In "Dear Child", Fang Yinuo has always been a very sympathetic image in the early stages.
The change in appearance and figure during pregnancy, the husband's heart and slackness during childbirth, the shame of postpartum incontinence, the various overwhelms after returning home, and gradually began to be anxious and manic, her series of encounters, it is really very painful to see.
In the middle of the period, she gradually showed the shortcomings of her personality, and the requirements for Gao Caiping, the mother-in-law who took care of herself and her children, were too high and too strict, managing smoking, recording, how to dress, and even how Gao Caiping used the basin.
At this stage, perhaps because she has just become a mother and does not understand anything, she can only show selfishness and caution on the issue of children, all for the good of the child, which is also reasonable and understandable.
But these 2 decisions she made in the future, it really wasn't so simple, it wasn't so easy to prevaricate.
The way children are handled after divorce is too extreme.
Because of complaining and hating the various harms that Xiao Lu had brought to himself in his marriage, Fang Yinuo invited everyone to eat a casual meal together after the divorce, but in fact, it was to retaliate against Xiao Lu.
During the banquet, Fang Yinuo raised a glass to greet everyone, and then announced his decision in public, "Xiao Lu, don't appear in my life in the future, and Hehe will not see him."
For such a way of retaliation, Xiao Lu was obviously very surprised, and immediately quarreled with Fang Yinuo, the two of them fought each other with a few words and a few words, and finally the dinner friends could not see it, so they were busy persuading them to stop the dispute.
Because he hated Xiao Lu, Fang Yinuo took such an extreme approach, which was obviously a bit selfish.
Because in doing so, not only did he take revenge on Xiao Lu, but he also deprived Hehe of his right to gain his father's love when he grew up.
Adults divorce, children are not wrong, why should children pay for adults' mistakes, and become a tool for one party to retaliate against one party.
Therefore, Fang Yinuo's decision this time is completely unfair to the innocent Hehe, and this kind of behavior is not selfish!
Fang Yinuo plans to have another child with Xiao Lu because of saving Hehe.
It was selfish to make decisions for Himhe, but that only hurt an innocent person.
This time, Fang Yinuo's decision to have another child with Xiao Lu in order to save Hehe hurt the families of both sides, so the damage was even greater.
Speaking of the injury index, at the beginning it was intended to be IVF, Xie Tianhua after a fierce struggle of thought after painful reluctant consent, Dong Fan has always been a reserved attitude, at this time Xie Tianhua and Dong Fan suffered damage index may be 100 points, pain returns to pain, but has not yet reached the critical point.
But in today's plot, Fang Yinuo cannot meet the conditions of IVF due to physical reasons. Fang Yinuo made an even more incomprehensible decision after making a phone call to Fang's mother and asking her mother about her child's illness.
She sent a WeChat message to Xiao Lu: "Let's really do it"!
We can see from Fang Mother's attitude that Fang Mother did not understand the true intention of Fang Yinuo's question at that time, and if Fang Mother knew Fang Yinuo's intentions, I believe she would definitely change a more reasonable statement.
Next, if Xiao Lu agrees, then this time Fang Yinuo's decision will bring Xie Tianhua and Dong Fan a damage index of 10,000 points, and they cannot have a second better choice except for the painful and desperate choice or acceptance of divorce.
Not only that, the damage caused by this decision to Fang Yinuo's parents, Xie Tianhua's parents, and Xiao Lu's mother was definitely 100 points, and it was not light.
In this decision, Fang Yinuo has both selflessness and selfishness.
He He is selfless, but the families of the other party, Yinuo and Xiao Lu, are selfish.
If analyzed according to normal logic, Fang Yinuo hurt all the innocent people around him because he chose to save Hehe because of his mother's love, "this is obviously selfish and more dominant."
But normal analysis, for maternal love, for many things in the family, seems to have never been very applicable.
Therefore, Fang Yinuo's more selfish decision this time is right or wrong, and probably no one can say clearly, do you say?
Small survey: If you were Fang Yinuo, what would you choose to do?