The halfway couple, each with their own unfortunate marriage, regained their courage and reorganized the family again. Expectations are always good, but in fact they carry a sense of desolation.
We always think that men and women who have experienced a failed marriage will cherish the opportunity to re-enter the marriage even more. However, in addition to the so-called cherishing, it is more afraid of hurt, which makes both people more wary of marriage.
If both parties are single, if you drag a son and a half-daughter, then the problems derived from each other are much more difficult than the first marriage.
In the recent hit drama "Dear Child", Xie Tianhua can be said to be the leader among the second-married men, who are originally gentle and thick-hearted, because of their love for Yinuo, they are more humble and give in to themselves.
Xie Tianhua as a husband, as a stepfather, has been great. Willing to sell the house to treat the unrelated stepdaughter Hehe, and even willing to accept Yinuo and her ex-husband, in order to treat Hehe and have another child.
In real life, I believe, few men can do half of what he does. But even like Xie Tianhua, he can't be completely selfless.
Can a man really see his stepson and stepdaughter as if he were his own? By human nature, this is simply a fantasy.
And Xie Tianhua did report Yinuo and her ex-husband for cheating on the materials for applying for IVF in order to save his child.
Therefore, in Hehe's memories and monologues, his stepfather who loved him was labeled as follows: He obviously knew that he would die by doing so (reporting fraud), but he still did this, did he not love himself?
Although the follow-up did not show it, the thorn that stood between Hehe and his stepfather did not know how much warmth it had to go through to be soft.
By nature, unless their own biological parents are super unbearable, most children will always be toward their own biological parents.
Divorce really isn't that simple, it involves too many aspects. When Mr. Cao first divorced, he enjoyed the feeling of freedom. After half a year, I began to feel lonely.
The fireworks that I once felt vulgar have now become beautiful and warm, and it is worth hoping for.
So less than a year later, Mr. Cao remarried. The remarried wife, Zhou Ni, is 34 years old with a 9-year-old boy.
Time passed quickly, and in the blink of an eye, Mr. Cao had been remarried for four years. Mr. Cao thought that his relationship with his stepson had always been very cordial and harmonious, but he did not want to, and after a "May Day" it would make the false feelings between them collapse.
After four years together, although he could not truly see himself as his own, Mr. Cao could say that he was responsive to boys.
Thousands of brand-name sneakers, children want to buy them; in order to let children go to summer camps abroad, Mr. Cao is stunned to tighten the belt of his pants and put the year-end awards into it.
And Mr. Cao's time and dedication to his and his ex-wife's biological daughter are less than half of his stepson.
Mr. Cao remembers that once his daughter had a birthday, he took her to pick out gifts. Mr. Cao saw his daughter glance at Lego placed next to him, but carefully picked up a pen on the next cabinet and said to Mr. Cao that he wanted it.
Mr. Cao looked at this pen, and the unit price was less than 20 yuan. He also understood that his daughter's favorite gift was the 400-dollar Lego set, which was to buy for her daughter.
Unexpectedly, my daughter was anxious and asked Mr. Cao to put it down quickly. Looking at his daughter's flushed little face, Mr. Cao bought the pen as his daughter wished.
After that, Mr. Cao asked his daughter, and the daughter said: "Mom said that it is not easy for Dad to earn money, and told me not to spend money indiscriminately when I go out with you, I will spend more points on Dad and I will be tired of one more point." If I messed with things, Aunt Zhou would be unhappy, and then Dad would be sad. ”
Mr. Cao's ex-wife did not remarry, and one person pulled his daughter.
On the other hand, his stepson often changes his tricks to coax Mr. Cao to spend money. The compliments on his lips were so overwhelming that Mr. Cao fainted.
This time on May Day, according to the requirements of his stepson, Mr. Cao helped him change a computer. Just when Mr. Cao secretly went home to install the computer and wanted to surprise his stepson, he found the chat history of the stepson and his mother Zhou Ni.
Stepson: When will you remarry my dad? Mother: I now have a family and a marriage, where did the remarriage come from? Uncle Cao is so good to you, how can you still have such a mind?
Stepson: He is good to me, but for you, but also for the sake of letting me help him retire in the future. He didn't really think of me as his own son, he still had a daughter. Don't believe you let him give me the house and the money, do you see if he does it? My own father can give it all to me.
At that moment, Mr. Cao's eyes flashed through all the things he had spent with his stepson over the years, and in a trance, he only felt that ten thousand arrows pierced his heart.
Mr. Cao did not understand why he could not exchange his true heart for his stepson. From the age of 9 to the age of 13, for four years, I was always an outsider.
He thought it was a perfect family, but he lived a divergent life. It turns out that the halfway couple will always be thieves, and other people's babies will eventually become their own.
Mr. Cao searched for two sets of lego that girls liked on his mobile phone, and looked at the style similar to the one he did not buy for his daughter last time. After placing an order and mailing it to his ex-wife's house, I felt more comfortable at this time.
Exhaling a breath, Mr. Cao thought that it was impossible for him to remarry his ex-wife, and it was unrealistic to divorce his current wife, so the days were stuck in the middle-aged halfway up the mountain.
Life is really not easy, and for marriage, we should not give up easily, especially when both parties already have children.
Treating other people's children as one's own is sometimes just wishful thinking. Halfway husband and wife, in the pull of resources, there is always a heart between people.
When we raise other people's children, even if you do it perfectly, in the eyes of others, it is only an equivalent exchange, and there is another plan.
Because most people still tend to speculate about human nature, it is only in line with common sense that people can only take care of their children without asking for anything in return. Of course, it is natural for parents to love their children, whether divorced or not, they must raise their children well and fulfill their parental responsibilities.
For stepchildren, those who can't be sincere do not have to be forced, and it is good to face it calmly. It is not anyone's fault, but a human necessity.
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