As an artistic film and television work, "Dear Child" is undeniably true.
However, when we look back at the prototype of the story in detail, we find that in the same background of the story, the suffering between the protagonist and the protagonist is completely different.
In the adaptation, the director only differed from a few details of the prototype story, which overshadowed the whole play.
No wonder some netizens complained: wasted a good story!
I carefully reviewed the experience of the prototype of this story [Yan Ying and Qin Deqiang] and found that the suffering of the characters in the prototype story was completely diluted in the play.
In its place are ethical entanglements between two couples, four men and women, and several families.
The adaptation of "Dear Child" has a lot of things, but a little less temperament, what are the details that make this drama less perfect?
01, the reasons for divorce are different
The child's illness is the introduction to the relationship between Qin Deqiang and Yan Ying, while what wears away Fang Yinuo's marriage to Xiao Lu is the daily life of marriage and the loyalty of her husband.
The child has leukemia, which is the starting point of the archetypal story.
Yan Ying in the real story is just an ordinary worker in Guiyang, who has a husband who is not very good-tempered and will beat people when quarrelling.
After her son fell ill, there were only two problems in front of her: poor and matched.
In 2000, the eldest son, who was only 7 years old, was suddenly diagnosed with leukemia, and to make matters worse, the father of the child was also diagnosed with "blockage of the optic nerve due to excessive depression" shortly after.
Qin Deqiang's eyesight dropped sharply, he needed surgery, he had no money, he could only drag it out, and gradually became half blind;
Son Qin's newly developed leukemia needs to find a match, but also needs a high fee, which is also a big mountain.
No money, terminal illness of the child, Qin Deqiang's vision decline, work to make money has become a problem, endless quarrels and domestic violence... Little by little, this pile of piles tore open the cracks in the marriage between Qin Deqiang and Yan Ying.
"He (Qin Deqiang) has a bad temper, and as soon as he quarrels, he will beat people, and I can't beat him." In fact, he likes his son very much, but the economic pressure is too great, he can't afford it, and his heart is also anxious. ”
In the end, Yan Ying proposed a divorce, Qin Deqiang "opposed invalidity", and the marriage between the two of them came to an end.
What about Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu in the play?
The root cause of their divorce is not the child's illness, but Fang Yinuo's attitude and Xiao Lu's drunken cheating.
Careful netizens have probably noticed that in the 34 collective TV series that are not long or short, it is not until episode 14 that they enter the main line of children getting sick.
The plot of the first ten episodes all revolves around the parents of Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu after marriage.
From Fang Yinuo's loneliness during pregnancy, to postpartum neuroticism, from Fang Yinuo's entanglement with his sister-in-law, to Fang Yinuo's contradiction with his mother-in-law's mother-in-law, from Fang Yinuo's divorce from Xiao Lu's husband and wife, to Xiao Lu's drunken and Zhu Zhu hooking up...
The director seems to be eager to move all these years of family dog blood dramas into the same film.
It is undeniable that from pregnancy to postpartum, Fang Yinuo has been very bitter.
In the comment area, there are countless viewers who shout for her and work hard for her, but in fact, many people know that most of the bao mothers who are currently suffering from Fang Yinuo have endured.
This "shared" suffering is not enough to crush Fang Yinuo's marriage.
However, after Fang Yinuo gave birth, she was strong, defensive, and distrustful in her treatment of Xiao Lu and other family members, as if she had worn away her love affair with Xiao Lu little by little.
Yan Ying and Qin Deqiang divorced, essentially because of the child's treatment, Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu divorced, purely because the two could not go together.
02, the timeline of divorce is different
Yan Ying divorced her husband Qin Deqiang after the child fell ill;
Fang Yinuo's marriage to Xiao Lu came to an end shortly after the birth of the child.
The time difference here seems to be nothing, but in fact it is very subtle, and people have to think more about something.
From this point in time, the child's illness is the fuse for Yan Ying and Qin Deqiang.
Before the eldest son fell ill, this family of four, although the days are hard, but still harmonious and happy, after the child is sick, the couple's anxiety, financial pressure, the pressure to seek medical treatment...
Along with all this, Yan Ying and Qin Deqiang quarreled endlessly and domestic violence.
Yan Ying was too bitter!
To take care of the young son, to take the seriously ill eldest son to seek medical treatment, to work, to ask people to borrow money, to maintain this small family, but also to cope with the emotions and violence of a half-blind husband who has no job.
The child is sick, like a butterfly stirring up that little wing, and then there is a stronger than one butterfly effect.
"At that time, he did not agree, but I was iron-hearted, on the one hand, I did not want my son to see us arguing, which was not good for the treatment; on the other hand, I was also very disappointed in him, I went to the west for my son's illness every day, and he did not understand me at all."
The son's illness is like a mirror that exposes the unbearable and irresponsible side of their marriage and the husband's inability to take responsibility.
Yan Ying was too tired.
Therefore, this husband who will only find stubble and drag his legs, she does not want it.
As for the TV series, the fuse of Fang Yinuo's divorce from Xiao Lu was Xiao Lu's derailment, and deeperly, it was because of a series of changes caused by the birth of the child.
The birth of the child tore open the illusion of marriage that Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu had ignored for a long time.
Fang Yinuo was born in a family with relatively good family and knowledge, and the upbringing of her parents also made her always strong and dominant in her marriage with Xiao Lu.
Xiao Lu is from a single-parent family, his mother has no culture, not much ability, he has no backing, and everything can only rely on himself.
Although the family conditions of the two are not equal, it is fortunate that Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo are married because of love.
The couple's small days after marriage are still worth a taste.
The mother-in-law does not interfere, and the mother-in-law also rarely asks about their daily life because the giant baby uncle rarely asks about their daily life, and there is no intervention of the elderly on both sides, as if the life can also go on with the united beauty.
But the birth of a child upsets the balance between these three families.
The appearance of the mother-in-law, the day and night of the child' noisy, and the physical and mental exhaustion of the milk baby all made Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu's life like walking on thin ice, and no matter how careful they were, they could not withstand the friction of several people living together with their own thoughts.
Going home became something that Xiao Lu was extremely afraid of.
From the moment he subconsciously began to escape, it meant that their marriage had entered the countdown.
03, the protagonists divorced and remarried
That's the biggest difference in the whole story.
After the protagonists divorced, they remarried.
This makes the focus of the whole story change dramatically.
The focus of the true story is the child's illness;
The focus of "Dear Child" is the discussion and choice of 4 men and women on family ethics and human nature.
The couple in the true story divorced and did not remarry.
The couple each kept their own "mission" to live: Qin Deqiang took the healthy young son, and Yan Ying took the elder son who was seriously ill to seek medical treatment.
The matter of remarriage was never in Yan Ying's plan, and perhaps not in Qin Deqiang's plan.
Even if the follow-up is for the sake of the son's illness, the previous couple has another child without remarriage, which is only a reasonable choice in reality.
The adaptable "Dear Child" is different.
In "Dear Child", there are many more people.
Especially Hehe, she has one more stepmother, one more stepfather, and even many more relatives.
At that time, she forcefully announced at the divorce banquet that she would change her surname to Hehe and would not let Xiao Lu see the child again, which showed that she would not admit to Hehe in her life that she had deprived Hehe of her father's love, let alone admit that she divorced Xiao Lu and that she was also at fault.
Pushing the responsibility for divorce to Xiao Lu's cheating, she will always stand on the moral high ground.
Even if Hehe, who grew up, knew about Xiao Lu's existence, she could also express generously: You have lost your father's love, and it is not me that is wrong.
If it weren't for Hehe's illness, she might not have reconciled with Xiao Lu in her life.
Therefore, when Hehe needed a father, she would rather marry Xie Tianhua, whom she did not love, than accept what Xiao Lu sent to her children, let alone tell Hehe that she had her own father.
Xiao Lu's relationship with Hehe, except for the weak blood connection, had long been nothing left.
After so many years, remarrying each other is completely human nature.
But the problem lies in the "common sense of man".
Who would have thought that not long after these two couples remarried, Hehe was terminally ill?
Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu were not just themselves.
Fang Yinuo has Xie Tianhua and the Xie family; Xiao Lu has Dong Fan and has the Dong family.
Such a former couple, for the sake of the dispensable probability of saving people, have another child, there are too many things involved here and too complicated.
It's easy to have a baby, but what about the other half?
Where will the newborn child go?
As Dong Fan said: Who can accept sending her husband to the bed of his ex-wife?
In the same way, how wide does Xie Tianhua have to be able to send his wife to her ex-husband's arms?
What's more, this is not a private "wearing a green hat", but a fruitless tearing this matter apart in front of all people.
Even if he is patient for a while in order to save Hehe, the source of the newborn is always a minefield, and everyone will be reminded all the time that the child is the product of his/her parents betraying their parents in the name of saving people
Once this matter begins, it will be an unhealable crack in these two marriages, and Xie Tianhua and Dong Fan will live in this shadow forever, not only the one who was sacrificed, but even his own family, and he was also laughed at.
04, the identity is different, the situation after divorce is hugely different
This point looks very similar to the third point mentioned above, but it is different.
The circumstances after the divorce are different, which allows us to indirectly perceive the real story under the contrast, Yan Ying's sorrow is far deeper than Fang Yinuo.
Fang Yinuo is a high school teacher, and in realistic terms, it is an iron rice bowl.
Whether it is treatment, time adaptability, or stability, it is better than ordinary people do not know how many times.
Xiao Lu is a white-collar worker in the company, and his annual income is not bad.
After the divorce, the former worked well in the teaching position, and Xiao Lu also mixed up in the company.
What about the couple in the prototype, they don't have a stable job.
At the beginning, there was also a job, but when the prototype's father, Qin Deqiang, lost his eyesight, he was unemployed, and to put it badly, he himself became a burden.
As for Yan Ying, she carried a little money in her arms and took her child north to seek medical treatment, and her financial resources also became the biggest problem.
Just from the perspective of economic pressure, Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu are already much better than them.
Look at the situation after the divorce.
Fang Yinuo is an only child, after the divorce with the child back to the mother's home, those years, the support of the mother's family, Fang Yinuo in the child-rearing expenditure is not much, the deposit is definitely there.
Xie Tianhua opened his own shop, with a house and a car.
Fang Yinuo went from marrying Xie Tianhua to Hehe falling ill, in just a year or so, but there were countless more people who paid for Hehe.
First of all, Xie Tianhua sold a house for Hehe for medical treatment, presumably the deposit was also spent on her.
Then the Xie family's parents took out their pension savings to renew the life of this halfway granddaughter.
At the same time, Fang Yinuo always wanted to think of Hehe and his father, Xiao Lu.
Paying for and contributing is what Xiao Lu should do, which is also fang Yinuo's mother's bold and bold proposal, as for Xiao Lu's ban on seeing Hehe as early as a few years ago, they have long been thrown out of the cloud of nine clouds.
Wo Wo is lucky.
Her stepfather and her family did their best for her, and her stepmother was also full of hearts to save her.
Hehe's disease is not short of money to cure, what she lacks is bone marrow matching.
Fang Yinuo's suffering is not from the source of economic pressure, but from the treatment of the child, her side, there are too many people to support and care, too many people to share her bitterness.
Especially Xie Tianhua, he almost bore all the pain and tiredness for Fang Yinuo.
But in reality?
Yan Ying chose to divorce her husband, who had domestic violence and was unable to do anything to save the children.
After the divorce, she took her children to the north, no job, lost her source of income, was in a different place, the ward could not accompany the night, she could only sleep on the street like a homeless man, eating two steamed buns a day to fill her hunger.
What is more painful is that the family foundation is hollowed out, the marriage is broken, and the younger son is successfully matched but cannot donate because of his young age.
The younger son is like a light, a life-saving light, but this light will never shine on Yan Ying's eldest son, he can't wait for his brother to grow up, this kind of suffering that looks at hope but can't be touched, who can understand?
Yan Ying's side, there was no one else.
There is no rich girlfriend to help, no dead spare tire to give her all the support, and there is no new in-laws who can save their children without considering gains and losses.
The ex-husband has become half-blind, and he is unable to protect himself, whether from the economy or from the manpower, he cannot help her.
"Can only rely on themselves, the child's father can only support himself, his eyes are not good, looking for a job is also a problem, grandparents are more than 80 years old, the family is poor, in the rural hometown guarding a house with a hundred holes, building a moldy quilt, cold and no money to buy medicine, they can only take care of themselves."
Compared with the two, Fang Yinuo in the story, her life, is much happier than Yan Ying.
05, the child's ending is different
The inertial operation of domestic dramas and the forced happy ending also fell on "Dear Child".
In the play, Fang Yinuo miscarried, Xiao Lu was relieved that he did not have to have another child with Fang Yinuo, and Hehe seemed to have waited for the matching and survived safely.
But there are too many details to suggest, maybe Hehe did not survive, and the subsequent ones are all fantasies.
But no matter what kind of ending Hehe is, she is a child surrounded by love and warmth.
Just like the basic color of this play, full of hope and expectation.
As for the protagonist of this story, Fang Yinuo, she is also lucky and happy, no matter when and where, there is always someone around her to accompany and someone to protect.
She doesn't have to be that strong.
The main thrust of this TV series adapted from "Left and Right" from the beginning is the discussion of morality and ethics, rather than the torture of the human heart and human nature.
After Hehe fell ill, every choice made by Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu, the former couple after they had remarried, was a response to the main idea.
It's something different from the real story.
In the real story, the child who was born to save his life was really born.
It was the sick child who begged Qin Deqiang: "Dad, you and mom are reconciled, and another brother or sister will come to save me, I don't want to leave this world so soon." ”
The child's wish is simple.
He wanted to live, to reconcile his parents and have another brother or sister to save himself.
On TV, the doctor told them that the newborn's cord blood had a 50% chance of saving the child, but in reality, the doctor told Yan Ying that the probability of cord blood success was only 25%.
Half the odds are smaller, waiting for an unknown hope.
In order to take care of the child, Yan Ying stayed in the hospital with a big belly, and the son who gave birth in October was not matched by the umbilical cord blood, while her eldest son was still struggling to die.
After the matching failed, the child's condition deteriorated sharply, and after 3 days of coma, he woke up and wanted to drink porridge, but when Yan Ying bought porridge and came back, the child had been taken away by the god of death.
This child tore yan Ying apart all of his life.
In that long future, she only had her second son and the younger son as her companion, and as for the father of the child, it was a mud bodhisattva crossing the river, and she could not expect anything.
epilogue
Many netizens said that the prototype is more tragic than the story.
I think that the word "miserable" to describe Yan Ying's story is not quite right, and it may be more appropriate to use "bitter".
What is miserable?
What is bitterness?
"Dear Child" is an artistic story with a prototype shell, it is not reality, not realistic enough, and it is not a fact.
When we listen to the story lightly, to imagine the mother of the archetype who "single-handedly" took the child to fight the god of death, we must not imagine what kind of bitterness she was going back and forth in hope and despair day after day.
TV movies, can't shoot this feeling.
"Dear Child", which has changed its theme, can't shoot this feeling even more.