Wen | Fang Xiaoju
In "Dear Child", as soon as Xiao Lu's mother appeared, she left people with the impression of whirring, grinning, and speaking in an unknown depth.
Although Xiao Lu's mother gave a bad impression, she was not a bad woman. She is kind-hearted, pungent and capable, and can grasp the balance in major issues of right and wrong.
She sincerely hopes that her son's marriage is happy and happy, and she is willing to see her son's daughter-in-law loving and loving, and she will grow old.
It is reasonable to say that even if such a Xiao Lu mother is not welcomed by her daughter-in-law, at least it cannot be a stumbling block in her son's marriage.
But Xiao Lu's mother was disappointed.
She has a fatal weakness in her – unreliability.
Xiao Lu's mother's unreliability caused the "yuezi vendetta", which made Fang Yinuo remember hating Xiao Lu for a lifetime:
I on the body, yes, my is on the body. In order to give birth to you, pulled on the body to let you serve that time, your disgusted expression, I remember hating you for a lifetime...
01. Because of a placenta, provoke the "confinement feud"
When Fang Yinuo was pushed out of the delivery room after giving birth, the nurse shouted "Fang Yinuo's family" several times in the corridor, but no one agreed.
At this time, Fang Yinuo, drenched in sweat and weak, saw that she had no one to take care of her, and the nurse had to send her to the ward.
In the elevator to the ward, the nurse kept complaining: "This husband is also too out of tune, the wife just gave birth to the child, the others are gone."
Where is Xiao Lu at this time?
He was taking his daughter's placenta and taking the elevator to his mother who was waiting downstairs, and his mother Gao Caiping wanted to wrap her granddaughter's placenta into wontons to supplement her younger son's body.
When he returned to the delivery room after sending the placenta, Xiao Lu could not find his wife.
Careless, he did not know that his wife had been sent back to the ward by the nurse, and he did not know that his wife, who had just given birth, had no one to take care of her - pulling her pants pocket.
When he found the ward, he saw Fang Yinuo moving his body in pain to deal with the pulled pants pocket himself.
Xiao Lu saw the situation and quickly helped her clean her pants pocket and change into clean clothes and pants.
Afterwards, Xiao Lu repeatedly washed his hands and disinfected outside the ward, and his disgusted expression made Fang Yinuo, who was lying on the hospital bed, see clearly.
With Xiao Lu's repeated washing of his hands, Fang Yinuo's heart sank little by little...
She was pushed out of the delivery room and needed the most care, but her husband ignored her because he was in a hurry to deliver a placenta to his mother-in-law. She couldn't hold back her pants, and her husband served her once, so disgusted. After reacquainting himself with Xiao Lu, Fang Yinuo closed his eyes in sadness and despair.
"Yuezi Vengeance" was deeply planted in Fang Yinuo's heart.
Although the "Yuezi vendetta" that Fang Yinuo planted in his heart was related to Xiao Lu's inconsistency, the key factor was Xiao Lu's mother's unreliability.
If Xiao Lu's mother did not urge her son to send her placenta when her daughter-in-law had just given birth and needed someone to take care of her, Xiao Lu would not throw Fang Yinuo outside the delivery room and no one would take care of it.
Because of a placenta, Xiao Lu's mother disrupted her son's marriage, laying the groundwork for their later marital discord.
02. Obsessed with mahjong, dropped the child, almost ran into trouble
After the sister-in-law did not quit and said goodbye, Xiao Lu had to invite his mother to take care of the moon for his wife.
Upon hearing that her son was going to let himself serve Yuezi, Xiao Lu's mother shook her head in a hurry. Before the child was born, she took the initiative to ask her daughter-in-law to take care of the confinement, the daughter-in-law did not do it, the sister-in-law ran and asked her to go, she did not do it.
After her son's repeated coaxing and persuasion, and fighting wits and courage, Xiao Lu's mother, who had found psychological balance, agreed to him:
"Now know how important I am? You can't do it without the old lady."
After coming to her son's home, Xiao Lu's mother's unreliability was fully revealed, and she could not accept the many requirements of her daughter-in-law, who had always been free and loose.
Her daughter-in-law did not allow her to smoke, so she came up with the idea of taking her granddaughter out to let the wind blow, and took the opportunity to go outside to enjoy smoking.
After the addiction to smoking, seeing the mahjong outside, she could not pull her legs, always had to go up to see a few times, or touch two, in order to reluctantly go home.
During the confinement period, Fang Yinuo was already emotionally anxious, and her unreliable mother-in-law made her more nervous.
Once, when the mother-in-law took the child out to let the wind out again, Fang Yinuo secretly followed out in order to verify whether she was really attentive when taking care of the child.
Just out of the corridor, Fang Yinuo heard her mother-in-law's cheerful laughter, and she was about to follow the laughter to find the past, when she looked up, she saw a stroller sliding down the ramp. Slipping into the depression of the ramp, the stroller rolled over to the ground and a child fell out of the car.
Looking at his daughter who fell to the ground, Fang Yinuo was crazy, crying and crying, while jumping up and holding her in his arms.
At this time, Xiao Lu's mother also screamed and rushed down the ramp, she had just watched others play mahjong, and on a whim, she made a deal for others, forgetting the stroller and the granddaughter in the car.
Seeing that the unreliable mother-in-law actually only cared about playing mahjong to throw the child down, Fang Yinuo kicked the two feet of the stroller fiercely, tearing his heart and lungs and shouting at her: "Why, why"?
Although because Fang Yinuo appeared in time, the child was not in serious trouble, Xiao Lu's mother stabbed such a large basket, not only put herself in an embarrassing situation, but also brought trouble to her son.
After Yinuo's mother learned that the child had been dropped, she angrily hit the door, and she not only had a big fight with Xiao Lu's mother, but also asked Xiao Lu for an attitude.
Seeing that Xiao Lu did not express his position, Yinuo's mother slammed the door and left, and she retired in less than two years, for the sake of her daughter and granddaughter, regardless of losses, she resolutely handled retirement in advance.
Because of the obsession with mahjong, seeing a child can fall, Xiao Lu's mother is unreliable, not only almost broke into a catastrophe, but also seriously affected the husband and wife feelings of his son and daughter-in-law. Because of his complaints, Fang Yinuo had not let Xiao Lu touch it for more than a year.
03. Drill money in the eyes, let the daughter-in-law's confinement be a chicken feather
Xiao Luma's unreliability is not only manifested in her obsession with mahjong, but also in other parts of her life.
Drilling money is the main reason why she is disliked.
When Fang Yinuo gave birth to a child, considering that her mother-in-law was unreliable and her mother had not yet retired, she invited her sister-in-law in advance.
As soon as she heard that her daughter-in-law had invited her sister-in-law, Xiao Lu's mother, who had slipped into the eyes of money, did not care about three or seven twenty-one, and opened her mouth in front of her relatives:
"You said that now looking for a sister-in-law will be tens of thousands, I told Xiao Lu how many times, you might as well give me the money, even if it is less." I take care of Yinuo and Hehe what can't do. Besides, what's tiring about having a baby, you see that old sow, giving birth to ten eight in a litter, is it tired"?
Xiao Lu's mother, who always takes money to measure everything, not only feels unfair for her daughter-in-law to ask her sister-in-law, but also compares her daughter-in-law's childbirth with the old sow's calf, and her unreliability makes her son's face a fever.
If you think that Xiao Lu's mother's unreliability ends here, it is a big mistake, she has more absolutes.
When Xiao Lu asked her to take care of Yinuo's confinement, she took the diapers used by Xiao Lu and Xiao Xu twenty or thirty years ago, spread them in front of her daughter-in-law, and said triumphantly: "You don't look at the color is not good, but I have sunburned, burned, and cooled, which is absolutely environmentally friendly."
In order not to give his daughter these smelly old antiques, Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu quarreled many times, and every time they quarreled, Xiao Lu adopted the attitude of "and thin mud", and each time the two were not happy and dispersed.
In desperation, Fang Yinuo took out the wisdom of the people's teachers and used it to fight wits and courage with his mother-in-law.
She and her girlfriend Lei Wen said yes, first bought diapers from the Internet and sent them to her, and then let her send them to her home in the name of Hehe Ganma. When she came to send diapers, Lei Wen also had to tell Xiao Luma that Shehe's diapers were not wet and she would be all inclusive in the future.
Xiao Lu's mother, who loves to take advantage of the small advantage and drills into the eyes of money, heard that her granddaughter's diaper was not wet and someone wrapped it round, and sure enough, she no longer insisted on letting her use the old diaper.
Because of the mother-in-law's drill money eyes, Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo have been arguing continuously, and for a long time, Fang Yinuo, who has been upset, has gradually lost patience with Xiao Lu.
Fang Yinuo's negligence and snub of Xiao Lu made Xiao Lu lose confidence in the marriage, so that he later cheated on Zhu Zhu and let the marriage go a strange road.
Xiao Lu's mother's drill money eyes, the starting point is good, he is afraid that his son will spend more, but her excessive frugality has made the life of her son and daughter-in-law a chicken feather, completely disrupting their marriage.
04. Death wants to face the guilt, triggering a family war
After Xiao Lu's mother was obsessed with mahjong and fell her granddaughter, because of her unreliability, Yinuo's mother had to endure early retirement and personally serve her daughter and granddaughter.
As the saying goes, "a mountain can't tolerate two tigers", worried that his mother and mother-in-law will be mixed together to cause family conflicts, Xiao Lu gently mobilized his mother to return to his home: "Mom, it is too tiring to take the child, if you go back to your own home, you love to smoke, if you want to play mahjong, play mahjong, how good."
Upon hearing that her son wanted to shake himself away, Xiao Lu's mother said firmly:
"I'm not leaving, I can't be so rolled up and gone with a gray face." I went this way, how to explain it to my neighbors and my sisters who played mahjong? Why did your mother-in-law let me go and I would leave? My high color screen is such a character, where I fall and where I get up. Who can guarantee that you won't make mistakes? I made such a mistake, as for blowing me away? I went to Yinuo and said go, I knelt down for her, and I saw if she could stand it"?
Since she had made the mistake of dropping her granddaughter so much, and her relatives had retired early and taken on the burden of taking care of their daughter and granddaughter, Xiao Lu's mother at this time, even if her son did not click on her, should accept it as soon as possible and leave as soon as possible.
But the unreliable Xiao Lu's mother is not.
She holds the mentality of "dying to face the guilt", and would rather be snubbed by her relatives and daughter-in-law, even if she does the same job as a nanny, she also has to die with her relatives to the end.
And she also found enough reasons for her unreliability in front of her son:
"I now know that yinuo's problem with picking bones in this egg is with whom, you mother-in-law, will be enough for you in the future." I can't go, I can't go at this time, if I go at this time, after you are in this home, the waist plate will not be able to stand up straight. I don't believe I can make your mother-in-law compare, when did I lose the high color screen"?
Xiao Lu's mother said that she was thinking about her son, but in fact, in the final analysis, it was still the psychology of "dying to face and living to suffer", and she did not want to lose face in front of her relatives.
For the sake of her own face, she would rather watch her son sleep on the couch every day, and for the sake of her own face, she would rather let her son be caught between the three women.
Moreover, for the sake of her own face, she would rather indulge her younger son, who has reached adulthood, and eat and drink peacefully in the eldest son's house.
Until there were no rules, the little son of unknown size smoked indoors, triggering a family war, causing Xiao Lu to pour bitter water and say the grievances that had been backlogged for a long time, Xiao Lu's mother knew that she was wrong.
Xiao Lu said this in front of his mother, mother-in-law, wife, and brother:
"I shouldn't have put you together, you were all thinking about your own things, thinking about your feelings and self-esteem, who thought about it for me?" Since I was born, when I returned home, everyone had to coax, coax the big one, coax the little one, coax the old one. I'm sleeping on the couch now, I have back pain at work every day, who of you ever cared about me"?
Her son's grievances let Xiao Lu's mother know the seriousness of the problem, and she did not expect that her "death to face the guilt" would bring such great trouble and pain to her son. Her son's words made her understand how unreliable she was.
Write at the end:
Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu are loving partners who have gone from school uniform to wedding dress, and before they have children, they are a model couple in the eyes of everyone.
But since giving birth to his daughter Hehe, after Fang Yinuo finished sitting on the confinement, everything seemed to have changed.
Fang Yinuo was no longer gentle, and for a year, she refused to let Xiao Lu touch herself. Both internally and physically, she was resisting Xiao Lu.
Their divorce seems to have started by Zhu Zhu, but in fact, only Fang Yinuo knows that the root cause is not in Zhu Zhu.
When Fang Yinuo wanted to divorce Xiao Lu, he said something like this to his girlfriend:
"I wanted to divorce him, and I didn't think about Zhu Zhu at all, all I thought about were the chickens and dogs in our lives, and those details had changed." Really, without Zhu Zhu, we would definitely be able to get to this point..."
Thinking about Fang Yinuo's words, you will understand that in fact, there have been problems between him and Xiao Lu for a long time, and among these problems, the "Yuezi Vendetta" is the most fatal injury.
From the moment Xiao Lu went to send his mother a placenta and threw Fang Yinuo alone outside the delivery room, Xiao Lu in Fang Yinuo's heart changed.
From the moment Xiao Lu cleaned up Fang Yinuo's pants pocket and repeatedly washed his hands with a look of disgust, love receded in Fang Yinuo's heart.
At the moment when his daughter Hehe fell out of the stroller, the seeds of crisis and uneasiness were planted in Fang Yinuo's heart.
And these "Yuezi feuds" that Fang Yinuo buried deep in his heart were all caused by Xiao Lu's mother's unreliability.
Xiao Lu has an unreliable mother, and Fang Yinuo has an unreliable mother-in-law, which is the fundamental reason why they go to the strange road.