After chasing "Dear Child" during the May Day holiday, I liked the role of Xiao Lu's mother Gao Caiping more and more.
I was quite disgusted with Gao Caiping when she first came up. The daughter-in-law gave birth to a child, and she did not go to see the two women at the first time, but took the granddaughter's placenta and stewed it for his young son.
When I ran to the hospital, twittering made me think of "Dream of the Red Chamber", the aunt Zhao who was not two in three, noisy and annoying, fortunately, Fang Yinuo invited the sister-in-law, otherwise let such a mother-in-law serve the moon, think it must be crazy.
However, because of Fang Yinuo's pickiness, Sister-in-law Yue even said goodbye halfway, and did not rush to find someone temporarily, so Xiao Lu had to ask her mother for help.
Gao Caiping came with a big bag on her back, and her shoes did not change, so she directly entered the house, and Fang Yinuo took the slippers and was stunned.
But this mother-in-law is not so careful, she can not see the height of the eyebrows, since the bag of "treasures" are taken out one by one, are Xiao Lu and his brother when they wore clothes and used diapers when they were young, said to use for their granddaughters, Fang Yinuo's face was disgusted, really looking at the head.
Hehe was sick, she said that she hit something bad, ran downstairs to burn paper money, frightened the neighbors, quarreled with her, and even moved his hands, Xiao Lu finally lost a medical fee.
However, when I was a child, I loved to be sick, and my grandmother actually did this kind of thing, no matter what the effect, the heart is good.
When Gao Caiping took her granddaughter downstairs to bask in the sun, she only cared to see people play mahjong, the stroller slipped out, the child fell to the ground, just happened to be seen by Fang Yinuo, quickly picked up the child, angrily kicked a stroller, this mother-in-law, is really too unreliable, where is to help, is this not to add to the chaos?
Fang Yinuo's mother saw that her daughter's family was like this, and she was really relieved, so she retired in advance to take care of her daughter and children.
After she came, she said to Gao Caiping, "Dear family, let's divide the work, you cook and buy vegetables and clean up, I take care of them.
I thought Gao Caiping would say something, but I didn't expect her to agree very happily, and I was very happy that she loved her granddaughter, as long as she let her stay, whatever she wanted.
At that moment, my opinion of this mother-in-law suddenly changed, this old lady, although she was vulgar in appearance, she was really kind and did not care about her mother.
But Fang Yinuo's mother, although she has a knowledge base, but it is really quite a thing, provoking thorns everywhere, but Gao Caiping never cares, big grin, can endure anything, can listen to anything, and the mother-in-law has done this job, almost more than 90% of the people.
Later, Xiao Lu cheated, Fang Yinuo wanted to divorce him, Gao Caiping did not protect the calf at all, beat and scolded Xiao Lu, angry, bought a lot of things, and pulled Xiao Lu to the door to apologize.
As soon as the door was opened, she, who was not very good at talking, may have wanted to ease the atmosphere, first hahaha laughed, and was ridiculed by Fang Yinuo's mother: What a happy thing, laughing like this?
She also didn't care about the attitude of her mother, and Fang Yinuo said with her heart and lungs, I am not trying to persuade you not to divorce, but to tell you from my experience of coming here, a single woman with a child to live, it is too hard.
Yes, Gao Caiping's husband died early, she pulled her two sons alone, suffered a lot, suffered a lot, and suffered a lot, it was really not easy.
Gao Caiping has a lot of problems in her body, but everything is a kind eye, such a mother-in-law is really very good, and those small problems can be ignored compared with her kindness.
I have a colleague and a mother-in-law who is very similar to Gao Caiping. Once, she and I complained that her mother-in-law did not pay attention to hygiene, the house where the family lived was quite new, the corners were piled up, but the mother-in-law picked up the paper shell wine bottle, when it was hot, the house was full of flies, but the two children liked to run to the grandparents' house as soon as the holidays were over, and they couldn't stop it.
I said that the children are willing to live in their grandmother's house, it must be the grandparents who hurt them, good to them, the children are the most spiritual, and whoever is kind to him knows.
Colleagues said that she also just told me in passing, although the mother-in-law has no culture, rough and rough work, but it really hurts people, they save money and use it frugally, they are particularly generous to the children, the money earned by planting greenhouses at home is all given to grandchildren, the old two usual pocket money depends on picking up rags, this alone is enough, where are the people who see the line on all sides?
Yes, I agree with this point of view, there have been readers and I have talked before, about the various contradictions between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I also told her that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are originally two generations, whether it is living habits or three views, there must be great differences, but as long as each other put kindness in front, there will be no big problems.
Take my aunt as an example, because my grandfather's patriarchal thinking is serious, girls do not let go to school, my aunt does not know a word except her own name, she speaks in a loud voice, and loves to shout at every turn.
Her son, my cousin, is a high-achieving student at a major university and stayed in a big city after graduation. My cousin's daughter-in-law is his classmate, her parents are working in government units, the only daughter in the family, spoiled from childhood, it is said that my aunt and such a daughter-in-law are not easy to get along with, but the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is too good.
When my cousin gave birth, her mother was still at work, my aunt waited incomprehensibly, bought vegetables to cook and take care of the children, a piece of clothing did not let the cousin wash her hands, she said that women should be raised in confinement, otherwise it would not be good to fall ill.
In a month, her younger sister gained ten pounds, and her aunt lost ten pounds, but she was very happy and could take good care of her daughter-in-law and grandchildren.
Over the years, the relationship between the aunt and the daughter-in-law has always been envied, the aunt hurts people, the daughter-in-law is also filial piety, and the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has caught up with the mother and daughter.
In "Dear Child", Xiao Lu's actor Qin Hao, I was most impressed by his acting skills, but his mother.
Last year, Mango TV broadcast a variety show----- "Mother-in-law and Mother", which played the daily life of several pairs of stars and mother-in-law.
In the program, Yi Nengjing asked her mother-in-law, what did you say when Qin Hao and his family talked about the two of them?
Mother Qin said: I didn't know at first that you were ten years older than him, and then I checked the information to learn, I told my son, you want to think well, you can't have other ideas when you get married, she's older than you, you can afford to consume energy, she can't afford to consume, you can't bully people..."
That dialogue, I have always remembered deeply, Qin Hao's mother, by netizens enthusiastically called "fairy mother-in-law", she will stand in the position of daughter-in-law to think for her, understand her various difficulties, her kindness is like a gaoqiu yang, bright and moving.
In fact, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is one of the more difficult ones in interpersonal relationships, but as long as two people treat each other with kindness, it is not much different.
A good mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is to understand each other's tolerance, know gratitude, and understand.
Because of compassion, we will understand, we will see ourselves, we will see others, we will see sentient beings.
Every time you like it, I think I like it.
Su Xin: Columnist. Racing in the workplace, but also love words. About the workplace, about life, about marriage, about women, I write my heart by hand. WeChat public account: Su Xin (ID: suxin98498). He is the author of "In the Hard World, Cultivate a Gentle Heart" and "Time is on the Left, Dust is on the Right".