Fang Yinuo looks good at first glance, there is nothing wrong with him, but if you think about it carefully, you will find that there are still many problems in this person, and such a person is destined to marry anyone and will not be happy.
opinionated
Fang Yinuo is a very self-righteous person, as long as there is a contradiction, he will always think that he has done everything right and others are wrong.
In getting along with people, Fang Yinuo always wants to draw circles for others, and everything must be done according to her wishes.
She will give her husband, mother-in-law, nanny and other people three chapters of the law.
Especially after the birth of the child, there are many rules, as long as she can't meet her requirements, she will not be able to stand it.
Fang Yinuo's self-righteous personality gave her one of the most terrible problems in marriage: asking too much of others and asking too little of herself.
Look closely at the people around Fang Yinuo, they are very good to her.
The mother-in-law took care of her wholeheartedly, the husband was tired every day for work, and when he returned home, he had to coax Fang Yinuo to be happy, and his parents cared for her even more, for her daughter, the mother retired two years in advance and lost a lot of money.
Fang Yinuo had never thanked anyone, she believed that everyone should pay for her.
Not only is she not grateful, she also does not allow others to have their own ideas, she said that what to do, must be done according to her requirements, a little less than her satisfaction, she will be uncomfortable.
When something goes wrong, she will put all the blame on others, and she herself is not at all wrong.
Character flawed, not sunny enough
Fang Yinuo always has a "bitter melon face", no matter who she talks to, it is like educating her own students, she always wants to put herself in a high position and let others look up to her.
As long as there is a contradiction in the family, Fang Yinuo will keep a straight face, accuse this, point to that, and he is not wrong at all.
Fang Yinuo's personality is too dull and indifferent, and anyone who lives with her will not be happy.
In a family, most of the time harmony is more important than right and wrong, Fang Yinuo herself also has many shortcomings, others can tolerate her, but she can not tolerate others.
Live a good life.
Because she is not sunny enough in her heart, she cannot make herself happy, does not say anything, and lets people follow her ideas and live with such people, too bitter, too depressed, too depressed.
The divorce freed Xiao Lu and found a truly happy life.
After Xiao Lu and Dong Fan got married, Xiao Lu's quality of life has obviously improved by several grades, the smile on his face has obviously increased, these have nothing to do with money, Dong Fan is cheerful and optimistic, likes to lie in front of Xiao Lu, speaks very softly, and can give comfort when Xiao Lu is sad and sad, which is what a wife should look like.
Dong Fan and his mother-in-law also got along very well.
Dong Fan is like a ray of sunshine, sprinkling this home with a warm glow, making the home full of joy and laughter, and making the family live happily together.
On the other hand, Fang Yinuo still lived a life of chicken flying dog jump.
Can't think straight, always self-inflicted anxiety
This drama makes people look very anxious, and the biggest reason is that Fang Yinuo is always creating anxiety and infinitely enlarging a thing that can be easily solved.
In fact, everyone in Xiao's family loves Hehe very much.
Xiao Lu is the father of the child, and he must love his daughter, and the mother-in-law Gao Caiping also loves his own granddaughter very much, which is beyond doubt.
But everyone has their own way of life and a different expression of love. Fang Yinuo should not impose her subjective consciousness on others, let everyone do what she wants, a little deviation, she will be very sensitive, will be suspicious, become very anxious, make the whole family atmosphere tense breathless.
When a family lives together, everything can be explained calmly, rather than letting everyone worry and live in infinite anxiety.
Fang Yinuo always magnifies small things infinitely, creating anxiety, she is anxious to let others follow the anxiety, others are not anxious.
Fang Yinuo not only created a lot of anxiety for herself, but her negative energy also seriously affected the harmony of the whole family, making the life that should be full of joy extremely tense, making everyone worry every day, and finally ruining her marriage.
Living with such people is so oppressive that few people can stand it.
As an adult, learn to regulate your mood, otherwise, no one can save you.
Family relationships are not handled
Fang Yinuo was lying in the hospital waiting for delivery, the company called to let Xiao Lu go to work, Fang Yinuo did not want her husband to leave, but his mouth said to let her husband rest assured to go to work.
Between husband and wife, how to think is how to say, rather than waiting for two people to quarrel and turn over the old account, how to do it in the first place.
Gao Caiping's care for her daughter-in-law is also dedicated, cleaning, cooking and laundry are not confused, she is also in the spirit of waiting for the confinement.
Fang Yinuo saw that Gao Caiping put the clothes of adults and children together and washed them, and he complained.
Gao Caiping is not intentionally opposed to her daughter-in-law, but has many years of living habits, and it is too difficult for an old man to change his living habits for many years and do it completely according to his daughter-in-law's ideas.
Fang Yinuo can sort the clothes well, he can't touch the cold water, he can let his mother-in-law help wash it.
When encountering problems, you must find a way to solve them, and you can sit down and communicate patiently, instead of blindly complaining.
Gao Caiping was not angry after being complained by her daughter-in-law, or let her stay away from the cold water and quickly go back to the house to rest, it can be seen that Gao Caiping is treating Fang Yinuo sincerely, and indeed thinking about her daughter-in-law, but her living habits are different.
After Fang Yinuo and Xie Tianhua got married, they often slept until the sun rose three rods every day, the sun was sunburned butt and did not get up, the in-laws were still sleeping when they made a meal, even if the sister was sneering at the side, she also disdained it, and she should sleep lazy.
Who can such a daughter-in-law not complain? Not to mention that her sister is still living at home, and Fang Yinuo is also too unconscious.
Such a person does not blame her sister for not looking up to her.
The second marriage must also be a chicken flying dog jump.
Don't think about other people's feelings, the brain is a tendon
After Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu divorced, they did not allow Xiao Lu to visit Hehe.
Later, after Fang Yinuo and Xie Tianhua got married, Xie Tianhua took Hehe to see Xiao Lu once a month.
Hehe was sick and hospitalized, Xiao Lu went to visit Hehe, Fang Yinuo wanted to hug Hehe to wash, but Hehe refused, she only needed "Uncle Xiao" to hug.
Hehe has followed Fang Yinuo for so many years, why does she prefer "Uncle Xiao"? This is the family affection engraved in the bones of father and daughter, and the innate blood relationship cannot be broken.
Fang Yinuo should not block the father-daughter relationship between them, whether it is for Xiao Lu or Hehe, it is too cruel.
After Xiao Lu learned that Hehe was ill, he wanted to take charge of his daughter's later medical expenses, but Fang Yinuo refused.
Xiao Lu wanted to save his daughter, why did Fang Yinuo refuse? It's actually for her self-esteem.
Xiao Lu has been working hard for his career, has a lot of savings, can also advance wages in the company, and can come up with a lot of money.
Fang Yinuo is a teacher, the salary is not high, her husband Xie Tianhua is satisfied with the status quo, there is no savings, their family is not rich, Xie Tianhua in order to treat Hehe, to sell the house they live in.
After the house was sold, where did Xie Tianhua's parents live? Where does the family of three live?
Fang Yinuo for his own self-esteem, regardless of the psychological feelings of her ex-husband, regardless of the current husband's economic pressure, and regardless of his daughter's life or death, such a person has love? She clearly loves no one.
When Xiao Lu took the money to save his daughter, Fang Yinuo wanted to clear up his relationship with Xiao Lu. Of course not, her approach to the relatives around her reveals that Fang Yinuo is incomparably selfish and cold, and she is more cruel than anyone else.
The mother is also not normal
Fang Yinuo's mother also played a negative role in her daughter's side.
Every couple will have conflicts and quarrels between them, and as parents, it is best not to mix in.
Every parent is distressed about their children, afraid that their children will be wronged, but after the children get married, they must learn to step back, marriage has a run-in period, let the children grow into adults, do not interfere too much in their lives.
Many times the excessive mixing of parents, on the contrary, the more helpful, counterproductive, easy to infinitely enlarge small things.
Before the marriage, Yinuo and her mother looked down on Gao Caiping, and after the birth of the child, Gao Caiping even touched the child after making a mistake to be blocked by her mother, and her speech was also yin and yang, sneering.
Once Gao Caiping and they took the child downstairs to play, Fang Yinuo and his mother did not care about Gao Caiping at all, and when they returned home, they also shut Gao Caiping outside, to change into an ordinary mother-in-law, and kicked the door early.
Fang Yinuo's mother's mentality and psychological quality are not good, a little thing will help her daughter, what was originally a very small thing, she added fuel to the fire, it became a big thing.
As parents, we should find ways to make their children live happier, and should aim for family harmony, rather than arguing about who is right and who is wrong, blindly blaming the Xiao family.
Too strong
With family, the most feared thing is to be too strong.
Gao Caiping came to take care of Fang Yinuo, but she did not look up to her mother-in-law, as long as the mother-in-law did housework, she was not only not grateful, but also followed by nagging, which was not clean, it was not appropriate, the result of the mother-in-law's hard work, the criticism was useless.
Fang Yinuo can really be said to pick his nose and pick his eyes, to see who is wrong, to see who is wrong.
No one can completely satisfy another person, not even your own children, let alone your mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law is willing to accommodate you, and if you can bear it, you have already calculated, and many mother-in-law will directly throw their hands away.
No one is at ease with it, so bring it themselves, and if they hate that others don't do well, they will do it themselves.
After Fang Yinuo and Xie Tianhua got married, Xie Tianhua felt that it was wrong for her not to let the child see Xiao Lu, but he knew Fang Yinuo's personality and did not dare to say it, so he had to secretly take the child to see Xiao Lu.
As a husband and wife, they did not dare to consult with Fang Yinuo, and they did not dare to say something, which shows how strong Fang Yinuo is.
Fang Yinuo is a woman with a super strong sense of self, except for the kind of man who honestly has no idea, any normal and assertive man will not live with her.
Women who are too strong mostly live unhappy, and Fang Yinuo is no exception.
Not satisfied
Fang Yinuo was already very happy, with her mother-in-law and mother to take care of her and the child.
It is normal for there to be contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and mother-in-law is also very hard to do housework, and mutual understanding will go on.
Moreover, sometimes it is clear that Fang Yinuo has his own problems, and he also picks his mother-in-law's nose and eyes.
Xiao Lu has some small problems, but Xiao Lu is much stronger than the average man, he not only works hard, he wants to make his family live well, he can also go home every day to accompany his wife and take care of the children with his wife.
Even so, Fang Yinuo was still not satisfied.
Most families are husbands going out to work, wives are alone with children, and they have not slept a full night in several years, so it is very good that the mother-in-law can come to help.
Rich men have no time, men with time have no money, can not ask men to give money to spend and have time to accompany, good personality, can spoil themselves, such a good thing everyone wants, but how many such people can have?
Fang Yinuo said that Xiao Lu didn't love her so much, and she didn't love Xiao Lu so much!
Fang Yinuo's tolerance for marriage, her love for her children, and her tolerance for her mother-in-law are actually what she thinks she thinks, and does she tolerate others? In fact, no, but people are tolerating her.
Fang Yinuo's personality will make people very tired, she has too much negative energy, will cover the whole family, will bring huge psychological pressure to the family, meet people like Fang Yinuo, must stay away.