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Marriage for many people can be the ultimate place in a lifetime.
However, for some people, it is a kind of misfortune.
There is a saying: "Sometimes love is not marriage, fit is marriage." ”
It is true that some people say that marriage is material, otherwise, there is no material security after marriage, but real marriage is never established on the original material.
If your three views are not in harmony, then, no matter how solid the material foundation is, it is difficult to go to the end.
The most terrible thing about marriage is not the lack of love, but the consumption of each other.
1, only love marriage, it is difficult to go to the end
Some people say that two people together, as long as they love each other.
But, really?
Of course not, it's like in love, you only want the other person to be good to you.
It's all an insecure option.
Wang Xiao wrote in "Let Us Meet in a Higher Place": "The happiness of ignorance is not called happiness, and the happiness of knowing is happiness." ”
I deeply agree with this, and happiness that can be perceived by ourselves is called happiness.
Love is a thing, if there is only love, it is difficult to go to the end.
Recently, I was chasing a drama, "A Year Without Work" starring Yoko Spicy.
Song Zelin and Da Yu are the first love who have been in love for ten years, and the two have a deep love.
However, a conversation with a colleague made Tang Rui hear that Song Zelin might get a share, and this intern full of "heart" began to find shortcuts to make himself rich.
For a simple-minded programmer, Song Zelin couldn't see through Tang Rui's set at all, and even took her to his home for dinner.
Finally hit by the heavy rain, the two broke up in one breath, and Tang Rui saw the stitches and inserted needles, making Song Zelin his boyfriend.
Is this fair for heavy rain?
The answer, of course, is no. After all, no one can willingly let their years of feelings be in vain, and who doesn't want their lover to love only themselves?
It can be seen from this that sometimes, only love is really not enough.
Especially the commitment that a man makes to you, if you only stay at the level of saying, never believe how much he loves you, only the other party puts it into action, can prove his love for you.
2, mutual consumption in marriage is the greatest non-consumption of the lover
There is a saying that says, "Don't be with someone who consumes you, and don't be a person who consumes others." ”
Deeply believed, no matter who you are with, you must remember one principle, that is: do not consume each other.
Especially in marriage, the consumption of lovers is the greatest disrespect for each other.
This kind of behavior is common in families with unhappy marriages.
For example, two people who have no love, obviously have reached the last step, but they are not willing to let go, which is the biggest consumption of each other.
A reader left me a message saying that he and his wife had been married for many years, but because of his long-term indifference to his wife, the other party betrayed the family.
The reader was both angry and afraid of losing his wife.
His wife was already disheartened and wanted to divorce the reader, but he was unwilling.
In order not to affect their daughter's middle school entrance examination, the two had to choose to postpone the divorce.
It can be seen from this that such a marriage has long been in ruins, and even if it is retained, it will not have a good ending.
Marriage, the most feared is not no love, but no love, still consuming each other, unwilling to let go.
Everyone's best time is just a few years, if you don't cherish it, and you consume other people's marriages excessively, this is "no quality".
3, the most terrible thing about marriage is not lovelessness, but internal friction
In marriage, your consumption of others is also the consumption of yourself.
Imagine: When you don't have love, you are still working on an irreparable marriage, remember what?
It hurt the feelings, and also lost the time of the two people.
There is a saying: "Don't regret what has happened, don't worry about what hasn't happened, this is the key to curing internal friction." ”
It is deeply believed that as a human being, you should focus on the present moment, not be depressed about the past and what has not yet happened.
Each of us has our own things to do, and when you waste too much of your time on one thing, you are also wasting your life.
Previously, in the variety show "Spring Day Delayed Departure", I saw such a clip.
Several guests chatted together, and when It came to Liu Liqi, she talked about her divorce experience, which made people feel sad for her.
He and his husband have been married for many years, but the other party has always betrayed him.
Moreover, later, the in-laws have been helping him to hide what happened.
At first, for the sake of the children, Liu Liqi chose to tolerate, but when she repeatedly gave in, she became a chip for her husband to advance.
The other party ignored Liu Liqi's feelings and brought the third party to her home, and from this, she also felt that there was no need to continue this marriage.
So she chose divorce.
The marriage was pathetic, but her final decision was something to be happy about.
After all, a woman can stop the loss in time, but also need a lot of courage, after all, the sunk cost paid early, is also difficult to give up.
Xiaoyuan's message: Marriage is a happy thing for many people.
However, marriage also needs to think twice, and not everyone can meet the right love.
How you treat your future, what kind of future you will have.
Why today's young people are increasingly reluctant to get married, not because they are too ambitious, but because they are not willing to let themselves be hurt.
After all, marriage is like a big gamble for many people, gambling is happiness, gambling and losing will lose everything.
For the rest of your life, may all you encounter be loved. Share!
Topic: What kind of marriage do you think is the most reliable?
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