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Author | Tomato Mom
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The finale of "Dear Child", which touched the hearts of many parents.
After several twists and turns, Hehe, who suffered from leukemia, finally succeeded in matching and grew up healthy and worry-free.
At the same time, Fang Yinuo and Xie Tianhua, as well as Yinuo's ex-husband Xiao Lu and Dong Fan, the two couples, finally let go of their former grudges and started their own happy lives.
Especially Yinuo and Tianhua, the two experienced a lot of hardships and setbacks, and finally waited until the willow was dark and bright, and they were able to walk hand in hand for the rest of their lives.
I remember that in the first few episodes, Fang Yinuo's confession to Tianhua made people tear up:
"I used to be strong, I had to be unforgiving, and I suffered a lot."
After having you, I softened, Tianhua!
I feel like someone can lean on, and I'm not afraid.
Thank you! I love you, this time it's true! ”
Fang Yinuo, who was once arrogant and indifferent, finally removed his hard armor, no longer pretended to be strong, and was no longer full of anger.
Instead, she chose to reconcile with herself and became a soft woman.
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I have always disliked Fang Yinuo, thinking that she is bitter and mean, loses her temper at every turn, and lives like a shrew;
But it wasn't until she married Xie Tianhua that I found out that I blamed her, and it turned out that she could also be such a gentle and peaceful mother.
Yes, compared to these 2 marriages of Fang Yinuo, you will find that -
Many times, whether a mother's temper is good or not, in fact, it can be seen from her marriage.
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Many people's first impression of Fang Yinuo is that he is grumpy, often hysterical, and the negative energy is bursting.
Once, Xiao Lu wanted to buy her a crucian carp to supplement her body, but Bought it wrong.
As a result, Fang Yinuo came up with a accusation of splitting his head and covering his face:
"What time is it?" What's wrong with this?
Isn't this crucian carp, crucian carp milk, catfish milk?
Why don't you understand that you have to rush to get it? ”
The angry husband can't help but accuse: How do you act like a shrew now?
Fang Yinuo took Hehe to the hospital, and after seeing the patient, Xiao Lu, who was waiting on the side of the road, quickly opened the car door for the two people.
As a result, Fang Yinuo was angry again, and asked loudly: Can I sit in the front with my child in my arms?
The emotions that spew out at every turn are really suffocating.
But when you delve into her experiences after giving birth, you will empathize with her despair.
Fang Yinuo had just returned home after giving birth, and the family was so chaotic that there was no place to get down;
She was depressed and anxious after childbirth, but Xiao Lu said that she was sensitive and suspicious;
Yinuo had a sore throat late at night and wanted to drink water, but he didn't dare to move because of the wound, but he cried for half a day, and even the sister-in-law next door woke up, and Xiao Lu was still as stable as Mount Tai.
Yinuo and his mother-in-law are full of contradictions, and Xiao Lu only knows and avoids mud and never solves the problem.
Once Xiao Lu came home from work, the cars drove downstairs.
As a result, as soon as he heard the cries of children at home, he quickly lied that he would work overtime to escape.
Not to mention that Hehe once had a fever of 39 degrees at night, Yinuo was anxious, and quickly called her husband, but after countless times, how did he not answer...
Speaking of which, he was never there when she needed him the most.
When a mother has to work hard during the day to make money, and at night she has to break her heart for her children, and her husband not only can't count on it, but also adds chaos from time to time, how can this mother be emotionally stable and maintain a good face every day?
Thus, in her disappointment and helplessness again and again, their marriage inevitably came to an end.
After marrying Xie Tianhua, everything changed, she became happy with the naked eye, no longer aggressive, and her temper became harmonious and stable.
Because Xie Tianhua understood her hardships and single-mindedly cared for her and took care of her.
He He had leukemia, and he accompanied Yi Nuo without complaint, comforted her, and survived with her; at the same time, he personally took care of He He as if he were his own daughter.
I remember there was a scene in the play:
Hehe vomited in his stomach due to chemotherapy, and Xie Tianhua naturally reached out to take Hehe's vomit on the side, without any disgust.
This sense of responsibility and love may not even be able to do with his biological father.
When he learned that Hehe was going to shave his hair for treatment, he didn't say a word and shaved his head with Hehe.
Knowing that the little girl loves beauty, he also intimately made a hat for her and embroidered a cute braid.
I have to say that Fang Yinuo's second marriage really married a good man and also found a good father for his daughter.
No woman likes to be ugly, and no woman doesn't want to be a good mother who is gentle and kind.
Many times, the reason why mothers can't move to "explode" is only because there is no good father like Xie Tianhua who is reliable and has achievements.
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The other day, I saw a "mom prank husband" news.
Ms. Rong's family from Shandong is isolated at home, and every day Ms. Rong is responsible for playing with her son, while her husband lies on the sofa every day to watch TV, lying down for 4 or 5 hours.
Once, she accompanied her son for half a day, and she was really tired, so she thought of letting her husband get up and accompany her son.
But after calling out to her husband several times, he was reluctant to get up, except to eat and go to the toilet, he lay on the sofa and slept.
Ms. Rong sewed her husband on the sofa in a huff, and together with her son, she painted her father's nails with nails.
She said that she was very decompressed when she sewed, and after sewing, her qi also disappeared.
Many netizens deeply feel the same way:
The family has the same husband, every day in addition to eating is sleeping, do not push can not move, push also do not move, I really do not know what use to him!
No mother will be angry for no reason, and most of the anger in the mother's body is lit by the father's own hand.
Remember watching a surveillance video:
A mom scrambles in the kitchen, and in the living room Dad is playing games intently.
Suddenly, the child in the bedroom cried loudly, and the mother was busy stir-frying, calling for the father to hurry up and take a look.
But Dad said yes several times, but his ass never moved.
So, the mother came over angrily and smashed Dad's keyboard directly.
Maybe some people will think that this mother's temper is too big, such a little thing?
But if there is any sudden temper, it is just the grievances and heartache that have been accumulated for too long.
Why does the mother have to rotate every day, go home to do housework, take the child, and the father can rest and enjoy without lifting his ass?
He also asked his mother to endure her emotions and not complain or get angry, which was simply a saint.
There is a mother in the community, who is very grumpy, and I can often hear her yelling at her children from several houses.
When she was mentioned, the neighbors had some opinions.
Until one day after dinner, I met her while "walking the baby" in the community, two children playing in the playground, and we sat outside the venue chatting.
Seeing that her face was full of sorrow and her mental state was not very good, I couldn't help but ask two more questions.
She shook her head, sighed and said that it was annoying to take the child, plus all kinds of other chores, and she was really tired and broken every day.
Sometimes, the child makes a mistake, and she also wants to control her emotions, but she always can't help but be angry with the child.
According to her, she works during the day every day, picks up her children from school at night, and then goes to the kitchen to cook when she comes home.
When the child finishes eating, she must first help the child to write homework, and when the child is finished, after settling the child to sleep, she will wash the family's clothes.
I couldn't help but interject, what about your husband?
She shook her head: Don't mention him, he' either he was busy socializing all day and didn't come home until midnight, or he was noisy and tired from work, lying on the couch playing with his phone.
Sometimes she loses her temper and nags twice, and her husband is still annoyed, hiding in the bathroom and staying for a long time.
After listening to her story, I suddenly understood her deeply.
You know, a woman, a mother, does not become hateful and sour overnight.
It is the countless times of pain that no one shares, the anxiety that no one understands, and the loneliness that no one expects, that little woman who once had a gentle eyebrow and a smile is forced to become a hysterical shrew about life.
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A dad consults with a counselor:
I have been married for 5 years, my son is 4 years old, I have sweet feelings before marriage, my wife is gentle and speaks softly;
But since the birth of the child, the wife resigned to focus on the child completely, last year, after the wife returned to the workplace, she became more and more indifferent, her temper became more and more grumpy, and she could argue with me.
I wonder if there is any way to change her?
The counselor pondered for a long time and asked him 3 questions:
1. Have you shared housework with your wife or cared for the children?
Dad bowed his head in embarrassment: she did most of it, after all, she was more experienced and left work earlier. But at night when she takes a shower I will be in charge of watching the children...
2. Did you pay attention to the pressure on your wife in time and give comfort?
Dad was stunned, saying that she could have any pressure, work easily during the day, don't you cook at night, take the children...
3. When you see that your wife is out of control, do you give her any support?
The dad opened his mouth and chose silence.
Finally, the counselor unceremoniously concluded:
"I'm sorry, it's not her who should change, it's yourself."
When a mother finishes her work every day and drags her tired body with her child, and the man who said that she was going to be in the same boat did not pay attention, how could she be dissatisfied?
Mom's bad temper, in the final analysis, is forced out by the father who left it alone.
Before watching "The Teenager Said", I was warmed by the He Zhengying family in the show.
He Zhengying's mother is quiet, gentle and generous, and her body reveals a gentle atmosphere.
Mom's gentleness is mainly due to having a very romantic, responsible and accomplished father.
He Zhengying's father can be said to be romantic to the bone, and every time he returns from a business trip, he will carefully prepare gifts for his wife.
On the wedding anniversary, he also painstakingly spread the roses from the entrance of the community to every corner of the home, and expressed his affection to his wife: "Wife, I love you." ”
In addition, he participates in family activities and educates his children, often helping his wife clean up the housework.
Even so, He Zhengying still shouted to her father, hoping that he would share more for her mother in the future and let her mother have more time of her own.
After hearing his daughter's appeal, his father did not complain, but immediately promised: "Dad promised you that he would help his mother share more in the future." ”
At this time, the mother stood up and gently explained for her husband that in the place where the daughter could not see, in fact, the father silently paid a lot.
Dad knows how to take responsibility, mom has a good temper, and this family really let me see the happiest appearance of a family.
In fact, the mother's emotions are like the "barometer" of the family, the mother is happy and the whole family is happy, and the mother is anxious and the whole family is anxious.
A happy and emotionally stable mother is the luck of a child's life and the greatest blessing of the family.
And a father with a sense of responsibility and a better understanding of responsibility is the cornerstone of a family's happiness, which can heal his wife's body and mind and become the best example for his children.
I hope that every father can have the courage to take responsibility and accompany the child more, so that the mother can let go of anxiety and have a breathing space.
In this way, we can work together to create a truly warm, sunny and happy family.
Light up [like] + [watching], dad has responsibility, mom is good mood, is the best feng shui in a family.
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