and sorrow, in the face of separation, even if sometimes it is very helpless, but we must also know how to see open, learn to let go, in order to start again.
As Sanmao said, "What Heaven does not give me, no matter how tightly I clasp my ten fingers, still leaks; what is given to me, no matter how I have lost my hand in the past, will have it." ”
Life should not dwell on the past, do not care about gains and losses, you know, gains and losses follow fate, success or failure is nothing, it is a big deal to start again.
No matter how many times life has abused us, we still have to love life and always live optimistically.
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Maybe there have been some things in life, let yourself feel afraid, become a shadow, difficult to get out, often dream, memory will be like a maze, how to run can not run out, and later found out, in fact, the past has passed, not so terrible.
In fact, what you were afraid of before, now it seems, is not worth mentioning, now you are unbearable, the future will eventually pass, can not go, will accompany you for a lifetime, you are uncomfortable, and then escape, you must eventually learn to get along with it.
The so-called maturity is nothing more than two signs, like still like, but can not have, afraid of things are still afraid, but can face.
Therefore, life should know how to let go of the past, look forward to the future, people live is a mentality, only learn to take it, put it down, we can make the days better and better, even if it is not successful, you can also be happy, life needs to heal itself.
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He Yu in "A Year Without a Job" is unemployed, and looking for a job has repeatedly hit a wall, because her affairs have become a blacklist in the industry, so no one dares to use her.
Later she studied at home and cleaned up some things, and her roommate invited her to go out with her to set up a stall, and she didn't want to go because she was afraid of hitting acquaintances and feeling embarrassed.
But under the stimulation of his roommate, He Yu still passed, but he could not sell things for fear of being recognized by others.
However, when I met several friends, one of them also took a fancy to her bag, and Bought it for 80 yuan, which made her very distressed, because she bought it for 8,000 and wanted to buy it at a high price, and her friends saw that she was unemployed to set up a stall, but because of pity for her, she gave the bag to her.
Although she was lost and regained, she was not so happy, because she knew that others would be like this because they pitied her.
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The roommate asked her if she felt that unemployment was a very humiliating thing, and He Yu felt that it was because she was only thirty years old, it was the golden period of her career, and she could have walked flat and green, and her waist was entangled, and as a result, she set up a stall here, which was too humiliating.
In fact, life is originally ups and downs, although some people are younger than you, but the bad debts on their bodies are not less than you.
People can't live too tired, don't have to maintain your image as a successful person, you have to lie constantly, and in the end you have to use more panic to round it.
And all your energy is spent on these panics, how do you live, how to work, how to study.
Anyway, you are now at the lowest point in your life, what could be worse than this.
Anyway, your life is already in a trough, there is no need to be afraid of failure and loss, those vain faces and strange good magic, you can throw them all away, you have to use more courage to try and make mistakes, open-minded hard work, but also must go to the trough of determination.
Life, put down the bottom, put down their own shelf, can flex and stretch, in order to get out of the trough of life.
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In fact, life is like this, the more you are afraid, the more you can't put it down, the more painful you will live.
Although it is difficult to put it down, please give yourself a little time, take your time, don't be in a hurry, life wants to open up a little, don't disguise yourself, live out the real self, is the best of yourself.
Su Shi said that life is like a reverse journey, you and I are pedestrians.
In this trip of life, we are all passers-by in the years, nothing is put down, the job is lost, the big deal is not to find again, even if you can't find it in the industry, the big deal is to change an industry, it doesn't matter, don't force yourself to have no way out. When the road of life comes to an end, please remember to learn to turn, there will often be another way out waiting for you.
A line from the movie Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon: When you clasp your hands, there is nothing inside; when you open your hands, the world is in your hands.
You have to learn to let go of those fruitless attachments, face gains and losses, successes and failures, and only by looking away can you have them again.
Everything in the world is inseparable, but there are sacrifices and gains, and only by taking them and putting them down can we live a clear, sober and firm life.
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