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As the old saying goes, "Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren." ”
Many parents often "point fingers" in the matter of their children's feelings. Actually, this is not good.
We can give some advice and opinions, but the matter of feelings, or they have to decide for themselves. Too many tubes will breed some unnecessary trouble.
Yes, poor parents in the world.
Sometimes, some parents just don't understand this. Instead, it will put their children in some awkward situations. For example, the following mother has single-handedly created such an embarrassing situation.
Let's take a look at her story.
Hello Teacher:
I want to complain about a recent blind date I had. The man's mother really disgusted me.
This blind date, I didn't want to go. But because my mother said it was introduced by a distant relative. In fact, I am not familiar with the so-called relative. And over the years, our family and this relative have not moved much.
But my mother is this person, good face. She heard that the other party's economic conditions were OK, so she agreed.
I didn't want to refute my mother's face, so I had to go on a blind date. According to the mother's statement: the man's monthly salary is 20,000, in a good company, the future prospects are still good. I was three years older than me.
I'm 27 years old and my husband is just 30 years old. Saying that he has been single for more than 2 years, the requirements for the other half are quite high.
My own conditions are actually good. I work for a company and my monthly salary is 8k. But I felt it was enough for myself. My family is also OK. My parents bought me a house with a mortgage. Now the mortgage is my own payment.
Actually, I don't pay much attention to economic conditions. I mainly look at whether I can get along with the other person. I think that's the most important thing.
Of course, if you want to consider marriage, the family situation of the other party is also very important. Here are some simple criteria for me.
On the day of the blind date, I attended on time. The overall feeling is pretty good. It's just that I think this man doesn't smile and feels very wooden. And I don't like men like that. In addition, from his conversation, I can feel that he is very picky. And there is no opinion.
Talking about some topics, he was always on his feet and didn't know how to answer.
So, I didn't have a good overall impression of him. Although he earns 20,000 yuan a month, his family situation is still reasonable. But I didn't really look at him.
So, after the blind date, I sent him a message.
I said: You're okay, but not the type I like. So, forget about it between us.
He also didn't reply to me. I thought it was over. But three days later, I met a woman. At first I didn't react.
She directly questioned me: "My son earns 20,000 yuan a month, why don't you look up to him?" "I was really confused.
It was only after her own introduction that I figured it out. This is the mother of a blind date man. I didn't expect her to come to me directly. And it's that kind of tone.
I showed respect for her, and when she was done, I said, "Auntie, I'm sorry. My emotional problems, I make my own decisions. ”
I could tell she was upset. She said a whole bunch of things, one moment in a tough tone, the next apologizing to me. It was embarrassing to me.
Eventually, I said I wouldn't associate with his son.
As a result, she said: "My son has such good conditions, you do not agree, you will regret it." Then he left angrily.
That's why I had an unpleasant blind date this time. Later his mother came to see me about this, and I didn't tell my parents. I don't think it's necessary.
But I did feel a little unhappy in my heart. How can there be such a mother. Fortunately, I did not agree to associate with her son. Judging from this situation, in fact, this man is a mother treasure man.
Heck, maybe very few people will encounter a situation like mine. If you, you encounter such a situation, what will you do?
Emotional analysis:
"My son earns 20,000 a month, and you will regret it if you refuse": The marriage of the children is left to their own decisions.
We can use this sentence to sum up the above strange blind date. There is nothing wrong with what women do. But the point is that this mother is really not doing it right.
It is not that his son failed in his blind date, and he was still angry and looked for the girl who was dating to reason. Such a mother, too much management.
From this mother's approach, we can also see that this man really has no opinion on his own emotional problems. It's not okay to go on like this.
And for women, when they encounter such a mother and treasure man, they really need to avoid it.
From the perspective of parenting, we always have to understand a truth. The children's own emotional problems should be faced by themselves. Whatever problems you encounter, don't interfere with them. Some support can be given, but direct intervention can only bring unnecessary embarrassment.
This is a fundamental matter of principle.
Some parents just can't figure it out. As the mother above, if she really did deal with her son's emotional problems. Then she will make more jokes in the future.
Therefore, for parents, do not interfere too much in the emotional problems of their children. No matter how much you love them. Keep that in mind. They have grown up, their own lives, let them face it themselves.
Especially emotional things, let them solve it by themselves, in order to get the happiness they want.
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