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Jon Chan and Alan are married!
Just a few nights ago, Chen Qiaoen suddenly announced the happy news of his marriage on Weibo and posted a photo of himself and Ellen.
Other love beans are married, fans are eager to let the world know this good news, but when it comes to Chen Qiaoen, the comment area directly overturns.
More crucially, it is not others who have overturned the car, but a group of their own iron fans.
After persuading you for so long, I didn't expect you to come together with this man, which really disappointed us too much;
I don't know what you really like about this man, don't you know his ugly things?
After more than ten years of powder, even if your fate is over now, I hope you will not regret it, I wish you happiness and goodbye.
Looking at the comments of these fans, it is difficult to imagine how Chen Qiaoen would feel at that time, however, because this relationship has caused controversy, it is not the first time.
As early as the time when the two officially announced their relationship, they were unanimously opposed by fans, and many true love fans changed their black avatars to persuade Chen Qiaoen to turn back as soon as possible.
The result? Chen Qiaoen not only angered fans to be nosy, but also became more and more intimate with Allen.
To tell the truth, this relationship is quite bad: when in love, it was scolded, and when it was married, it was scolded, and looking around, there can be such treatment in the entertainment industry, except for Huo Jianhua, Chen Qiaoen.
So the question arises: What exactly did Allen do to make fans so disgusted?
And what did Chen Qiao'en really look up to him?
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After Chen Qiaoen officially announced that her love affair was dissuaded by fans, someone stood up to speak for the couple: I know that you are for her own good, but you can't allow her to fall in love.
Then an iron fan immediately hit back and said: It's not that she won't be in love, it's just that you can't be in love with this man.
Why is Alan lined up?
Because the character is not good.
In the variety show "Daughters in Love", Allen's image is: Malaysia's super rich second generation, the family is a serious company.
However, after netizens went to see the official website of his company, they found that this is basically a MLM company.
This is really a big face punch scene.
What makes fans most resistant is Allen's dishonesty.
On the show, he told Jon Chen that he did not have friends of the opposite sex at the same stage on his social software, and he would not expand his circle of friends.
It sounds very safe and self-guarding, but it was picked out by netizens that he paid attention to a large number of heterosexual female households on Instagram, and the likes are still more explicit photos.
After a series of black materials were pulled out, fans immediately did not calm down: even if they look ugly, their character is not bad, how to match Chen Qiaoen?
So there is a matter of fans taking off their powder.
Then Alan came out and explained that it was just a good friend of his own.
But this explanation, it is estimated that Chen Qiaoen believed alone, otherwise he would not have come out to anger his true love fans for him.
Sure enough, the power of love is infinite, even making people lose their minds.
So what did Jon Chan really like about him?
Face value is not her favorite type, and now she is still being pulled out of this series of ugly things can not persuade her to turn back, what is she trying to do?
At the end of the day, it's not love that's too distracting.
Fu Seoul once said: Marriage is a loss, so you must marry the person you like.
The longer the marriage, the more you lose. Marry someone you like very much, and you will suffer a loss before you can think about it.
It's like if you buy a dress, if you like it, even if it has a thread or a button, you won't mind, you will still wear it.
But what you don't like, even if it's only a little flawed, you won't accept it.
Love can overcome all dissatisfaction.
Just like 42-year-old Chen Qiaoen, doesn't she know what is true and what is false?
No, it's just that she chose to believe.
Therefore, no matter how much the fans persuade her, she will still believe in her choice.
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In addition to love, I believe in another point: Jon Chan found in Alan the emotional dependence he needed, that is, care.
And this is something she longed for but didn't get.
Chen Qiaoen is the kind of typical "stick education" underground child.
There are three children in the family, the mother's most common education is to beat and scold, and Chen Qiaoen has not been beaten.
The most impressive one was the picture of myself scoring more than 20 points, and then my mother beat herself with a tree strip tied with dead branches.
The beating only brought physical pain, which could be recovered; the psychological shadow caused by the abuse had followed Chen Qiaoen for more than twenty years.
This also caused her to feel inferior and sensitive inside.
After filming, I immediately went home and did not like to have too much communication with others;
Dare not make friends with others easily, because in the depths of her heart, she always feels that she is not worthy;
She used to leave herself at home and talk to cats.
She is called a sunflower girl, but there is always a piece of her heart that cannot find the sun.
And the mother's years of scolding education have also caused Chen Qiaoen not to dare to easily start a relationship, because people who have not been loved do not know how to love others.
But in her heart she wants someone who loves herself and loves herself.
Someone once asked her: What is the thing she most wants to do but is afraid to do?
Chen Qiaoen replied without hesitation: Marriage.
And the man who could get her to take this step was Alan.
Wu Zhihong said in "Why Home Hurts": A good marriage can help you heal your childhood and past injuries, and if the treatment is successful, not only will the mistakes of childhood be repaired, but we will truly become a person with an independent personality.
A good lover can heal all your misfortunes.
Others feel that Alan's low appearance is not worthy, but what makes Chen Qiaoen enjoy more than his appearance is the care that Ellen gives himself.
He warmed up all the misfortunes that Joan Chan had had.
I think this is one of the reasons why Jon Chan is reluctant to turn back.
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Of course, as for those who say that Alan is the name that Tuchon Jon wants to make him famous, even if this is true, it is still a very normal thing.
Because marriage is inherently about taking what you need.
If others can't look up to you, why should they marry you?
On the contrary, those who say they don't want to do it are the most terrible.
As for whether Chen Qiaoen will become the next auntie, it will take time to answer.
Marriage is an unknown journey, and no one knows what will happen in the future, let alone what can be guaranteed.
Affectionate does not necessarily lead to derailment; nor does the prodigal son necessarily not be able to turn back.
It can only be said that what you choose, you have to bear the corresponding consequences.
Finally, Bless Jon Chen and hope that she is really as she said: love has not given up on me, and love will not give up on everyone who believes in it.
Light up [Like] + [Watching], I hope you can also meet the person who can warm you.
Author: Tomato, working woman, mother of two children. Committed to women's self-growth, focusing on emotional issues and parenting. Please contact the original author for reproduction.
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